這些跡象表明你的戀情不會長久

It's not the best idea to be constantly searching for warning signs in every relationship. If you're always looking for trouble, nothing is ever going to actually work out. Still, once you've been dating long enough, it starts to get easier to notice the tiny flags that typically mean a relationship just isn't built to last. Here are the signs a relationship is probably doomed, inspired by a recent Ask Reddit thread that asked people to spill the things they see as dating death sentences.

總是尋找每一段感情中的危險跡象並不是個好想法。如果你總是找問題，那什麼都無法得到真正解決。但只要和他/她在一起的時間足夠久，你就會很容易注意到一些訊號，通常這些訊號表明這段感情不會長久。最近Ask Reddit上問了這樣一個問題--讓人們分享給戀情判死刑的一些事情--受這些事情的啓發，這些跡象表明一段戀情可能沒有好結果，

1. You're trying to change each other. People can change, but it takes time, and it doesn't work if someone is trying to force it. If you catch yourself thinking, This person would be perfect if only [insert thing here], you're probably less happy than you think you are.

1. 你們正試着改變彼此。人們可能會變，但這需要時間，如果被人強迫改變，通常是行不通的。如果你發現自己在想，如果他/她能（怎麼怎麼樣），那他/她就完美了，那在這段戀情中，你可能並沒有自己想象的那麼開心。

2. Hanging out just feels like an obligation. It's nice to have a go-to person to share meals with and be lazy with when you have no energy but need human contact. But if you're only hanging out with the person you've committed to dating out of obligation, where's the fun in that? No spark! No sizzle!

2. 感覺一起出去玩是種義務。當你想要與人一起吃飯，或是當你沒有精力但想要與人交流時，能有人陪着會讓你覺得非常溫馨。但如果你只是因爲覺得自己和他/她在約會，所以有義務陪他/她，那這樣還有何樂趣呢？沒有火花就沒有碰撞！

3. Tiny things annoy you. Especially if it's tiny things they mean to be nice but just end up annoying you anyway. Like they offer to wash the dishes, but do it all wrong, and you get mad instead of laughing off the mistake. There's something deeper happening here that has nothing to do with forks and knives, and you should take a moment to evaluate what's really bothering you.

3. 很小的事情就能惹怒你。尤其是那種本意是好的，但結果卻惹惱你的小事。比如說他們主動說要洗碗，但卻洗得不對，然後你就會發怒而不是嘲笑他們犯的錯。這種情況下存在一種更深層的問題，無關刀叉，你應該找時間想清楚真正困擾你的是什麼。

4. Every argument feels like it could end in a breakup. If you can't have a calm argument with your partner without feeling terrified they're going to dump you at the end of it, that's a problem. People argue. Couples argue. Again, there's something deeper happening here if every single disagreement feels like it could be The Big One.

4. 感覺每一次爭吵都可能導致分手。如果爭吵時你害怕另一半最終會拋棄你，因此你無法與他平心靜氣談談的話，那這就是問題所在。人們都會吵架，情侶也會吵架。但再一次，如果感覺每一次小爭吵都能導致分手，那肯定有更深層的東西值得探討。

5. Parts of their personality feel like a compromise. It's normal to compromise in a relationship - no two people are exactly alike, and even if there were someone exactly like you out there, would you even want to date them? (NO!) What's not so normal is to feel like there are parts of their personality you just have to ignore in order to keep dating them. That's not fair to either of you.

5. 他們的有些性格你不喜歡，但你妥協了。談戀愛妥協是很正常的--沒有兩個人是完全一樣的，即使有人和你完全相同，但你會願意和他/她約會嗎？（不會的！）如果你爲了和他/她約會，而忽視了他/她的某些性格，那這就不正常了。這對你們兩個都不公平。