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這些跡象表明你們的婚姻不會超過一年

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1. There is excessive conflict when planning the wedding

1. 計劃婚禮時,爭吵不斷

One warning sign of a potentially unstable marriage can appear before the wedding even happens. "Even as early as the wedding planning phase, one party might want to have an extravagant celebration and be willing to incur debt for it while the other might be content with a small dinner for family and closest friends," Kelly A. Frawley, a partner at Kasowitz Benson Torres LLP's matriMonial and family law department, told INSIDER.

婚禮發生前就有可能暴露婚姻不穩定的信號。"即使早在婚禮策劃階段,一方可能想要極爲奢華的慶典儀式,願意爲此揹負債務,而另一方可能只想和家人、摯友聚在一起,"凱莉·A.弗勞麗對INSIDER雜誌說道(卡索維茨本森託雷斯有限責任公司婚姻和家庭法部門的合夥人)。

Planning a wedding can be incredibly stressful for everyone involved, so some arguments are inevitably bound to happen during the lead-up to the event. But if the fights are intense, always about the same thing, and reveal vastly differing opinions on what the wedding should cost, it might be worth taking a step back and giving the relationship some extra consideration.

對於所有的參與者而言,婚禮策劃是一件非常緊張的事情,所以在婚禮開始前,情侶難免會發生一些矛盾。但如果你們爭吵得非常激烈,而且總是圍繞同一件事爭吵,這就表明你們對婚禮的開支有着不同的看法,所以退後一步,重新考慮這段戀情是值得的。

這些跡象表明你們的婚姻不會超過一年

2. You are getting married just for the thrill of it

2. 只是爲了一時的快感而結婚

A common reason for a quick divorce is when people get married just for the sake of having a wedding. "The excitement of 'getting married' was the reason they got married and then realize they have no similar interests or different life goals," Nancy Chemtob, founding partner at Chemtob, Moss, Forman & Beyda LLP., told INSIDER.

閃離有一個常見原因:只是爲了舉行婚禮而結婚。"結婚時的那種興奮勁兒是人們結婚的理由,但之後,他們卻發現彼此沒有相似的興趣或有着不同的人生目標,"Nancy Chemtob對INSIDER雜誌說道(Chemtob, Moss, Forman & Beyda有限責任公司的聯合創始人)。

So, before you get married, ask yourself you really know your partner and if you really want to spend the rest of your life with them. If the answer to either of those questions is anything less than a resounding "yes," it's probably best to put the brakes on the wedding.

所以,結婚前請先問問自己是否真正的瞭解另一半,是否想和他/她共度餘生。如果你對這兩個問題的答案都不確定,最好還是不要急着籌備婚禮了。

3. You rarely spend time together

3. 你們很少花時間呆在一起

One potential sign of an impending divorce? Neither partner is spending all that much time together. "One of the parties continues to go out with the 'girls' or 'boys' and excludes their new spouse, therein creating conflict and feeling of rejection," Chemtob told INSIDER.

即將離婚的潛在跡象?你們很少花時間呆在一起。"一方總是與那個男生或那個女生出去浪(新婚配偶不在其列),從而導致衝突和被拒之感,"Chemtob對INSIDER雜誌說道。

Obviously, this doesn't mean that anyone needs to stop spending time with their friends just because they've gotten married. People generally should spend some time without their partners, whether they're alone or with their friends.

顯然,這並不意味着結婚後就不應再與朋友來往了。總的來說,人們應該有一些與朋友相處或獨處的時間(不涉及另一半)。