這些跡象表明你應該甩了出軌的那個他/她

You caught them red-handed but they still won't admit it happened - or they don't tell you the whole truth.

當場抓包但他/她卻不承認--或者沒有告訴你全部的真相。

If you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that your partner has cheated on you but they refuse to admit it, or they downplay the details, this isn't a good sign.

如果你確定另一半已經出軌了，但他/她卻拒不承認或者輕描淡寫地說了細節，那這並不是一個好兆頭。

"Spouses repeatedly tell me that what made them leave the relationship wasn't the affair - it was the drip, drip, drip of the truth that slowly leaked out over a long period of time," Caroline Madden told HuffPost. "They would just get used to the facts that had been revealed, start to adjust and trust again and then boom - more information would surface."

"情侶總是對我說，他們放棄一段感情並不是因爲出軌--而是真相隨着時間的推移被慢慢揭露，"卡羅琳·曼登對《赫芬頓郵報》說道。"他們不願意面對被揭露的事實，開始慢慢適應，重新相信他/她--但是，更多的信息將浮出水面。"

The best approach is for your partner to be up-front in the very beginning. If they're willing to lie or withhold information at any point, it's not a good sign for your relationship's longevity.

最好的方法？一開始出事的時候，就讓另一半面對這件事。如果他們寧願撒謊或隱瞞信息，那對於戀情的長久度來說，這並不是一個好跡象。

Your partner refuses to apologize.

另一半拒絕道歉。

A refusal to apologize can be greater issues that need resolving. Dr. Harriet Lerner covers the psychology behind apologies in her book,"Why Won't You Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts."

拒絕道歉的問題更大，急需解決。Harriet Lerner博士在《你爲什麼不道歉？治癒背叛和日常傷害》（Why Won't You Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts）一書中解釋了道歉背後的心理學。

"Some people who hurt you will never apologize and the worse the harm, the less likely an apology will ever be forthcoming," Lerner told Forbes. "People who do serious harm stand on a small rickety platform of self-worth. They can't allow themselves to really experience the harm they've done because to do so would flip them into an identity of worthless and shame."

"有些人傷害過你之後，卻從不道歉，而且傷害越大，他/她道歉的可能性就越小，"Lerner對《福布斯》雜誌說道。"對別人造成嚴重傷害的人，他們的自我價值搖擺不定。他們不允許自己也歷經如此大的傷害，因爲這樣做毫無價值，且十分丟人。"

A person in this headspace might not be able to do the emotional work necessary to repair a broken relationship.

這樣的人不大會做感情工作，努力修復一段破裂感情的可能性不大。

Your partner said sorry once, and thinks that should be enough.

另一半說了對不起，認爲這就夠了。

It's often traumatizing to find out your partner's cheated. It merits more than one apology. But some cheaters don't see it that way. "I already said I was sorry," your partner might say, "what more do you need?"

發現另一半出軌這一事實通常都會帶來毀滅性的打擊。你要的不僅僅是道歉。但有些出軌者卻不這樣想。"我都已經說過對不起了，"你的另一半可能會這樣說，"你還想怎樣？"