這些跡象表明,你可以對現任託付終身大綱

1. YOU FEEL MOST LIKE YOURSELF WHEN YOU'RE WITH THEM

1. 和他/她在一起的時候，你最像你自己

Over the years, you've probably often heard the line, "You complete me" (thank you, "Jerry McGuire"). However, Jeffrey Sumber, psychotherapist, feels there is more to it.

多年來，你可能經常聽到人們這樣說，"你令我變得完整"（謝謝你"傑瑞·麥圭爾"）。然而，心理治療師傑瑞弗·薩博認爲還有更多。

"In spite of popular opinion and what's said in movies, a partner doesn't complete us," he told Business Insider. "Although life with them feels complete, it's more important to feel complete yourself. Meaning, you feel a sense of peace, a 'rightness' to your own life when you're interacting with them, and feel most like yourself near them."

"雖然大家都這麼認爲，電影裏也都這麼說，但伴侶並不會令我們完整，"他對Business Insider說道。"雖然和另一半生活在一起會讓你感到完整，但更重要的是自我完整。也就是說，和他/她互動的時候，你會有一種平和感，覺得自己的生活正朝着'正確的'方向邁進。和他/她在一起的時候，你就是你自己。"

2. THEY PAY ATTENTION TO THE SMALL THINGS

2. 他/她會關注一些小事

Another sign that you should marry your partner is that they not only pay attention to the big things that happen in your life, but they also celebrate the small things, too. "When your partner takes a genuine interest and authentic concern about the small things in your existence - from a troubling phone call with a family member to an irritating day at work - it's another sign," Sumber said.

可以對另一半托付終身的另一個跡象就是他/她不僅關注你生活中發生的一些重要事件，而且也會慶祝生活中的一些小事。"當另一半十分關注、關心你生活中發生的一些小事時--從和家人打電話不開心到工作遇到麻煩事--這就是另一個跡象，"薩博說道。

"The level of connection and healthy, safe attachment in a relationship can often be most evident in these seemingly minor issues, because our partner sits next to us and not above us," he said.

"這些看似微不足道的問題最能顯示你們是否心意相通，你們的戀情是否健康、安全，這是因爲另一半和我們是平等的關係，而不是高我們一等。"

3. YOU HAVE KINDNESS AND MUTUAL RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER

3. 你們會相互尊重、彼此善良

You've probably heard the phrase, "treat others how you want to be treated," and that's true when it comes to you and your partner, too. "When kindness is a shared primary value, it can mean great things for a relationship," Sumber said. "When both partners lead with just being nice and respectful to one another, there is a good chance that you have stumbled onto a gem of a person, and they might inspire you to be even more gem-like, too."

你可能聽說過這樣一句話，"將心比心"，對於你和你的另一半來說也是如此。"當你們都認爲善良是主要價值時，你們的戀情會發展很好，"薩博說道。"當雙方都對彼此友善、相互尊重對方時，你很有可能發現一個人的優點，這也會激勵你養成這種優點。"

4. YOU HAVE A HEALTHY GIVE-AND-TAKE

4. 你們懂得妥協

In addition to having good communication, being able to compromise is a key factor in maintaining a healthy relationship. "Great couples know that both partners need to give and take," Elmquist said. "This reciprocity allows for balance in a relationship over the long term."

除了良好的溝通之外，能夠妥協也是維持健康關係的關鍵因素。"幸福的情侶知道彼此都應妥協，"Elmquist說道。"從長遠角度看，這種相互性有利於感情平衡。"