這些跡象或表明你們已爭吵過頭大綱

1.) Social invites are an invitation for a fight

1.) 社交邀請變成了爭吵的理由

When you and your boyfriend get invited to your BFF's Christmas party or a mutual friend's Halloween bash, you're excited, right? You're looking forward to seeing your friends and having fun and you know that it's going to be a great night.

當你和男朋友都受邀參加閨蜜的聖誕節派對或共同朋友舉辦的聖誕節狂歡時，你們很激動，是不是？你期待着與朋友相見、度過愉快的夜晚。

Except… if you and your boyfriend are fighting too much, then social invites are basically invitations for arguments.

除非……如果你和男朋友正吵得不可開交，那這種社交邀請就會演變成爭吵的理由。

Your boyfriend might say that he doesn't like the people that you hang out with so he doesn't want to go. He might claim that he's tired from the work week when he's actually upset about something that has to do with your relationship (but he's not talking to you about it).

你的男朋友可能會說，他不喜歡你的這些'狐朋狗友'，所以不願意去。當他對你們的戀情有點失望卻又不想對你明說時，他也可能會說，工作一週已經很累了，他不想去。

On the other hand, you might not want to go to something that he's invited to, either, because you might know that you're having some problems but you're afraid to bring those issues up. If you want to know how much is too much when it comes to fighting in a relationship, the fact that you two are fighting about party or event invitations is a huge sign. This is absolutely too much arguing and shouldn't be happening.

另一方面，當他被別人邀請，你也有可能不想陪他一起去，因爲你可能知道你們之間存在問題，但卻害怕提出這些問題。如果你想知道談戀愛爭吵時哪些情況表明爭吵過頭，那爲了派對或活動邀請而爭吵就是跡象之一。這絕對是爭吵過頭的跡象，是不應該發生的。

2.) You're scared to talk to each other about anything and everything

2.) 你們害怕互相談論任何事

Couples need to be able to communicate with each other about the things that they like about each other and their relationship… and they also need to be able to come clean about the things that are becoming bigger problems.

情侶應該坦誠的交流：聊一聊爲什麼喜歡對方，爲什麼喜歡這段感情。而且，還應該對即將成爲兩人之間巨大阻礙的問題有所瞭解。

It's not sustainable to continue seeing each other when you're scared to talk to each other about anything and everything. Unfortunately, if you have a problem with your boyfriend (maybe you don't think that he's committing to you enough or you want him to get his dream job instead of complaining all the time), you need to be able to talk to him about it.

當你們害怕互相談論任何事情時，這段戀情就沒有繼續下去的必要了。不幸的是，如果你們倆存在問題（也許你認爲他給你的承諾還不夠，或者你希望他去做理想工作而非一直抱怨），那你就得和他聊聊了。

When you're afraid to bring things up because you don't think that he's going to respond well, that's a sign that you're fighting with each other too much. You really have to be honest with each other about the good and bad things that are going on.

如果你因爲怕他做出不好的反應而不願提起這些事，那這就表明你們已爭吵過頭。你們必須坦誠相待，既享受美好一面，又認清糟糕一面！