盤點處理異地戀的10大妙招(上)

A long distance relationship is awful. Almost not worth it. There, I've said it. It feels like a lifetime ago, but there was a point when my husband was merely my boyfriend, and we lasted through two years of a long distance relationship.

“異地戀是可怕的，甚至是不值得的。”這應該是很多異地戀者的心裏話。異地戀的時候，那種感覺就像是過了一輩子那麼久，但是當我的老公還是我男朋友的時候，我們曾經有一段兩年的異地戀。

During that time, we learned a few things and I want to share how we were able to make it. Long distance is never easy, but it is doable.

在那段時間裏，我們倆都成長了很多，今天，我想和大家分享一下我們是如何克服異地戀中存在的問題的。異地戀很辛苦，但並非是不可克服的。

't Do It

1.不要這樣做

Seriously. It's awful, stressful, and draining. Still sound like something you want to try anyway? Ok, then maybe it is right for you.

雖然異地戀太可怕，會讓人筋疲力盡。但不管怎麼說，很多人仍舊想試一試？

Everyone told me at the time to not do it, but it only solidified the idea in my head that our choice was the right one for us.

在我和男友異地戀的時候，我的朋友們都勸誡我放棄這段關係，但他們的話更加堅定了我的想法。

Long distance definitely isn't cut out for all couples, but there are certain people who are determined enough to work through it.

對我們倆來說，異地戀是正確的選擇。當然，異地戀並不適合所有情侶，但對於那些內心堅定想要克服困難的人來說是值得嘗試的。

Just make sure you really put thought into it.

一定要確保你真的想進行異地戀，做好足夠的心理準備。

Ready to Work Twice as Hard as You Did Before

2.需要比從前付出雙倍的努力

Relationships take work. A long distance relationship takes even more work. But don't confuse work with time. You need to work towards having a very strong, solid base to your relationship.

維持戀愛關係需要花時間花精力。維持異地戀需要更加努力。但不要混淆戀愛的時間。爲了有助於你們形成強大的，牢固的戀愛關係，你需要付出更多努力。

Be open, honest and trusting. Take the time to figure out how best to communicate with each other — and when works for both of you.

對戀人坦白誠實並且值得信任。花時間探尋出你們倆最佳的交流方式。

Work at making each other feel special, even without seeing each other.

即使你們不在一起，也要努力讓雙方都覺得自己是獨一無二的。

All the things you work on during a normal relationship will need extra effort for a long distance relationship.

在異地戀中，你需要付出的努力要比你在一段正常的戀愛關係中多得多。

Snail Mail

3.給Ta寫紙質信件

Obviously texts, calls, Skype and email can and should still be utilized. But there is something special about getting something physical in the mail.

現在的交流工具太多了，微信、電話都可以作爲交流的工具。但是，實物的信件能讓你感受到不同的東西。

I loved receiving letters — seeing his handwriting and knowing he spent the time to sit down and write something out.

我喜歡收信——看到他的筆跡就知道他有坐下來，將他的心情轉化成文字一一寫下。

They also are wonderful to keep and be able to pull out and read when you're having a lonely moment. Reading an old text just isn't the same.

並且收藏信件是一件美妙的事情，當你獨自一人的時候，你可以將它們取出，再次回味。閱讀以前的文字總是能有與衆不同的感受。