戀愛達人告訴你：異地戀好處多多
My first long-distance relationship didn’t work out, but I am sure I would do it again.I’ll admit I used to be that person who looked at long-distance couples absolutely dumbfounded.“Why do that to yourself? You barely know each other, yet you’re jumping into a pretty serious commitment?”
我第一次異地戀沒有結果，但我確定我願意再來一次異地戀。我承認我過去看到異地戀的情侶絕對會很震驚。“爲什麼要那樣對待自己？你們都不怎麼了解對方，就急於把自己認真地託付給對方？”
But to my own surprise, I found a couple of things about long-distance dating that made it worth the trouble for the beginning of any relationship.
但令我自己驚訝的是，我發現了有幾點原因使得異地戀雖然初期會遇到一些麻煩，但仍值得擁有。
Long distance forces you to answer two questions that could save you a lot of time:
想要異地戀不得不先回答兩個問題，這樣能節省很多時間：
1. Do you trust him or her?
你信任TA嗎？
2. Do you trust yourself?
你信任你自己嗎？
It’s really easy to ignore these questions when your boyfriend or girlfriend is with you all the time because the lack of space between you two doesn’t allow you to test your trust.
男女朋友總是膩在一起，真的很容易忽略掉這些問題，因爲你們之間沒有距離來測驗你們之間的信任。
For most couples, you don’t bother dealing with that question until much later on.
對大多數情侶而言，要過很久纔會遇到處理這種問題的麻煩。
But once you’re deeper into a relationship, coping with the fact your gut tells you not to trust him or her (or yourself) is much more difficult to do when you’re already so emotionally invested.
但是一旦你們關係深入了，直覺告訴你不要相信TA或你自己時，因爲投入的感情多了，所以處理起來就更困難。
When you start off your relationship with long distance, you’re forced to deal with the issue of trust from the very beginning.
當你開啓一段異地戀時，你從一開始就被迫去處理信任的問題。
You’re either going to form a strong bond of trust that will make you two feel closer than the distance puts you apart, or you’ll realize you need to end things.
你們要麼建立一種強烈的信任感，使你們感覺雖然相隔千里，但心離得很近；要麼就結束這段感情。
And, as much as the truth is an absolute blow sometimes, it’s better to find out and get out early than having the ugly truth hit you over the head down the road.
而且，有時現實絕對是一種打擊，及早發現問題，儘快抽身，要好過糟糕的現實將來給你當頭一棒。
Another advantage to a long-distance relationship is the fact you can pace yourself. We’ve all been there: You get into a new relationship, and before you know it, it’s like you’re attached at the how do you ask for space without creating a problem? You can’t, so you continue to spend all of your time together until you’re suffocating and problems arise.
異地戀另一個好處就是你可以控制好節奏。我們都是全身心投入的：你開始一段新感情，在你深入瞭解這段感情之前，你們就像被綁在一起似的。但你們如何才能擁有自己的空間，而不產生誤會呢？你們做不到，所以就繼續時刻黏在一起，直到要窒息了，問題產生了。
I don’t think couples should jump right into the inseparable stage, and long distance gives you that necessary space.
我認爲情侶不應該太早就開始形影不離，異地戀就能給你們必要的空間。
Staring at Netflix for hours on end together isn’t an option, so you’re talking on Skype or on the phone instead.
不一定非要窩在一起連續看幾個小時網飛上的視頻，用網絡電話或手機聊天也不錯。
You’re truly getting to know each other and working your way into a more serious relationship instead of blindly jumping.
你們能真正瞭解彼此，逐漸建立更認真的關係，而不是盲目投入感情中。
Long distance can give you these benefits and do your relationship a lot of good, but only under the condition that the distance is temporary.
異地戀對你和你們的感情大有好處，但條件是異地戀是暫時的。
When you know it’s temporary, and you have a plan to be together in the near future, you’ll be able to appreciate the benefits.
如果你知道異地只是暫時的，你就會爲不遠的將來你們在一起時制定一個計劃，你將受益於異地戀的益處。
