戀愛達人告訴你：如何忘記前任

1. Take Her Off That Pedestal
消除她的地位

First things: Stop acting like your ex was God’s gift to men. She wasn’t perfect. If we’re being honest, she probably wasn’t even close. Make a list of her annoying traits. Let your buddies bad-mouth her. Do whatever you have to do -- just take her off that pedestal.
第一件事情就是：別再把你的前任當做是上帝賜給你的禮物了。她並不是完美的。老實說，她甚至還差得遠呢。列一個她的缺點清單。讓你的兄弟們說她的壞話。做一些你必須做的事——把她從你的心裏抹去。

2. Get Closure
跟她絕交

Step two for getting over your ex: get closure. If you’re going to break up with her, don’t put it off. Make sure you’re both on the same page. This is a breakup, not a “break.” The two of you are moving on, which means potentially seeing other people. If you feel the need to do a relationship postmortem, do it now. You won’t be seeing her again for a while.
忘掉前任的第二步：跟她絕交。如果你想要跟她分手，那就別磨磨嘰嘰。要確保你的想法是一致的。這就是分手，而不是“暫時分開”。你們兩個人都會向前看，這就意味着你們會跟別的人在一起。如果你覺得你應該做一個戀愛檢討，現在就做。暫時別再見她了。

3. Don't Contact Her
別聯繫她

This may be the most important of our 9 tips for getting over your ex. After you’ve gotten closer, don’t contact her. Go cold turkey. Seriously. Maybe you said some crap about trying to stay friends, maybe you made some idiot vow to “always be there for each other,” but forget it. By staying in touch with old flames, you’re asking for months of on-again-off-again uncertainty.
這也許是我們這9個忘掉前任的點子中最重要的一個了。雖然曾經彼此那麼親近，但千萬別再聯繫她了。把這個壞習慣趕緊戒掉。真心的。也許你會說些繼續做朋友的廢話狡辯，也可能會發一些傻瓜似得誓言說“永遠陪在彼此身邊，”但是忘了這些東西吧。跟舊情人保持聯繫，你就是在不確定裏幾個月都這樣藕斷絲連。

So, throw out her phone number, stop texting her and unfriend her on Facebook. Imagine how freaked out you'll be the first time you see some strange dude in her profile picture, and you'll see why a clean break is essential.
所以說，刪掉她的聯繫方式，別發短信給她，臉書上也別加她爲好友了。想象一下，當你第一次看到陌生的紈絝子弟出現在她的相冊裏的時候，你會有多麼驚訝，到那時，你就知道爲什麼乾淨地分手有多麼重要了。

4. Work Out
忘記

Without a girlfriend gobbling up hours out of every day, you may be wondering what to do with yourself. Now that you’re single, we suggest hitting the gym or taking a jog. It’s a healthy way to work out all of that post-breakup frustration. Getting in shape is also a good way to boost your self-esteem. And don’t forget: The gym is a great place to meet women.
每天沒有女朋友佔用你的大把時間了，你可能會想想自己要做些什麼呢。現在你是單身了，我們建議去健身房或者去慢跑一下。這是種很健康的方式，能讓你忘懷所有關於分手之後的沮喪感。鍛鍊身體也是個很好的方式來加強你的自尊心。並且別忘了：運動場是個很棒的地方，那裏可以遇到美女哦。

't Try Getting Your Stuff Back
別再試着把你的東西拿回來

By the same token, you don’t want to try to get your stuff back. You can’t have a relationship relapse if you don’t allow yourself to see your ex. Forget about all that stuff you left at her place. Consider it gone. The $50 you’re going to have to spend to replace a few DVDs is a small price to pay to avoid an ex-girlfriend who could be either desperately needy or irrationally angry.
同樣地，你別想着要去把你的東西拿回來了。如果你不讓自己見你的前任的話，你就不能把你的東西都拿回來。忘記所有你留在她那裏的東西。想着那些都丟了。你花50塊去重新買一些DVD就當是拿來支付避免再次見到那個窮困潦倒又無理取鬧的前任的。6. Hang Out With Your Friends
跟朋友出去玩玩

One of the things many guys have to sacrifice when in a committed relationship was spending a lot of time with friends. Relationships are notorious time-bandits, as being with the person you're closest to tends to take priority over catching up with your buddies. But now that you’re single, you can reconnect with everyone you left behind. Not only will it be fun, but it will also be therapeutic.
你們談戀愛的時候犧牲的東西之一就是花時間跟兄弟們在一起。談戀愛簡直太花時間了，特別是你永遠都要把你的女朋友放在優先於兄弟的位置。但是現在你單身了，你可以再次跟所有你錯過的兄弟聯繫了。這不僅會很有趣，而且還會是個很好的治療方法。

7. Remember The Bad Times
記住那些艱難的時期

It’s pretty common for guys to idealize their significant others after a breakup. You’ll just be going about your business, and then, suddenly, you’ll remember an inside joke or a great date. Then you’ll grin, thinking about a cute personality quirk she had, and before long, you’re fantasizing about how great your life used to be.
分手之後，你們會把你們的愛人理想化的這種現象很普遍。你只要繼續做你的事情，然後，突然，你就會記起一個玩笑或者是一個重要的日子。然後你就會笑一下，想着她曾經的那種可愛，但是不久以後，你就會幻想你跟你前任曾經的生活會有多美。

out of it
振作起來

One of the most important of our tips for getting over your ex is to remember the bad times. Focus on the fights and the problems. Recollect her bad habits and the little things about the relationship that frustrated you. It’s like taking a cold shower -- you can stop yourself from mythologizing the relationship if you keep it in perspective.
別再幻想了。我們忘記前任的建議中最重要的一條就是要記住那些艱難的時候。集中在那些吵架跟出現問題的時候。回憶她的壞習慣以及那些戀愛中讓你難過的小事。這就像洗了次冷水澡——可以讓你從你幻想中的戀愛神話裏立馬清醒。

8. Exercise Your Newfound Freedoms
開發你新的自由

Relationships are about compromise. Being single should be about doing whatever the hell you want. Look, you’re free to do whatever you want (within the bounds of the law, of course). So stay out until four in the morning, hop on a plane to Vegas with your brother, or just sit on your ass and watch basketball all day. Taking pleasure in all of those things that you refrained from doing as a boyfriend can be a great way to get over your ex.
戀愛就是妥協。單身的你應該做一些你自己想做的事情。看，你現在自由了，可以做任何你想做的事情（當然，要在法律允許的範圍之內）。所以，呆到凌晨四點纔回家，跟你的兄弟們飛往維加斯，或者整天都只是坐着看場球賽。從這些事情裏面尋找快樂，能讓你剋制住去做一個男朋友的想法從而讓你忘記你的前任。

9. Hook Up With Someone Else
去開始一段新的戀情

One thing that a lot of guys do to get over exes is get someone else into the picture.
很多人會做的一件擺脫前任的事情就是跟另一個人在一起 。