該不該告訴另一半 你有過多少前任?

A mother sparked an online debate when she revealed she had refused to tell her boyfriend how many other men she had slept with.
最近，一名母親引起了一場網絡大討論，起因是她拒絕向男友坦白自己有過多少前任。

Writing on Mumsnet, the woman said she did not want to tell her new partner her 'number' because she worried it was 'pretty high'.
這名女子在Mumsnet（英國著名育兒交流社區）上發言稱，她不想告訴新對象這個“數字”，因爲她擔心這個數字“太多了”。

She asked other users for their opinions on whether it was a 'normal' topic to discuss, prompting dozens of responses on both sides of the argument.
她詢問其他用戶是否認爲討論這個問題“很正常”，結果出現了幾十個涇渭分明的答案。

One said: 'My stock answer would be "none of your business" or "I'm not answering that, it's nothing to do with you".'
一名用戶說道：“我的回答是'不關你的事兒'，或者'我不會回答的，這與你無關'。”

Another posted: 'It shouldn't be an issue and it certainly isn't something that is anyone else's business but yours, unless you choose to share.'
另一人回覆道：“這根本不應該是一個問題，這是你自己的事兒，跟別人沒半毛錢關係，除非你選擇把它分享出來。”

One posted: 'I remember talking to my husband about our "numbers" when we first got together - but we were 18 and 20, so it seemed a pretty normal thing to ask at the start of a relationship at that age.'
有人則回覆稱：“我還記得第一次和我丈夫在一起的時候，我們談論了這個'數字'--但是當時我才18歲，他20歲。所以在那個年齡段，這似乎是一件很正常的事情。”

However this did not always end well. A number shared how they had previously had their 'numbers' used against them by former partners.
但是這樣做並不總是會帶來好結果。許多人都分享稱，他們和對象坦白了自己的前任數量，但是這卻成爲了他們的把柄。

One woman wrote: 'I was asked this question by an ex, many years ago. I was 21 and he was 31. Being young and naive I told him (it was 4) and he used it as a stick to beat me with for the next year or so. Even though his "number" was much higher.'
一名女子寫道：“許多年前，我的一個前任問了我這個問題。我當時21歲，而他31歲。當時的我非常年輕幼稚，所以我就告訴了他（答案是4），但是接下來一年多左右，他一直用這件事作爲藉口對付我。儘管他的前任數量比我多多了。”