過來人分享：20多歲要養成的20個好習慣（一）

Now well into my 30s, there are several good habits I’m thankful I started in my 20s. If you’re still in your 20s, or even if you’re not, I challenge you to implement the habits below into your daily routine, one at a time, starting today. A year from now, I guarantee you’ll appreciate the results.
現在30多歲的我回過頭去看，非常慶幸自己在20多歲就開始堅持了一些好習慣。無論你是否身處20多歲，或還沒到20歲，我依然建議你把以下20條好習慣列入到你的日常生活中去。這樣一年後的你，一定能感受到巨大的變化並因此感激自己的決定。

1. Focus on the activities and people that make you happy.
把注意力放在那些能讓你快樂的活動和人上。

Sometimes we make things complicated when they are really quite simple: Find what it is that makes you happy and spend more time doing it. Find who it is that makes you smile and spend more time with them. Living your dream is really just a state of mind. It’s feeling comfortable in your own skin, and realizing that where you are at any given moment is exactly where you want to be. Thus, happiness and success in life is simply the gratifying combination liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking who you do it with.
有時候，我們自己無形中把簡單的事情複雜化了。其實很簡單的：找到那些能讓你快樂的事物，並把更多的精力放在上面；找出那些總讓你快樂的人，並跟他們度過更多時光。所謂的活出你的夢想，指的其實就是一種心理狀態，也就是每一刻你都活得自在，並充分享受當下的狀態。所以想讓生活變得幸福成功的話，你只需要愛自己、愛自己所做的事、愛那些在你周圍的人就可以啦。

2. Trust your instincts on new opportunities.
相信自己對於新機會的直覺。

Life is too short to wait. Every new day is another chance to change your life. Every great accomplishment starts with the decision to try. Trust that little voice inside your head that says, “What if…” and then GO DO IT. You would be surprised how often “what if” works. And no, you’re not obligated to win every time. You’re obligated to keep trying – to do the best you can do every day – to be better than you were yesterday.
生命太過短暫，不能浪費在等待中。每一天都是一個改變生活的新機會。每一個偉大的成功都來源於最初的嘗試。相信你內心那個小小的聲音吧，如果它在說“假如我去做…的話”，那麼直接去做。你會驚訝地發現，那些假如通常都能實現！你不需要事事爭第一，但需事事盡力，展現出那個最好的自己，那個比昨天更棒更優秀的自己。

3. Build the courage to face your fears.
勇於面對恐懼。

Everything you want is on the other side of fear. Don’t ever hesitate to give yourself a chance to be everything you are capable of being. It’s better to cross the line and suffer the consequences of a lesson learned, than to just stare at that line for the rest of your life and always wonder. And remember, courage doesn’t mean you don’t get afraid; courage means you don’t let your fear stop you.
你想要的每一件東西都在恐懼的另一面。別因爲害怕而不敢去嘗試你能成爲的角色。一件事，做過、失敗過、體會過箇中滋味，總比永遠沒做而一輩子懊悔來得更好。記住，所謂“勇氣”，並不代表沒有恐懼，而是指面對恐懼，你依然有向前的決心。

4. Focus on the resources you do have access to.
重視那些你實在擁有的東西。

It all begins and ends in your mind. Too many of us are hung up on what we don’t have, can’t have, or won’t ever have. We spend too much energy being down, when we could use that same energy – if not less of it – doing, or at least trying to do, some of the things we really want to do. So focus on the opportunities you DO have, and exploit the resources you DO have access to.
萬事皆出於心。我們中的太多人都被那些得不到東西掌控住，浪費了太多精力。而這些精力本可以運用到那些我們更應該去做的事情上的。所以，請珍惜自己真正擁有的機會，開拓那些真正屬於你的領域吧。

5. Be less busy, and more productive.
花更少的時間，做更高效的人。

Incessant busyness is often a sign of ineffectiveness and laziness. Because it’s easy to be busy – just partake in a bunch of random activities that drains all your time. Doing so justifies never having enough time to clean, cook for yourself, go out with friends, meet new people, etc. Right? Wrong. Don’t just get things done; get the right things done. Results are always more important than the time it takes to achieve them.
忙得連軸轉代表着低效和懶惰。因爲想忙起來很容易，只需要隨便參與點很佔用時間的活動就行，所以你總是沒有足夠的時間來整理家務、烹飪、聚會、和結識新朋友，對吧？其實這樣是不對的。不要總奔忙於繁瑣中，而應該先完成那些最應該完成的任務。人們只會注重結果，而不會在意爲完成它所花了多少時間。6. Make your goals a priority.
你的目標最重要。

Never put off or give up on a goal that’s important to you. Not because you still have tomorrow to start or try again, but because you may not have tomorrow at all. Life is shorter than it sometimes seems. Make today count.
永遠不要推遲和放棄對你來說很重要的目標。這不是因爲你還有明天重新來過，正相反，因爲今天很可能就是我們生命中的最後一天。有時候日子總是比自己預期的要短！所以珍惜當下，充實當下。

7. Accept your humanness.
接受你的本性。

You can stop pretending. It feels good to own up to stuff… to admit that you’re human – a work in progress – a beautiful mess. You’re fine. Having a little anxiety is fine. Being a little fearful is fine. Your secrets are fine. You’re a good person. You’re intelligent. You’re blowing things out of proportion. You’re fine just the way you are.
你無法僞裝。承認自己的本性、承認自己並非完人，一團美麗的但需要時間來梳理完善的亂麻，這樣不是也挺好嘛。所以，偶爾焦慮也沒什麼；偶爾害怕也沒什麼；有點小祕密也沒什麼。這些都不影響。你依舊是個不錯的傢伙；你很聰明；你偶爾會犯大錯。因爲你就是你。

8. Seek less approval from others.
不要過分追求他人的贊同。

Your ideas and choices don’t have to be on everyone’s ‘approved’ list. Regardless of the opinions of others, at the end of the day the only reflection staring back at you in the mirror is your own. Make sure you’re proud of who that person is. Approach others with the belief that you’re a good person, whether they respond positively or not. It’s normal to want the people around you to like you, but it becomes a self-imposed burden when too much of your behavior is explicitly designed to constantly reassure you of their approval.
你的想法和選擇不需要經過所有人同意。忽略別人的看法吧，畢竟一天結束站在鏡子前，你看到的只是你自己。做一個讓自己驕傲的你。和別人打交道時，無論他們的反饋是積極或消極，都要相信自己很不錯。希望周圍的人都喜歡自己，這樣的想法很正常。但是，若太過在意別人的看法，反而會給自己平添許多不必要的壓力。

9. Ignore society’s comparisons.
忽略世俗的攀比。

Constantly checking your life against one of society’s prewritten stories of how things ‘should’ be is a phony way of living. It’s sort of like renting your identity. Just be you. You are far more nuanced than anyone else’s narrative you try to fit yourself into, and more complex than society’s story of what ‘should’ be happening.
不停地按照別人的生活路線來衡量自己的生活，這並不是真正的生活，而是“租借”的生活。做你自己。你和那些你想盡力融入的任何人不同；你的生活應該比那些所謂“正確的生活” 來得精彩複雜得多。

10. Believe in your ability to succeed.
相信自己能夠成功。

You control the ultimate result of where you will end up, what you may become, and how successful you can be. No matter what your current circumstances are, always maintain a strong belief in your ability to succeed, and then put your beliefs to work. Do so, and in time you will amaze yourself.
未來如何，你將成爲什麼樣的人、你將能有多成功……這些因素都取決於你。無論現在身處何種環境，請始終保持必勝的信念，並把它帶進工作中去。等你做到了這一切，你會讓自己驚訝的！