過來人分享：20多歲要養成的20個好習慣（二）
過來人分享：20多歲要養成的20個好習慣（一）
11. Manage your money before it starts to manage you.
積極理財，別反被金錢束縛。
Too many people buy things they don’t need with money they don’t have to impress people they don’t know. Don’t be one of them. Bottom line: It’s easier to find long-term weAlth by needing and spending less, instead of making more. So spend less than you earn, and always go without until you have the cash in hand. Keep six months of your salary in an emergency savings account just in case you lose your job or have an emergency that prevents you from working for a prolonged period of time. And keep a few extra hundred dollars on hand for unexpected expenses, such as car and home repair.
很多人爲了討好別人，會花過多的錢去買並不需要的東西。別做這種人。心中要有底線：和“花得多賺得就多”相比，“日積月累能致富”更靠譜。所以，節儉生活，出門時能少帶錢就少帶。把6個月的薪水當做“緊急賬戶”存起來，以防突然被炒魷魚，或遭遇某事而導致你在未來幾月內無法工作賺錢。同時手頭也要有些現金儲蓄以備不時之需，比如修車、裝修房間之類的。
12. Let the wrong people go.
對錯誤的人放手。
You can try your hardest, you can do everything and say everything, but sometimes people just aren’t worth trying over anymore, and they aren’t worth worrying about. It’s important to know when to let go of someone who only brings you down. The moment someone tells you that you’re not good enough is the moment you know you’re better off than they are, and better off without them.
是的，你可以拼命努力爭取，也可以無所不用其極，但有時候並不是每個人都值得你去奮力追求的，他們不值得你如此費心。對於那種只會讓你難過失落的人，放手吧。如果有人對你說“你還不夠好”，那麼，離開他/她，因爲這恰好證明了你非常好，並且沒有了他/她的影響你會變得更優秀。
13. Appreciate your true friends, and return the favor.
對朋友心存感激，並記得回報。
A friend who understands your tears and troubles is far more valuable than a hundred friends who only show up for your smiles and joys. Because a true friend Accepts who you truly are, and also helps you become who you are capable of being. Friendships like this require more than just finding the right person, they also require you to be the right person. When someone believes in you enough to lift you up, try not to let them down. True friendship is a sweet responsibility to be nurtured, not an opportunity to be exploited.
一個能理解你苦痛的朋友，比一百個狐朋狗友來得更爲珍貴。因爲只有真正的朋友才能接受你本身的樣子，纔會會幫助你變成更好的自己。這種友誼是雙方的：你不僅需要去找到那個“對的朋友”，你也要做對方那個“對的朋友”。因此，若有人對你展現了足夠的信任，請別讓他們失望。真正的友誼是需要時常用愛心和責任澆灌的。
14. Do everything with a touch of kindness.
做任何事都要心存善意。
Whatever can be done, can be done more effectively when you add kindness. Whatever words are spoken, will always be more compelling when expressed with kindness. The kind deeds you exert in just one moment can have a positive impact that lasts a lifetime. Your days will be brighter and your years fuller when you add kindness to your purpose. Choose to be kind every day, and you’re truly choosing to live in a better world.
當一件事被加上了善意，那麼它就能完成得更好。當一句話被加上了善意，就能變得更爲動聽。有時候，一瞬間突發的善意能不經意地帶來一輩子的良好影響。生命將從此變得更爲光明，而你本人也能包含着友善去生活。請日行一善，這樣的話，你就能生活在一個更美好的世界裏。
15. Choose happiness.
選擇快樂。
If you can find joy in doing nothing, you can find it in everything. Realize that happiness and joy are not always the result of good things, oftentimes they are the cause of good things. There is nothing you need in order to be happy other than the choice to be. So let go of the worries you have for what may or may not come your way. Focus instead on the good things that you can give, create, inspire and choose to experience, right here, right now. Don’t allow the world to pull you down with its negativity. Choose to transform the world around you with your own positivity.
假如連什麼也不做都能給你帶來快樂的話，那麼任何事都可以讓你快樂。你會明白，有時候快樂不僅僅是好事的結果——它也可以是帶來好事的原因。想得到快樂，那麼自己要先學會快樂。丟掉那些無謂的煩惱吧，去關注能給你帶來收穫、創造力、美好經歷的事物。對，就從現在開始。別讓世界的陰暗面影響你，而應該讓自己的光明面去影響世界。16. Learn to cope with anger effectively.
學會有效應對憤怒。
When you’reinfuriated with someone else, take a few deep breaths, sit quietly, and think for a moment. Acknowledge the true source of your anger. Anger bleeds from the inside out. Remember that we need to fix ourselves first before we attempt to fix or influence others. Trying to change others is a common recipe for prolonging the suffering. Taking responsibility for changing yourself, and how you deal with the actions of others, is a recipe for growth, freedom, and happiness.
對別人感到憤怒時，請先深呼吸，安靜地坐下並思考一會兒。找出憤怒的真正原因，因爲憤怒是來自內心的。請記住，改變自己比嘗試改變他人更重要。一味地想改變他人只會延續自己的痛苦。不如先從反省自己開始，試着適應他人不同的行爲方式，這樣能讓自己變得更成熟、自由和快樂。
17. Accept some responsibility for the way others treat you.
別人對待你的態度，部分取決於你自己。
Yes, on occasion you will run into someone who is downright wicked, but for the most part, others will look to you for direction on how you want to be treated. They will test you to see what is acceptable, and then treat you the way you let them treat you. Remember, you can’t control them, but you can control what you tolerate.
的確，我們時不時會遇到特別不講理的人。但除此之外的絕大多數人都是經過試探你的表現後才決定如何對待你的。他們會挑戰你的底線，並用你能接受的方式來對待你。記住，我們不能控制他人，但我們可以控制自己的底線。
18. Work on your inner beauty too.
除了外在美，內在美也要重視。
Our outward acts are a manifestation of who we are on the inside. Let’s remind ourselves to love who we are from the inside out – to be pretty happy, handsomely kind, pretty smart, handsomely unique, pretty loving, handsomely lovable, pretty quirky, handsomely funny, pretty cool – and not just pretty and handsome.
有句話說的是“相由心生”。要愛那個原本的自己，由內而外，你不只有張帥氣或漂亮的皮囊，你有更多的東西，比如快樂、友善、聰慧、獨特、真摯、可愛、古靈精怪、有趣、酷！
19. Introduce a little variety into your routine.
給平淡生活一些多彩的變化。
Remember that the way you’ve always done it isn’t the only way. It’s unlikely that one of the things you’ll regret when you’re 70 is not having consumed enough beer in your 20s, or not having bought enough $6 lattes from Starbucks, or not having frequented the same night club for years. But the regret of missing out on opportunities is a real, toxic feeling. You’ve figured out drinking and going out. You’ve had enough lattes. It’s time to figure something else out. Every corner you turn or street you walk down has a new experience waiting for you. You just have to see the opportunity and be adventurous enough to run with it.
生活並不總是一成不變的。等到了70歲，你後悔的肯定不會是“20多歲沒喝夠啤酒”，或“星巴克的廉價拿鐵還沒買夠”，或“常去的那個小酒吧應該更多去去”這類。真正錯失了一個機會能讓人心如刀割，喝酒、買咖啡、出去玩……這種事你早就做得夠多了。現在是該找點新樂趣的時候了。每條街的轉角處，也許都有一個新機會、新體驗等着你。你所需要做的，是抓住機會，並勇敢地體驗它。
20. Always keep in mind that life is somewhat unpredictable.
永遠要記住：生命是不可預見的。
Some of the great moments in your life won’t necessarily be the things you do; they’ll be things that happen to you. That doesn’t mean you can’t take action to affect the outcome of your life. You have to take action, and you will. But don’t forget that on any day, you can step out the front door and your whole life can change in an instant – for better or worse. To an extent, the universe has a plan that’s always in motion. A butterfly flaps its wings and it starts to rain – it’s a scary thought, but it’s part of life’s cycle. All these little parts of the machine, constantly working – sometimes forcing you to struggle, and sometimes making sure you end up exactly in the right place at the right time.
生活中發生的一些重大事件，並不是我們根據平日所爲能預料到的。有時它們就是突然發生了。但是這並不代表我們對生活就此束手無措。你需要採取行動——是的，我知道你會這樣做。同時也請記住，一瞬間發生的事也許會徹底改變你的人生——無論越好或越壞。總的來講，宇宙是永遠在變動中的。蝴蝶輕扇翅膀，也許就會帶來一場大雨——想想真恐怖，不過，這就是生命輪迴的一部分。就像機器的每個小零件，它們會一直迫使你前進、掙扎，偶爾還會收穫恰到好處的驚喜。
