雙語勵志美文:困難沒什麼

摘錄:生活艱難時，運用這些方法保持平靜。反覆練習之後，這些都會成爲你的第二天性。

When life gets rough, sometimes it's hard not to fall apart and sink deep into an abyss of negative emotions. Have you ever wondered how some people can be so calm during the most turbulent times while others can't? Would you like to adopt some coping strategies that keep you calm during the bad phases of your life? Here are 9 things you can do to get through tough times with a level head.

當生活過得尤其不順時，很難讓自己獨善其身，不受負面思想的影響。你是否有那麼一段時間很想知道爲什麼有些人在困難時期還能保持平靜，而有些人卻做不到?在困難時期你是否有想過讓自己能平靜應對的策略?當生活變得艱難時，你可以試試以下的這9個方式。

Cry if you need to—for a while.

如果有需要就哭一會兒吧

Some people are more emotional than others. But repressing your emotions doesn't always help. If you do repress them, it's like holding a beach ball under the water. You can do it for a while, but it will eventually come back to the surface—and sometimes in an explosive manner. So have a good cry once in a while. Let the emotions out in order to help yourself think more clearly afterwards.

有些人會更容易情緒化一些。但是壓制自己的情感並不會一直都能湊效。要是你一直壓制情感，那感覺就像要把沙灘球摁在水下。你可以試一試，但是最終都會浮出水面-----有時甚至還是爆發式的出現。好好哭一小會兒吧。爲了讓自己日後能更清楚的思考，把這些情緒宣泄出來吧。

Then stop the crying and put your logical side into the driver's seat.

哭完之後，讓你的理智爲你保駕護航

Once you let your emotions out, make a decision to put your emotional side in the passenger's seat and let your logical side drive. Logic will help you stay calm and focused during chaos. If you let your emotions out with a good cry or two, you can shift mental gears and do the next step: solve the problem.

一旦將負面情緒宣泄之後，把感情放到一邊，理智的做出決定。在混亂之時，理智能讓你保持平靜，讓你集中精力。要是哭個一兩次能讓你發泄一下，能夠讓心情變好，緊接着就可以來到下一步了：解決問題。

Be solution-oriented.

以解決問題爲導向

Dwelling on the negatives won't change anything. Let's say you just lost your job. Maybe it was shock. So you've had your cry and/or the time of freaking out, and then you made the decision to put your logical hat on. Now look at the possibilities. Start applying for jobs. Think about a career change or starting your own business. Look at the actions you can take to make your situation better. Then do something.

一直傷悲不會改變任何事。比如說你剛剛丟了工作。也許很讓人吃驚。你已經哭過了/你也已經心煩意亂了，接下來你應該理智的做出一個決定了。看看有哪些可能的工作機會。開始投簡歷。想着換種工作或者開始自己創業。試試目前你能做到的，能讓你目前的境遇變得好點的事情。然後就開始吧。

Remove yourself from the situation if you can.

只要可以，讓自己走出這種境遇

Maybe you didn't lose your job—but you hate your job. Or your boss. Or your co-workers. Maybe you're in an abusive or loveless relationship. If there is any possible way for you to remove yourself from a negative situation, then do it. Staying and dwelling on the negatives won't make you happier or calmer. Sometimes you just need to get out so you can have a better life.

也許你並沒失業---但是你討厭你的工作，或者討厭你目前的老闆，或者不喜歡你的同事。也許你覺得自己被虐待了或者是覺得自己生活在一個沒有人情味兒的環境中。要是有機會能改變你目前的境遇，那就做些改變吧。一直呆在不開心的環境裏也不能讓你自己開心，也無法讓自己保持平靜。有時候，讓自己過得好一點就是需要你自己從中走出來。

Keep things in perspective.

懷着希望

Sometimes what we think is a tragedy isn't really a tragedy. It may just feel like one. As I look back on my life, some of the things that I thought were the end of the world were really just stepping stones. I like to ask myself the question, "At the end of my life, am I going to look back at this problem and feel that it was significant? Or will I just laugh at how upset I was over it?" If you can give your problems a new perspective like that, it will help you stay calm. Sure, some problems really are huge. But many of them are not—we just think they are.

有時候我們認爲的困難並不是真的困難。那只是我們的感覺。就像有時候我回顧自己的生活，有些事我認爲那已經是最困難的，但是那也只是成功路上的奠基石。我喜歡問自己這個問題，“在最後，我是否能再次回首這些問題，能感受到它的意義?或者在經歷過這些之後我還能一笑而過?”要是在遇到新問題的時候，能給自己一個新的念想，那也能幫你保持平靜。當然，有些問題真的很棘手。但是大部分都不是---只是我們把它當成了困難的問題來對待。

Remember that it won't last forever.

要記住：不會一直都那樣

One of my favorite quotes is: "The only thing constant is change." While that's an ironic statement, it's actually very true. No one stays in once place. It might feel like you're staying in the same place, but time marches on. If you take action to make a better life for yourself, then you are claiming your power and taking that first step toward being happier.

我有一句最喜歡的名言：“唯一不會變化就是變化。”雖然聽起來有點諷刺的味道，可確實是很有道理的。沒有什麼東西是一成不變的。也許你覺得你還在原地打轉，但事實上已經不是了。要是你想爲自己的美好生活做一些事情，那就用你自己的力量開始向幸福生活邁出第一步吧。

Ask for help.

尋求幫助

Unfortunately, a lot of people think that asking for help is a sign of weakness. It's not! Where has it ever been written that everyone needs to go through their problems alone? Nowhere! Having other people support you—either emotionally or by actually doing something to help—will make you feel like you have less of a burden on your shoulders.

不太好的是，很多人都認爲找人幫忙是軟弱的一種表現。事實上不是的!哪裏有寫過每個人遇到困難的時候都得獨自面對嗎?沒有!有他人的支持---不管是情感上還是真的有在幫助你---你都能感覺到肩上的擔子不那麼重了。

Realize that it could be worse.

得意識到：情況還可能會更糟

Another thing that helps me keep calm during tough times is that I always remember that there are a lot worse things that could be happening. Maybe you did lose your job, but at least you have your health and perhaps family members to help you get back on your feet. Somewhere in the world, someone has it a lot worse than you do right at this moment. I know it doesn't always feel that way, but many times, it's true.

在困難時期能幫到我們的就是要時刻記住：很多事情還可能變得更糟。也許是你丟掉工作，但是至少你還很健康，家人永遠都是你堅實的後盾。在世界的某個地方，有人遇到的問題比你的更嚴峻。我知道並不會總是這樣，但總會有這麼幾次，這也是事實。

Believe that things will get better.

相信一切總會好起來

Hope. Hope is everything. If you don't believe that things will change, then they won't. I always love to quote Henry Ford when he said, "Whether you think you can—or you think you can't—either way, you are right." If you think things will get better, then they eventually will. If you think they won't, then they won't. Your beliefs shape your experience.

懷有希望。有希望就有一切。要是你不相信每件事都會有轉機，那麼就不會有轉機。我總是愛引用亨利•福特(Henry Ford)的話,他說“不管你認爲你是否可以做到，不管是哪種，你都是對的。”要是你堅信，事情會向着好的方向發展，事情就能朝着好的方向發展。要是你認爲事情只會越來越糟，最終事情也真的會越來越糟。你的信念能塑造出你的經驗。

Staying calm when life gets rough takes practice, but it can be done. If you practice these steps on a regular basis, eventually it will become second nature to you

生活艱難時，運用這些方法保持平靜。反覆練習之後，這些都會成爲你的第二天性。