解密：區分“喜愛”與“職責”

The busyness grind often leads to intense feelings of burnout that seem almost impossible to overcome. And then, in a rare calm, you're left with an hour of free time to do whatever you want for once. And it hits you: I have NO idea what I actually want to do. I can't even begin to tell.
忙碌的重擔總是讓人筋疲力盡，且難以排解。在難得鎮定下來之後，你可能會有一個小時的空閒去做任何想做的事。可這卻難住了你：我並不知道自己真正想做什麼。

But there’s good news -- Your body already knows what you want to do from what you feel you "need" to do. Just listen.
不過有好消息！你的身體會幫你區分哪些事情是你應該做的，哪些是你認爲需要做的。你只需聽由身體。

"When you're busy, you're reactive to demands from the 'outside' world," New York University psychologist Gabriele Oettingen says. "You need to take a moment to cut through the demands and decide what you really want."
紐約大學的心理學家加布裏埃爾·厄廷根表示：“當你忙碌時，你是在對'外界'的需求做出反應。你要做的是從中抽身，靜一靜，思考什麼是你真正想要的。”

Experts have varying strategies for achieving such moments.
專家有多種策略讓你有時間來弄清楚自己的喜好。

1) Give yourself some time to do nothing, every day. Allow your mind to wander.
1） 每天給你自己一些時間啥事也不做，讓心放空。

"Most of our brain activity, and certainly all of our nervous system, operates on a subconscious level," Christine Carter, a sociologist says. "It does not speak in words. It can only talk to you in body sensations and emotions." So stop those numbing behaviors: Put down the phone, and literally stare into space. It could be while waiting in line, or it could be in the shower. Just 20 minutes of open brain time is all you need.
社會學家克里斯汀·卡特稱：“我們大多數大腦活動和整個神經系統都在一個潛意識的水平運作着。它不會用言語表達，只能通過肢體的感覺與情緒將信息傳達給你。”因此停下做令你無聊的事：放下手機，開始發呆。你可以是在排隊或洗澡時做這件事。你需要的只是這20分鐘的放空時間。

2) Let yourself feel what you feel. Notice body sensations.
2) 感受到自己的情緒，注意身體的感覺。

Notice what you're really feeling, and where those feelings physically occur. Is it a sad sensation, in your throat? A lonely ache in your stomach? Imagination is useful here, Carter says: Can you give your feelings a color or shape? Michael Leiter, a psychologist recommends recording them in a notebook as they emerge.
注意你真正感覺到了什麼以及這些感覺來自身體的哪個部位。你悲傷是因爲喉嚨不舒服麼？你會感到孤單，是因爲胃痛嗎？這個環節想象力能幫助你。卡特提到，你能給自己的感覺染上一種色彩或賦予其某種形狀麼？心理學家邁克爾·萊特建議人們在察覺自己的情感產生時，將它們記錄在筆記本中。

3) Accept what you feel.
3) 接受你的心理感受

Have a plan for when negative feelings surface, Carter says. Remember that physiologically, any emotion in your body will only last about 90 seconds.
卡特表示，我們可以制定計劃，來應對消極情緒的作怪。記住，從生理學而言，你身體中的任何一種情緒僅僅將持續90秒。

Oettingen has a routine she calls WOOPing: During an introspective moment, identify a wish for either now (a worry-free evening, for example) or the future (a career in which you feel fulfilled). Then imagine the outcome of that wish, determine which obstacles prevent you from realizing that wish, and make a plan for getting past them.
厄廷根有一項她稱爲WOOPing的日常——在沉思時，確認一個願望，要麼是爲現在（像是想要一個無憂無慮的夜晚），要麼爲將來（希望能找到一份成就感十足的工作），而後想想達成此願望的成果，並明確實現這一願望的話你會遇到何種阻礙，接下來就是制定計劃突破這些阻礙了。

Don't be afraid of BIG change. Best of all, you'll be able to understand what you really, truly love to do.
別怕大改變。（因爲）令人欣喜的是，你將能夠了解自己真正喜歡做的事是什麼啦。