十大"必勝約會"祕訣

在《傲慢與偏見》中，在最初的舞會上達西對伊麗莎白的態度傲慢，伊麗莎白也因受達西的怠慢，便對他產生了偏見。兜兜轉轉，最終纔有情人終成眷屬。古話說的好：“第一印象機會難得，失不再來”。趕緊看看男士第一次和女士“必勝約會”的10個小貼士。

1. Pay 1. 付錢問題

Pay for everything. Don't mention splitting the bill. If the lady suggests paying part of the bill, do not accept the offer. If she insists, allow her to pay what she wishes (this is not just a rule for dating). 搶着買下所有的單。絕對不要提AA這檔子事。如果女方主動提議給一部分錢，你可以完全忽略她的建議。如果她堅持要這樣做的話，那就讓她隨便給點吧。

2. Location 2. 地點問題

No movies on the first date. How can you get to know each other if you spend the majority of the time in silence? I would recommend taking your date out for dinner (no lunch dates on the first date either). Take her somewhere you feel comfortable and somewhere you can easily afford. You don't want to be nervous all through the date that you might get stuck with a crippling bill. If price is a big concern for you, you can organize your own date in a public place (like a park or even at your own home) and prepare the meal yourself. If you can't cook, takeaways are fine, but serve it on plates at the table and try to make an effort. 第一次約會絕對不要去看電影。如果約會的絕大部分時間你們都沉默着，你們怎麼增進之間的瞭解呢？我會建議你帶着她出去吃頓飯（也不要一起去吃午飯）。帶她去一個你感覺很舒服同時也不太貴的地方那是最好了。這樣你就不會因爲一直擔心那恐怖的賬單而一直惴惴不安了。如果價錢問題很嚴重的話，你可以將你們的約會安排到一個公共的地方（像一個公園，或者你家也行）同時自備食物。如果你自己不會弄飯的話，外賣也是可以的，但一定要盡力用盤子盛食物並且放在桌子上。

I would also suggest that you not go too overboard with the first date. Keep it simple and moderately priced. You can get extravagant on subsequent dates if things go well. 我還要建議你不用對第一次約會太全身心的投入了。保持簡單和適度的價格。如果一切進展順利的話，你會在接下來的約會中變得過度浪費。

3. Manners 3. 方式問題

First off, if you are going to dinner, read the Rules for Fine Dining list; try to remember at least one or two. When you pick up your date, get out of the car and hold the door open for her. Do the same when you are letting her out of the car. If you are dining out for your first date, hold the chair out for your date and help her sit. 當你去接她時，停下車後立刻下車爲她把門打開。在他下車的時候也需要這樣做。如果你在第一次約會的時候外出吃飯，一定要幫他拉椅子幫她入座。 Don't be late. 還有一點，絕對不要遲到了哦~

4. Respect 4. 尊重她

That means not to expect anything in return! A date is not payment for future pleasures, it is a way to get to know someone to gauge compatibility. This rule also means you should not try to get your date drunk, drugged, or compromised in any other way. At the end of the date you can offer a small kiss – offer nothing else and expecting nothing back. 這意味着不要期盼有任何的回報！一次約會絕對不是對未來歡樂時光的投資，而是一種更全面跟透徹瞭解一個人的方法。這也意味着你絕對不能把你的約會對象灌醉，和她一起嗑藥或着以任何方式傷害她。在約會的最後你可以嘗試一個淺淺的吻——不用提供什麼其他的東西同時也不要期盼有什麼回報。

5. Confidence 5. 自信

Be confident and take charge of the evening. This does not mean you should drag your date around by the arm; be firm with your suggestions and be confident that you will have a good date and make a good impression – remember, if you were a total loser you wouldn't be on the date in the first place. 自信一點並掌管一切的事情。這不是叫你拉着她的手臂到處走，而是要顯得對自己的建議有信心，堅信你們能享受一個非常愉快的約會而且你會給她留下一個非常好的印象。記住，如果你是一個徹底的失敗者的話，你根本就沒有機會和她同一個桌子。6. Grooming 6. 裝扮問題

Dress appropriately for your date, and you should probably let your date know where you are planning to take her in advance so she can also dress appropriately. If you are going to the beach for a seaside dinner, dress nicely (no jeans) but don't overdress. Similarly, if you are going to a fancy restaurant, wear a shirt and tie. Make sure your shoes are clean and polished if necessary. 爲你的約會合理打扮一下，你也應該提前讓她知道你們的約會是去哪，這樣她才知道應該怎麼穿衣服。如果你們要去海灘享受海邊晚餐，穿漂亮點穿少點（別穿牛仔褲）。相同的，如果你們要去一家高檔次的酒店，一定要穿T恤打領帶。記住整乾淨你的鞋，必要的時候擦一擦。 Shower. Shampoo. Shave. If you have cologne, wear a little but not too much. 洗澡，用好點的洗髮水。如果你用古龍水的話，也可以適量的噴一點。

7. Conversation 7. 談話主題

Do not focus on yourself during the evening – ask your date questions about herself (this works in all social situations). Listen to the replies too and don't just look for an opening to start discussing yourself. Do not talk about your job for more than a few minutes – while our own work is a fascinating subject for us, it is seldom fascinating for someone else. Be sure to compliment your date – but don't go overboard – you will seem desperate. 不要在整個晚上都專注於自己的問題——要問關於她的問題（這在所有的社交場景都有效）。同時要認真聽取他的會話不要只是爲討論自己開個頭。不要談論你自己的工作太長時間——可能你的工作隊我們來說非常吸引人，但是很難能吸引到其他人。慶祝恭維一下你們的約會——但也不要顯得太過頭了——那你就顯得太過飢渴。

Do not ever talk about dates you have had with other people or your ex-girlfriends. 絕對不要提起你和其他人，或者是你前女朋友的約會。

8. Timing 8. 時間問題

Don't let your date last too long. Think of it like a good meal – you should finish your plate feeling like you want just a little more. This is the best time to finish a date. This also means that you should not plan for the date to be too far from home otherwise the travel can ruin things. 不要讓你的約會持續太長時間。把約會想想成一頓晚飯——一頓好的飯是你吃完自己的之後感覺還差那麼一點的。而這也正是結束一次約會的最佳時刻。這也意味着你不能把你的約會安排在離家太遠的地方，否則的話旅途漫長會毀掉所有的事情。

9. Gifts 9. 禮物問題

It can be a very nice idea to give your date a small gift on the first date. Don't go crazy on something expensive – just a nice little token like a single rose is fine. Keep in mind where you are going and how you plan to get there so your date does not end up being lumbered with something that she has to carry around all night. Oh – and don't pick the rose from your dates garden – buy one. 給她帶去一個小禮物當然是個好主意。但是千萬別瘋着去買啥昂貴的禮品——一個小巧的指環一直玫瑰都還不錯。要綜合考慮你們是要去哪，怎樣去，別讓她在整個旅途中都需要帶着一個東西。還有還有，千萬別是在約會地旁邊的花園摘一株玫瑰，去花店買吧。

10. Conclusion 10. 結論

If you enjoyed your time with your date and would like to see her again, call her and tell her so. Don't wait too long (and definitely don't play hard to get). Be completely honest. Having said that, if you had an awful time, you should still be honest (though not brutal). There is no point in leading someone on – it will end up badly for both of you. 如果你和她在一起的時候很享受還想在見她一次，打電話告訴她吧。別等太長時間了（趁熱打鐵）。一定要老實的告訴她你有多麼想她。如果不是的話，也要誠實的告訴她，必竟沒必要騙別人——這對兩個人都不好。