生活隨筆：學會釋懷 ，積極面對人生

摘錄：如果你堅持沉湎於過去，我建議你多想想你過去的成功。回憶過去的成功是重建信心和自尊的很好方式。你所想象的也就是你會最終成爲的。因此，當你集中精力思考成功時，你也正在創造將來的成功。

Do you condemn yourself for things which you did--or failed to do--in the past? Everyone does this at some point. However, if you want to lead a successful and productive life, it is imperative that you release the past and not blame yourself for events which have already transpired and which cannot be changed.

The successful person takes this approach:

Learn from past mistakes and make adjustments in future behavior. The strategy of berating yourself for past conduct solves nothing and only serves to lower your self-esteem. You create a vicious cycle where negative experiences and negative feelings are reinforced, which leads to more negative outcomes and more negative feelings.

你是否爲你曾經做過的事，或失敗的事而對自己耿耿於懷?每個人都會在某種程度上有過這種經歷。然而，如果你想要一種成功而積極的生活，學會釋懷過去，不要爲已經發生且無法改變的過去而責備自己，這一點是非常必要的。

大凡成功的人都會採取這種作法：

從過去的錯誤中吸取經驗教訓，併爲將來的行爲作適當的調整。爲過去的行爲而責備自己的這種方式並不能解決任何問題，只能挫敗你的自尊心。你因此而製造了一個惡性循環，消積的經歷和感受並再次被強化，同時導致了更多的惡性結果和消積的情感。

If you insist on dwelling in the past, I suggest that you focus on your past successes. Visualizing and thinking about past successes is an excellent way to build confidence and self-esteem. What you think about is what you become. Therefore, when you concentrate on your successes, you help to create future successes.

如果你堅持沉湎於過去，我建議你多想想你過去的成功。回憶過去的成功是重建信心和自尊的很好方式。你所想象的也就是你會最終成爲的。因此，當你集中精力思考成功時，你也正在創造將來的成功。

When you find yourself starting to dwell on past negative experiences, immediately halt and remind yourself: "There is nothing I can do now which will change what happened. I learned a valuable lesson and will act in a more constructive manner next time."

當你發現自己開始沉湎於過去的消積經歷時，立即停止，並提醒自己：“我現在這麼做並不能改變已經發生了的過去。我從過去中收穫了寶貴的經驗，並將會以更積極地態度去面對人生。”

Regardless of what you have done--or failed to do--the only sane approach is to accept it and move forward.

不管你曾做過什麼，有過何失敗，唯一理智的方式是接受你的過去，並積極前進。