生活不只是生存：教你學會生活的30種方式（一）
"The proper function of man is to live - not to exist." -- Jack London
“人應該生活，而不僅僅是生存。”——傑克·倫敦。
Too often we go through life on autopilot, going through the motions and having each day pass like the one before it.
很多時候我們的生活就好像是開着自動擋，像是在敷衍了事，每天的生活都和前一天一模一樣。
That's fine, and comfortable, until you have gone through another year without having done anything, without having really lived life.
這樣的日子過得不錯、很舒坦，直到你發現這一年又什麼也沒做，沒有真正地享受生活。
That's fine, until you have reached old age and look back on life with regrets. That's fine, until you see your kids go off to college and realize that you missed their childhoods.
這樣的日子過得不錯，直到你變老，回首往事，滿是遺憾。這樣的日子過得挺好，直到你看着孩子們都去上大學了，你才意識到自己錯過了孩子們的童年。
It's not fine. If you want to truly live life, to really experience it, to enjoy it to the fullest, instead of barely scraping by and only living a life of existence, then you need to find ways to break free from the mold and drink from life.
這樣的日子其實過得並不好。如果你想真正地生活，真正地體驗生活，最大程度地享受生活，而不是勉強度日只爲了生存，那麼你應該想辦法打破常規。
What follows is just a list of ideas, obvious ones mostly that you could have thought of yourself, but that I hope are useful reminders. We all need reminders sometimes. If you find this useful, print it out, and start using it. Today.
下面是我的一些想法，很明顯大部分內容可能你自己就能想得到，但是我希望可以真的提醒你。我們都有需要提醒的時候。如果你覺得有用，可以打印出來，並開始做。今天就動手吧。
1. Love.
愛。
Perhaps the most important. Fall in love, if you aren't already. If you have, fall in love with your partner all over again. Abandon caution and let your heart be broken. Or love family members, friends, anyone -- it doesn't have to be romantic love. Love all of humanity, one person at a time.
也許這是最重要的。如果還沒有愛的人的話，那就去愛一個人。如果你已經有了愛人，那麼再和你的伴侶墜入一次愛河吧。別太謹慎小心，就算心碎也沒關係。或者去愛家人、朋友，去愛任何人，不一定非得是浪漫的愛情。愛所有的人，一次只愛一個。
2. Get outside.
出去走走。
Don't let yourself be shut indoors. Go out when it's raining. Walk on the beach. Hike through the woods. Swim in a freezing lake. Bask in the sun. Play sports, or walk barefoot through grass. Pay close attention to nature.
不要老讓自己呆着屋子裏。下雨天時出去走走，在海灘上散散步，徒步穿過森林，在冰冷的湖中游泳，曬曬太，進行體育活動，或赤腳在草地上走走。和大自然緊密接觸。
3. Savor food.
品嚐食物。
Don't just eat your food, but really enjoy it. Feel the texture, the bursts of flavors. Savor every bite. If you limit your intake of sweets, it will make the small treats you give yourself (berries or dark chocolate are my favorites) even more enjoyable. And when you do have them, really, really savor them. Slowly.
不要只是吃東西，而要去真正地品嚐食物。感受食物的口感和味道。仔細品嚐每一口。如果你平時限制自己吃甜食，那麼每一口（我最喜歡漿果或黑巧克力）品嚐起來會更加可口。當你吃的時候，一定要好好地慢慢地品嚐。
4. Create a morning ritual.
形成早晨的習慣。
Wake early and greet the day. Watch the sun rise. Out loud, tell yourself that you will not waste this day, which is a gift. You will be compassionate to your fellow human beings, and live every moment to its fullest. Stretch or meditate or exercise as part of your ritual. Enjoy some coffee.
早點兒起牀，迎接新一天的到來。看着太陽升起,大聲告訴自己你不會浪費這一天，因爲這是份禮物。你會對自己的同胞充滿同情慈悲之心，也會充分利用生活中的每時每刻。把伸展身體、冥想或鍛鍊身體作爲每天日常活動的一部分，記得享受美味的咖啡。
5. Take chances.
冒險。
We often live our lives too cautiously, worried about what might go wrong. Be bold, risk it all. Quit your job and go to business for yourself (plan it out first!), or go up to that girl you've liked for a long time and ask her out. What do you have to lose?
我們通常都活得過於謹慎，擔憂着怕自己哪裏會出錯。勇敢一點，冒冒險。辭去工作，爲自己打工（但先要計劃好！）或約會心儀已久的女孩。你還有什麼可失去的呢？
6. Follow excitement.
追隨你的興奮點。
Try to find the things in life that excite you, and then go after them. Make life one exciting adventure after another (with perhaps some quiet times in between).
尋找生活中能讓你興奮的事情，然後就去做吧。讓生活變成一件接一件的冒險。（不過中間應該留一些安靜的時光。）
your passion.
找到自己的激情。
Similar to the above tip, this one asks you to find your calling. Make your living by doing the thing you love to do. First, think about what you really love to do. There may be many things. Find out how you can make a living doing it. It may be difficult, but you only live once.
和上面的建議相似，這條建議是讓你去尋找自己的使命。做自己喜歡的事情來維持生計。首先，想清楚自己真正喜歡做什麼。可能有很多種。找出一種你既喜歡又能謀生的工作。這可能很難，但是畢竟你只活一次。
out of your cubicle.
走出你的格子間。
Do you sit all day in front of computer, shuffling papers and taking phone calls and chatting on the Internet? Don't waste your days like this. Break free from the cubicle environment, and do your work on a laptop, in a coffee shop, or on a boat, or in a log cabin. This may require a change of jobs, or becoming a freelancer. It's worth it.
你是不是整天都坐在電腦前，不斷處理瑣碎的文件、打電話、在網上聊天？不要把你的時光都這樣浪費掉。從格子間出來，在咖啡店裏、船上或一個小木屋裏用筆記本工作。這樣的話你可能需要更換工作或成爲自由職業者。但是這樣做是值得的。
off the TV.
關掉電視。
How many hours will we waste away in front of the boob tube? How many hours do we have to live? Do the math, then unplug the TV. Only plug it back in when you have a DVD of a movie you love. Otherwise, keep it off and find other stuff to do. Don't know what to do? Read further.
你有多少時間是浪費在電視機前？我們活着又有多長時間？計算一下，然後關上電視。只在你有一張想看的DVD時再把電視打開，其他的時間還是找點兒別的事情去做。不知道做什麼？那就繼續讀下去吧。
10. Pull away from Internet.
斷開網絡。
You're reading something on the Internet right now. And it is just more wasting away of your precious time. You cannot get these minutes back. Unplug the Internet, then get out of your office or house. Right now! And go and do something.
你現在正在網上衝浪。但是上網其實浪費了你的寶貴時光。你不可能讓時光倒流。斷掉網絡，從辦公室或屋子裏走出去。現在就做吧！出去做點兒別的事情。11. Travel.
旅行。
Sure, you want to travel some day. When you have vacation time, or when you're older. Well, what are you waiting for? Find a way to take a trip, if not this month, then sometime soon. You may need to sell your car or stop your cable bill and stop eating out to do it, but make it happen. You are too young to not see the world. If need be, find a way to make a living by freelancing, then work while you travel. Only work an hour or two a day. Don't check email but once a week. Then use the rest of the time to see the world.
當然，有一天你會去旅行的，等你有假期時，或等你年紀再大一點兒。好吧，你到底在等什麼？想辦法去旅行吧，如果這個月不行，那就過段日子吧。你可能需要賣掉你的車或停掉有線電視或不能再外出就餐了，不管怎麼樣，讓旅行成真吧。趁着年輕去看看世界。如果需要的話，可以找份自由職業者的工作，邊旅行邊工作。一天工作一到兩個小時，一週查一次電子郵件。剩下的時間用來看世界。
12. Rediscover what's important.
重新發現重要的事情。
Take an hour and make a list of everything that's important to you. Add to it everything that you want to do in life. Now cut that list down to 4-5 things. Just the most important things in your life. This is your core list. This is what matters. Focus your life on these things. Make time for them.
花一個小時，把對你來說重要的事情都列出來。把你想做的事情都列上去。然後把裏面的內容縮減到4到5項。只找出你生活中最重要的事情，這是你的核心清單。這是對你來說重要的內容。關注這些事情吧，爲這些事情留些時間。
13. Exercise.
鍛鍊身體。
Get off the couch and go for a walk. Eventually try running. Or do some push ups and crunches. Or swim or bike or row. Or go for a hike. Whatever you do, get active, and you'll love it. And life will be more alive.
離開沙發去散散步。試着跑起來。或做一些俯臥撐和仰臥起坐，或游泳、騎車、划船。還可以去遠足。無論你做什麼，活動起來，你會喜歡上運動的。你的生活也會更加地富有生機。
14. Be positive.
保持積極的態度。
Learn to recognize the negative thoughts you have. These are the self-doubts, the criticisms of others, the complaints, the reasons you can't do something. Then stop yourself when you have these thoughts, and replace them with positive thoughts. Solutions. You can do this!
學會認識到自己內心中的負面思想。像自我懷疑、對他人挑剔、抱怨、不想做事情的理由，這些都是。當你發現自己有這樣的想法時要阻止自己，用積極的思想代替。你能行的！
15. Open your heart.
敞開你的心扉。
Is your heart a closed bundle of scar tissue? Learn to open it, have it ready to receive love, to give love unconditionally. If you have a problem with this, talk to someone about it. And practice makes perfect.
你的心中是不是滿是傷痕？學着去放開，去準備接受愛、無條件地給予愛。如果你沒法這樣做，和別人聊一聊。熟能生巧。
16. Face your fears.
直面自己的恐懼。
What are you most afraid of? What is holding you back? Whatever it is, recognize it, and face it. Do what you are most afraid of. Afraid of heights? Go to the tallest building, and look down over the edge. Only by facing our fears can we be free of them.
你最害怕什麼？什麼阻止你前行？無論這是什麼，找出並面對它。做你最害怕的事情。恐高？去最高的樓頂，在樓邊上俯視。只有面對恐懼才能戰勝它。
17. Slow down.
放慢節奏。
Life moves along at such a rapid pace these days. It's not healthy, and it's not conducive to living. Practice doing everything slowly -- everything, from eating to walking to driving to working to reading. Enjoy what you do. Learn to move at a snail's pace.
現在我們的生活節奏實在太快了。既不健康，對生活也無益處。試着放慢速度去做事兒——每件事，無論是吃飯，還是走路，還是開車上班，抑或閱讀。享受你做的事情。學習把節奏放慢到像蝸牛爬那樣。
18. Volunteer.
做志願者。
Help at homeless soup kitchens. Learn compassion, and learn to help ease the suffering of others. Help the sick, those with disabilities, those who are dying.
去爲無家可歸的人士準備食物的流動廚房幫忙。學會同情，學着去幫助減輕他人的痛苦。幫助病人、殘疾人和生命垂死的人。
19. Play with children.
和孩子玩。
Children, more than anyone else, know how to live. They experience everything in the moment, fully. When they get hurt, they really cry. When they play, they really have fun. Learn from them, instead of thinking you know so much more than them. Play with them, and learn to be joyful like them.
孩子比任何的人都懂得如何去生活。他們全身心地經歷當前的事情。當他們受到傷害時，他們會真正地痛哭。當他們玩耍時，他們享受到樂趣。向他們學習，而不是覺得自己比他們知道的多。和他們玩耍，學着像他們那樣開開心心。
20. Talk to old people.
和老年人交談。
There is no one wiser, more experienced, more learned, than those who have lived through life. They can tell you amazing stories. Give you advice on making a marriage last or staying out of debt. Tell you about their regrets, so you can learn from them and avoid the same mistakes. They are the wisdom of our society -- take advantage of their existence while they're still around.
沒有人比經歷過生活大風大浪的老年人更聰明、更有經驗、更有學識。他們可以給你講神奇的故事，他們可以給你提供建議，讓你的婚姻更加長久，或讓你遠離債務。他們告訴你他們的遺憾，你可以學習從而避免犯同樣的錯誤。他們是社會的智者——趁他們還在我們身邊的時候，多去向他們學習吧。21. Learn new skills.
學習新的技巧。
Constantly improve yourself instead of standing still -- not because you're so imperfect now, but because it is gratifying and satisfying. You should accept yourself as you are, and learn to love who you are, but still try to improve -- if only because the process of improvement is life itself.
不要停滯不前，要不斷地去提高自己，不是因爲你現在不完美，而是因爲這樣做會讓你開心和滿意。你應該接受你自己，學着去愛自己，但是也要嘗試去提高自己的水平，這只是因爲生活本身就是一個不斷改善的過程。
22. Take mini-retirements.
享受“小”退休時光。
Don't leave the joy of retirement until you are too old to enjoy it. Do it now, while you're young. It makes working that much more worth it. Find ways to take a year off every few years. Save up, sell your home, your possessions, and travel. Live simply, but live without having to work. Enjoy life, then go back to work and save up enough money to do it again in a couple of years.
不要把退休的樂趣留到你老的時候，那時你已經無法享受了。現在，趁着年輕，小小退休下吧。這會讓你的工作更有價值。想辦法每隔幾年就休息一年。存點兒錢，把房子、財產賣掉，然後去旅遊。可以生活得簡單一些，但不要工作。這樣享受生活，然後回到工作中攢上足夠的錢，幾年後就再退休一次。
23. Stop playing video games.
不要再玩電子遊戲。
They might be fun, but they can take up way too much time. If you spend a lot of time playing online games, or computer solitaire, or Wii or Gameboy or whatever, consider going a week without it. Then find something else to do, outside.
電子遊戲可能挺好玩，但是會佔用你很多時間。如果你每天花大量的時間玩電子遊戲、電腦紙牌遊戲，或Wii、Gameboy或其他電子遊戲，那麼可以考慮停玩一週。找點兒別的事情去做，最好是室外活動哦。
24. Watch sunsets, daily.
每天觀看日落。
One of the most beautiful times of day. Make it a daily ritual to find a good spot to watch the sunset, perhaps having a light dinner while you do so.
日落是一天最美的時刻之一。找一個好地方，每天都去觀看日落，還可以在欣賞落日是安排一個燭光晚餐。
25. Break out from ruts.
打破常規。
Do you do things the same way every day? Change it up. Try something new. Take a different route to work. Start your day out differently. Approach work from a new angle. Look at things from new perspectives.
你是不是每天都做同樣的事情？改變一下。嘗試新的事情。上班時走不同的路線。用不同的方式開始新的一天，用新的方法去做工作，從新的角度去看事情。
26. Stop watching the news.
停止看新聞。
It's depressing and useless. If you're a news junky, this may be difficult. I haven't watch TV news or read a newspaper regularly in about two years. It hasn't hurt me a bit. Anything important, my mom tells me about.
看新聞會讓人沮喪，而且沒什麼用。如果你喜歡看新聞，這條可能很難做到。我有兩年的時間沒有定期看電視新聞或看報紙了。不過這樣也沒什麼損失。有重要的事情，我母親會告訴我的。
27. Laugh till you cry.
開心笑到流眼淚。
Laughing is one of the best ways to live. Tell jokes and laugh your head off. Watch an awesome comedy. Learn to laugh at anything. Roll on the ground laughing. You'll love it.
笑是生活的最佳方式之一。講笑話直到笑到肚子疼。看一部好看的喜劇。學着笑對一切，笑到打滾。你會愛上這種感覺的。
28. Cry.
哭。
Men, especially, tend to hold in our tears, but crying is an amazing release. Cry at sad movies. Cry at a funeral. Cry when you are hurt, or when somebody you love is hurt. It releases these emotions and allows us to cleanse ourselves.
男性尤其會忍住不哭，但是哭是一種非常好的釋放方式。看悲傷的電影時哭，在葬禮上哭，當你受到傷害時哭，或當你愛的人受到傷害時哭。哭會釋放到情感，讓我們淨化自己。
29. Try something new, every week.
每週都嘗試一些新的事物。
Ask yourself: "What new thing shall I try this week?" Then be sure to do it. You don't have to learn a new language in one week, but seek new experiences. Give it a try. You might decide you want to keep it in your life.
問問自己：“這周能嘗試一下什麼新的事情？”然後務必要做成這件事。你不必每週學習一種新的語言，但是可以尋求新的體驗。試一下吧。你也許會決定保持這種生活方式。
30. Be in the moment.
活在當下。
Instead of thinking about things you need to do, or things that have happened to you, or worrying or planning or regretting, think about what you are doing, right now. What is around you? What smells and sounds and sights and feelings are you experiencing? Learn to do this as much as possible through meditation, but also through bringing your focus back to the present as much as you can in everything you do.
不要去想你要做的事情，或去想已發生在你身上的事情，或擔心、或計劃或遺憾，而是要想想你正在做的事情。你周圍是什麼？你聞到了什麼氣味？聽到了什麼聲音？看到了什麼？感覺到了什麼？學着儘可能多想想這些事，可以通過冥想學習，也可以集中注意力關注當前在做的事情。
