父母獲得孩子尊重的7種方法

1. Discipline them:

Of course disciplining our children is a given in any home. But we need to ask ourselves if we are disciplining our children properly? Who rules the perch in your home? How often do your children tell you what THEY are going to do?

Did you know children want discipline and structure in their life? When we take the time to discipline our children, and on a consistent basis, we are actually helping them to develop their character? Correct discipline is a necessary part of the growth process and we shouldn't hold back on fulfilling our responsibilities as parents. The less we spend disciplining and counseling our children the less they will feel loved by us.
1.教導他們：

當然了，教導孩子在任何家庭中都是家常便飯了。但是，我們得問問自己，是否用對了方式來教導我們的孩子？在你家裏是誰說了算？你的孩子多久告訴你一次他們要去做什麼？
你知道孩子們在他們的一生中需要教導和約束嗎？我們花時間來教導我們的孩子，以一種始終如一的做人原則，實際上是在幫他們塑造他們的性格？正確的教導是他們成長過程中必需的一部分，我們不應該推卸作爲家長應履行的責任。我們越少的教導和關心我們的孩子，他們越覺得我們不夠愛他們。

2. Be a good example:

Children and teenagers sometimes do dangerous and foolish things, and that is because they do not understand or THINK about the consequences. Young minds do not have the wisdom to discern properly about the real dangers of drugs, sex, etc. Just hanging out with the wrong crowd of kids can lead our children down a destructive path.

The proper correction a child receives must be consciously taught starting when they are very young, and this means we need to take our role as parents More seriously. We are to be the good example for our children to follow. We wouldn't want to give our responsibility to someone else, would we? Just as God trains and corrects us to make us better people, so too, must we as parents discipline our children to give them the wisdom and common sense to know from right and wrong. We are in control of our children’s destiny. Let's show by example.
2.做一個好榜樣：

小孩子和青少年有時會做一些危險而愚蠢的事情，那是因爲他們不明白或沒有考慮到事情的後果。年幼的大腦沒有足夠的心智，去正確辨別毒品，性等的危險。僅是交錯了朋友，都能導致我們的孩子誤入歧途。
當孩子還很小的時候，我們就必須開始有意識的教導他們正確的認知，這就意味着我們作爲家長的必須更爲謹慎。我們要做孩子們學習的好榜樣。我們可不想讓別人來教導我們的孩子，不是嗎？就像上帝訓導我們，糾正我們的過錯，讓我們成爲更好的人。我們作爲父母的也一樣，必須教導我們的孩子，讓他們具有辨別是非的智慧和常識。我們掌控着我們的孩子的命運，讓我們從做一個好榜樣開始。

3. Teach them about God:

Parenting is never easy, especially when we actually put forth energy to do it. That is why God has given His guidance to help direct us along the way. God's guidance can become a father's spiritual authority.

A father should use that authority wisely. Firstly by protecting his sons, and especially daughters from outside influences. The whole purpose of parental discipline is to help children grow and learn to be honest, loving adults, is it not? One of the greatest responsibilities we have as parents is to teach our children the value of wisdom and spiritual truth. Where do you think wisdom comes from? Parents have wisdom and that wisdom can get passed on to children but in the end all wisdom and truth come from God.

[Fathers, do not exasperate your children, instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4]
3.教他們認識上帝：

做父母從來就不是一件容易的事情，尤其是當我們全身心的去養育我們的孩子的時候。那就是爲什麼上帝給出了他的主旨，一路上幫助指引着我們。 上帝的主旨可以是父親的精神權威。
父親應當明智的使用這種權威。首先要保護他的兒子，尤其是女兒免受外界的影響。父母教導孩子的最終目的，是幫助我們的孩子學會併成爲一個誠實，充滿愛心的成年人，難道不是嗎？做父母的偉大職責之一，是要我們的孩子明白智慧的價值和精神的真理。你認爲智慧從何而來？父母的智慧可以傳遞給他們的孩子，但是所有的智慧和真理都最終來至於上帝。

[你們做父親的，不要惹兒女的氣，只要照着主的教訓和警戒養育他們。----以弗所書 第六章第四節（基督教《聖經.新約》中的一卷）]

How hard can it be to show our children how much we love them? Well we have to take the time to show love rather than buy love. More often than not, our busy schedules refrain us from spending quality time with our children, so what do we do? We buy them stuff. It's great that we want our children to have things but lets not let those things take the place of our love.

Schedule a convenient time, at least once a week, to spend the whole day with your child. You may not know this but our children do enjoy hanging out with us once in a while, especially when we treat them with respect and love. We do this by showing interest in their interests even if it seems wild or frivolous to us. We ought to try and be more understanding of their needs.
4.向他們表達我們的愛：

向孩子表達我們有多麼愛他們到底有多難呢？我們必須花時間向他們表達愛，而不是買愛。往往我們繁忙的工作日程，讓我們沒有足夠的時間好好和我們的孩子待在一起，於是我們能做些什麼來彌補呢？我們給他們買東西。我們希望我們的孩子應有盡有是不錯，但是不要讓那些東起取代了我們的愛。
安排一個合適的時間，至少一週一次，花上一整天和你的孩子待在一起。你也許不知道，但是我們的孩子的確喜歡過一段時間和我們出去玩一次，尤其是我們尊重他們，關愛他們的時候。我們尊重他們關愛他們，就要表現得對他們感興趣的事物感興趣，即使這些事物在我們看來很瘋狂或很無趣。但我們應當嘗試着去更進一步的理解他們的需要。

Why are we so afraid to tell our children no? Did you know that most of the time when our children act out in dress, attitude, behavior, drugs, sex, they are actually calling out for love. That's all they want! Whose responsibility is it to give them the love they deserve? Children learn at a very young age that by using manipulative behaviors it will get us to pay more attention to them. And it works! But screaming and nagging doesn't. Ignoring them doesn’t work either. Our children wish we would tell them no. All they want is our attention.
5.對他們說不準：

我們爲什麼如此害怕對我們的孩子說不準？你是否知道大多數時候，我們的孩子穿着開始變化，態度變得蠻橫，行爲古怪異常，甚至開始吸毒，發生性行爲的時候，他們實際上是在呼喚愛。那就是他們想要的一切！誰的職責是給予他們應得的愛？孩子在很小的時候，就學會了用左右別人的行爲來引起我們的注意。那確實有效！而又哭又鬧卻是不起作用的。不理他們也是不起作用的。我們的孩子希望我們對他們說不準。他們想要的僅僅是我們對他們的關注。

[管教你的兒子，他就使你得安息，也必使你心裏喜樂。---- 箴言 第二十九章第十七節 （《聖經.舊約》中的一卷）]

[Discipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will be a delight to your soul. Proverbs 29:17]

6. Submit to one another:

Everyone in the home should submit to each other out of mutual respect for one another. It is not just the wife who needs to submit to her husband but the husband to the wife, the mother to the children, dad to the children, and children to siblings and parents.

What's going to happen in a home where everyone succumbs to each other? There would be peace, tranquility, happiness, and satisfaction. This is what God wants for the family.

[But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness. James 3:17-18]
6.彼此聽從：

家裏每個人都應出於互相尊重而彼此聽從。不僅是妻子要聽從丈夫，丈夫也要聽從妻子，母親聽從孩子，父親聽從孩子，孩子聽從兄弟姐妹和父母。
一個家裏如果大家彼此聽從會怎麼樣呢？那會是一個和睦的，安寧的，幸福的，欣慰的家。這也是上帝想要每個家庭成爲的樣子。

[唯獨從上頭來的智慧，先是清潔，後是和平，溫良柔順，滿有憐憫，多結善果，沒有偏見，沒有假冒。並且使人和平的，是用和平所栽種的義果。----雅各書 第三章第十七，十八節（《聖經.新約》中的一卷）]

7. Be their friend:

First we have to be parents and then it is perfectly ok to be friends too. We want them to trust and confide in us, don’t we? Yes, and that is why we need to know who are children are by getting involved in their life. We shouldn't ignore them, reject them, or discourage them in their endeavors. We need to put forth a little bit more effort to SHOW love to our children, and we will see that we'll get the respect we want and need.

Fathers do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. Colossians 3:21
7.成爲他們的朋友：

首先我們必須當好父母，然後才能很好的做他們的朋友。我們希望他們相信我們，向我們吐露心聲，不是嗎？是的，那就是爲什麼我們需要知道都有哪些人介入了他們的生活。我們不應該忽視了他們，對他們不夠關心，甚至在他們努力的時候打擊他們。我們需要稍微付出更多一點的努力向我們的孩子表達我們的愛，最終我們會從我們的孩子那裏得到我們想要的和需要的尊重。

[你們做父親的，不要惹兒女的氣，恐怕他們失了志氣。----歌羅西書 第三章第二十一節（《聖經.新約》中的一卷）]