首次約會時惹人生氣的跡象
I have had my fair share of bad first dates - I could probably write a full-length novel comparable to the size of Bible. But in all the first dates I've been on - almost all of which have been laughably unsuccessful - I have learned a lot. I mean, like, a lot. I've become an encyclopedia of reasons not to accept a second date with someone.
我有很多次糟糕的約會——這些約會都夠我寫一本與《聖經》一樣厚的長篇小說了。但在所有的首次約會中——幾乎所有的首次約會都是可笑的失敗——我學到了很多東西。我是說真的很多。不與某人進行第二次約會的理由？我就是這方面的百科全書。1. He says things that are degrading to women but, like, just in passing
1. 他輕描淡寫的說一些有損女性人格的話語This guy that I most recently dumped would refer to me as his "call girl." We hadn't even started having sex yet. (Spoiler alert: we never had sex. Ever.) It was like it was his creepy version of a pet name or something. When I told him I didn't like him calling me that, he told me that I should have a better sense of humor. Um, excuse me, Mr. Poop Emoji, but I have a great sense of humor, just no tolerance for behavior that foreshadows an entire relationship reminiscent of a 17th century Puritan guide to marriage.
我最近剛剛甩了的那個男生將我稱爲他的“應召女郎。”我們甚至都還沒有發生過關係呢。（劇透：我們從沒有發生過關係，從來沒有。）就好像這是他寵物名或其它東西的猥瑣版。當我和他說我不喜歡他稱我爲“應召女郎”時，他卻對我說你應該更幽默一點。額，不好意思，狗屎表情先生，我很有幽默感的好嘛，我只是容忍不了你暗示着我們的這段感情將是十七世紀清教徒指導婚姻的行爲。
2. He claims he never even liked the girl he dated for two years
2. 他有個約會兩年的妹子，但他卻說自己從來都沒有喜歡過她I was on a date with a guy who said this as if it was something he was proud of. So you just strung someone along for two years and made her think that you loved her - for what? Sex? Fun? Providing a red flag for the next girl that comes along? If a guy says this, he is 1) definitely lying, because that's just illogical and 2) not exactly a winning point for his emotional stability.
我當時就和這麼個男生約會，他對此引以爲傲。所以你只是和妹子談了兩年，讓她以爲你愛她——爲了什麼呢？性嗎？還是覺得好玩呢？對另一個要和你約會的妹子發出危險信號？如果一個男生說了這樣的話，第一點：他肯定是在撒謊，因爲這不合邏輯。第二點：這對於他的情感穩定性並不是個加分點。
3. Or talks poorly about any exes in general
3. 總的來說會說前女友壞話We all talk smack about our exes. But on the first date? Anytime someone brings up a past relationship out of context on a first date, that's usually a sign that the ex is on their mind . . . meaning he probably isn't over her. But talking badly about an ex shows that this person is not even focused on the date that they're having with you! And you're awesome! And deserve their attention!
我們都是會說前任壞話的。但在首次約會時就說？第一次約會，只要他毫無緣由的提出了之前的戀情，這通常表明他還想着前女友、還沒有忘記她。但說前女友的壞話就表示這個人根本就沒有對這次約會上心！而你是很棒的，是值得他注意的！
