常見的分手原因

1. You (or your partner) withdraw during arguments

1. 吵架吵一半

"Withdrawal is the most problematic for relationships," Keith Sanford, Ph.D., a psychology professor at Baylor University, told Science Daily. In his research, Sanford found that partners who admitted that they withdrew often during arguments reported being unhappier and more apathetic about the relationship overall.

"談戀愛吵架時，中途退出是最令人頭痛的問題，"貝勒大學的心理學教授基斯·桑福德博士對《每日科學》（Science Daily）說道。在他的研究中，桑福德發現：承認自己吵架吵一半就退出的戀人往往對這段戀情更不滿意、也更爲冷漠。

"It's a defense tactic that people use when they feel they are being attacked, and there's a direct association between withdrawal and lower satisfaction overall with the relationship," Sanford said.

"當人們覺得自己受到攻擊時，就會採用這一防禦策略，而中途退出與戀情的整體滿意度較低之間存在直接關係，"桑福德說道。

2. There are trust issues

2. 你們互相不信任

Trust is not an easy thing to build with someone (especially if you've been betrayed in the past), but you should at least have faith in the person with whom you intend to spend the rest of your life. Should you build a partnership on a foundation of mistrust, you risk being in a relationship lacking intimacy both physical and emotional, and you can almost guarantee that eventually your partner will get fed up and walk away. And if you struggle with opening up, try these Easy Ways to Be Nicer to Yourself.

對某人建立信任感並非易事（特別是當你嘗過被背叛的滋味時），但至少，你應該對你希望共度餘生的這個人保持信任。如果你們的戀情是在不信任的基礎上建立的，那這段感情就可能缺少肉體與情感上的親密，而且可以肯定的是，你的另一半終將會厭倦你、離開你。如果你正試圖敞開心扉，這些小建議或幫助你善待自己。

3. You're just not compatible

3. 你們不合拍

Sure, opposites attract. But at the end of the day, opposites are also extremely incompatible, and they can't always figure out how to make a long-lasting relationship work. Little things like messiness and movie preferences are negligible, but it's the bigger things like political views, senses of humor, and spending habits that can be the straw that breaks the camel's back. And for more things that might be ruining your romance, don't miss The 50 Worst Pet Peeves That Grind on Relationships.

當然，異性相吸嘛。但最終，完全相反會導致不合拍，他們也無法弄清楚如何才能使戀情長久。髒亂和電影偏好這些小事是可以忽略的，但政治觀點、幽默感和消費習慣等大事卻可能是壓死駱駝的最後一根稻草。其它破壞戀情的事情？千萬別錯過最磨礪戀情的50件討厭事！

4. You only think about yourself

4. 你只考慮你自己

Relationships are all about give and take-and if you take more than you give, then the balance will be thrown off and your partner will likely seek comfort in other people. In fact, this is such a well-known phenomenon that experts have even given it a name: It's called the Social Exchange Theory, and it outlines how "we are disturbed when there is not equity in an exchange or where others are rewarded more for the same costs we incurred."

戀情既要接受，也要付出--如果你接受的超過了你所付出的，那麼這種平衡就會被打破，你的另一半可能會從其他人身上尋找慰藉。事實上，大家都知道這一現象，專家甚至給它起了個名字。也就是社會交換理論，該理論概述"當交換不平等或者付出成本相同，但他人卻收穫更多時，我們就會受到干擾。"