如何教育任性的孩子?

Stubbornness is cute in a toddler but by the time the child reaches school age, unruly behavior is a problem for parents, teachers and others. The first step in correcting the problem is to admit that our own parenting methods probably Allowed our child to become unruly and by altering them, we can help our child behave appropriately.
對於一個嬰兒來說，倔強是很可愛的，但是當他達到上學年齡時，他的任性行爲就成了父母、老師和其他人一個頭痛的問題。解決問題的第一步必須承認我們的教育方法可能使孩子變得任性，所以爲了改變他們，我們可以幫助孩子行爲表現良好。

1 Set clear boundaries and stick to them. Your child needs to know the exact behavior expected of him. Child experts tell us that children actually want boundaries and that once firmly established; most children will respect the rules.
1 設定清楚的規則並遵守它們。你的孩子需要知道對他期望的確切行爲。兒童專家告訴我們孩子的確需要一些規則，一旦清楚規定了，大部分孩子就會遵守這些規則。

2 Make very few threats but carry through on those you do make. It's easy to warn a child that he'll go to bed without supper if he doesn't clean his room but when you give in and feed him, you're sending the message that you don't really mean what you say. If you aren't ready to make good on a threat, just don't make it.
2 使用一點點威脅，但對你做出的威脅要實行。如果一個孩子沒有打掃房間就不能吃晚飯去睡覺，這樣很容易就能警告孩子，但是如你妥協了，給東西他吃，就等於告訴他你不遵守你說的話。如果你沒準備成功使用一個威脅，就不要用了。

3 Spend time with your child. You don't have to plan activities for every minute of the day, just taking your child along when you run errands or allowing him to do his homework at the kitchen table while you cook creates a feeling of togetherness and may reduce unruly behavior that stems from insecurity.
3 花時間跟孩子在一起。你不必去策劃每一分鐘的活動，你出差時帶上你的孩子或者你做飯時讓他在餐桌上做作業，都可以創造出一種相聚感，還可以減少由於缺乏安全而形成的任性行爲。

(恆星英語學習網原創編譯,轉載請註明出處!)4 Set reasonable punishments that get results. All children are different and one child may respond quickly if the punishment is grounding while another might need his allowance reduced. Avoid using chores as a punishment. Children should do chores without pay as part of being in a family.
4 設定合理的懲罰可以起到效果。所有孩子都是不同的，以懲罰爲基礎，一個孩子可能很快就改正，而另一個孩子則需要減少他的零花錢才能改正。避免把做家務活當成一種懲罰。作爲家庭中的一員，孩子應該無義務做家務活。

5 Reward your child's good behavior. Positive reinforcement of carries a strong message to your child. Children who receive praise for good acts try harder to behave.
5 獎勵孩子的良好行爲。正強化作用會給孩子帶來好的影響。那些因表現良好而受到表揚的孩子會更加努力爭取更好表現。

6 Schedule your child's time to help her develop responsibility. Children who misbehave often have too much idle time on their hands. Until your child can behave appropriately by herself, reduce her free time and fill her hours with activities, sports, errands or study work.
6 安排孩子的時間幫助她培養責任感。行爲不當的孩子經常由於手頭有太多空閒的時間。直到孩子表現良好，才能減少她的空閒時間，讓她把時間花在活動、體育運動、跑跑腿或學習工作上。

7 Visit your pediatrician if you think your child's unruly behavior stems from a psychological problem. Children with Attention Deficit Disorder and other behavioral conditions may need medication or diet changes to help them function responsibly.
7 如果你覺得你孩子的任性行爲是由心理問題所致，就去看兒科醫生。患有注意力缺損症或其他行爲問題的兒童需要藥物或飲食結構的變化幫助他們治癒。

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