我不會與任何人生孩子

Too many people have children for the wrong reasons, and I won’t be one of them. A lot of new parents, when asked why they wanted to have children, start their sentences with “I want,” and while there’s nothing wrong with wanting to raise a family, I don’t want my family to be started on the fact that I wanted a child.

許多人因爲錯誤的原因生了孩子，我不會是她們中的一員。許多新的父母，當問及她們爲什麼要孩子的時候，他們開始說的第一句話就是“我想”，然而想要組建一個家庭這無可厚非，但是我不想我的家庭始於想要一個孩子這樣一個事實。

If I am to have kids of my own, I’m going to have far more reasons than that. It’s going to be because my husband and I agreed that we were at the opportune time in our life, and had everything we needed to be able to bring a child into the world and give them the life they deserve. If I can’t offer a good life for my future children, then I won’t be making a life at all.

如果我想要自己的孩子，我會有比這更多的原因。可以是因爲我的丈夫和我都認爲我們在人生中合適的時間，擁有將孩子帶來這個世界上並給他們應該有的生活的所有能力。如果我不能給我未來的孩子提供良好的生活，那麼我也不會要孩子。

If I can’t make love work with a man, what makes me think that I can raise a child? Raising a child requires a great degree of unconditional love, patience and many other qualities and attributes that, if I can’t make a relationship work, I’m not sure I possess.

如果我不能與一個男人ML的話，那麼還有什麼會讓我想要撫養一個孩子呢？撫養孩子需要大量的無條件的愛，耐心以及許多其他品質和特點，如果我不能讓感情關係良好發展，我也就不確定我是否有這些品質。

This isn’t to say that others who have children and failed relationships are doing a bad job because they aren’t, but I believe that if you can’t make a relationship work then you can successfully raise a child.

這並不是說因爲沒有能夠處理好良好的關係的其他人，有孩子且情感受挫的人的工作做得不好，但是我相信如果你不能維持良好的感情關係，你也能夠成功撫養一個孩子。

There’s so much to it that people can’t comprehend until they’re in that position, so I may not even know what I’m talking about, but the way I see it is that if raising a child is the hardest thing in the world to do properly, everything else has to be easy.

許多人只有在處於那種情況的時候纔會理解這一點，所以我或許甚至不知道自己在說什麼，但是我認爲如果撫養還是是世界上最難做好的一件事，其他事情就都很簡單了。