他她話題:7大原因深度解析爲何有些戀愛註定會失敗
Any new relationship comes with the initiAl rush and happiness of being with someone and of having found oneself a companion. Yes, a new relationship brings along with it the promise of love and joy.
任何戀愛最初總是充滿懵懂和甜蜜，生命突然出現了另一半，愛情與快樂亦隨之而來。But things might not always be as rosy as you’d have pictured them to be. Sometimes, relationships are doomed well before or soon after they take off. In some cases, the relationship might go downhill after having spent a couple of blissful years together.
但事情並不總是像你心中勾畫得那樣美好甜蜜。有時候，明明相處愉快的戀人有可能突然分手。有時候，融洽生活多年的夫婦也會勞燕分飛。Here are a few signs that point to the impending failure of your relationship.
下面是有些戀愛註定失敗的幾大原因：
1. One is smarter than the other
一方比另一方更聰明The chances of the relationship failing are higher and almost guaranteed if one partner is smarter than the other. In such cases there will be little to talk about after a point and even if you’ll do communicate, there will be this nagging voice in your head who says, ‘she/he is not smart enough to understand what I’m saying’.
如果一方遠比另一方聰明，那麼關係破裂的機率很高，幾乎毋庸置疑。在這種情況下，雙方几乎很難交流，即便試着溝通，也會抱怨不已：“她/他哪有什麼頭腦能聽懂我說的話！”2. Immaturity
不成熟This one catches up quicker than you can say ‘immature’! Things that you find ‘cute’ and ‘kiddishly sweet’ at one point, will soon begin to feel immature and stupid. The thing about puerile behaviour is that it wears the relationship out much soon and is responsible for taking the fizz out of the bond.
另外一個致命原因便是“幼稚”。一開始看起來“可愛”或“孩子氣般討人喜歡”的優點，到後來就會覺得是幼稚和愚蠢。不成熟的言行舉止更能摧毀一段關係，是戀愛失敗的元兇。3. Jealousy
嫉妒The relationship simply won’t last if either or both of you are jealous of one another. The green-eyed monster will wreck havoc on the relationship and be the reason behind its doom.
如果一方或雙方總是醋意十足，那麼戀愛也不可能長久。嫉妒也會扼殺彼此關係，造成最終的破裂。4. You want different things
心有旁騖This one is perhaps one of the most common reasons behind break-ups. Nothing can save the relationship if both the partners involved want different things from life. And given that the wants are not the same, it does make perfect sense to call off the relationship.
有很多分手都是因爲給不了對方最想要的東西。如果兩個人各自都渴望別樣的生活回報，那麼戀愛也難以維持，還不如早些理智地拜拜。5. Lack of intimacy/attraction
缺乏親密/魅力If sparks don’t fly in the bedroom then the relationship is sure to hit rock bottom sooner than later. Also, what’s the point of being in a relationship with someone you’re not attracted to?
兩個人如果朝夕相處都沒有火花，那分手只怕也是遲早的事。而且跟一個自己根本就不喜歡的人談戀愛，難道很有意思嗎？6. Too close/too detached from the parents
太依賴/孤立父母Being uncomfortably close or ruthlessly detached from parents is never a good thing. If your partner falls in either of these categories, then beware. The relationship will get affected in some way due to the troubled relationship she shares with her parents.
太依賴父母或與父母太生疏都不是好事。如果你的另一半恰好是這種人，勸你還是多留個心眼吧。他/她跟父母的尷尬關係必然會影響到你倆的關係。7. Fights
爭吵Fights are an obvious part of any/all relationships. But when the fighting gets too much, too often then there is trouble in paradise (or war zone, if you may so call it). Fighting often will cause your stress levels to go up and will certainly harm the relationship, thus signalling its end.
任何戀愛都少不了爭吵。但如果爭吵太過頻繁，說明你倆關係也亮起了紅燈（或處於“戰爭狀態”）。吵架很容易激起壓力，最後搞得兩敗俱傷以結束感情收場。
