如果想要婚姻順利,就暫且放下這3件事吧
The couples on the show Married at First Sight have a lot of work to do to make their relationships succeed. Like, say, learning each other's last names and whether or not they're actuAlly attracted to each other. As the title suggests, the participants agree to marry whomever a crew of relationship experts set them up, and at the end of six weeks of living together, they have to decide whether or not to stay together.
參加真人秀節目《首次見面就結婚》的夫妻，他們需要付出很多努力才能使關係順利。比如說，不管夫妻們是否真的被彼此吸引，他們都要了解彼此的姓氏。正如節目的名字一樣，一組情感專家會爲參與者配對，參與者同意與任一配對對象結婚，六週的共同生活結束後，他們可以決定是否要繼續走下去。One of those relationship experts, Rachel DeAlto, doesn't just advise married pairs with such extreme circumstances. In her career, she's met, coached, and even hypnotized couples to help them work through their issues.
Rachel DeAlto是情感專家之一，她不僅僅只是建議在極端情況下夫妻們該如何做。在她的職業生涯中，她遇到過、指導過甚至催眠過CP以幫助他們解決問題。1. Cleanliness
1. 乾淨整潔
"The biggest thing that I hear [in sessions] is tidiness, not having the same style of cleaning the house," DeAlto says. Yes, there are couples out there who are dedicating therapy sessions to arguing about who takes out the trash! It sounds silly, but of course, having that fight regularly is truly frustrating.
“（對話）中我聽到的最大問題就是乾淨整潔：收拾屋子的風格完全不一樣，”DeAlto說道。是的，有些夫妻會進行心理治療，爭論扔垃圾的是誰！這聽起來很蠢，但是經常這樣爭論當然會令人感到沮喪。2. Getting along with every member of each other's family
2. 與對方家庭的每一位成員都友好相處Yes, it can be painful to know that two of your favorite people on Earth, whom you love more than anything, would prefer not to hang out with each other. "This thing may seem big to you, but it doesn't play out in the relationship in the long term," DeAlto says. "It's okay if they don't get along." You don't need to force your husband and sister to be buddies-you just have to maintain your relationships with each of them, and let them be themselves.
是的，當你得知你在地球上最愛的兩個人（你對他們的愛超過了其他一切）不想要一起出去閒逛時，會很痛苦。“對你來說這是件大事，但長期來看，這在感情關係中不會一直是個問題的，”DeAlto說道。“如果他們處不來也沒關係。”你不需要強迫你的丈夫和妹妹/姐姐成爲兄弟——你只需要分別維持好自己與他們的關係、讓他們做自己就行了。
3. Fear of what may go wrong
3. 擔心事情可能會出錯Getting married means putting your full faith, finances, and future in another human being, which is a terrifying concept. A focus on past relationships might also mean that you're terrified of your SO exhibiting traits of behaviors of your exes. "I see that getting in the way a lot, like you've been cheated on in the past and now you're afraid your husband will do it," DeAlto says. Talk out those fears with your partner when your anxieties are clouding your vision.
結婚意味着將自己的信仰、財產和未來都傾注到另一人身上，想來是個極爲瘮人的概念。專注於過去的情感關係可能意味着你十分害怕自己的另一半會和前任的行爲、品行相似。“我總是會想起這些事，比如前任出軌，現在會擔心自己的丈夫也如此，”DeAlto說道。當不安矇蔽自己的視野時，一定要與另一半說出自己的擔憂！
