千萬別對另一半說這些話
Parenting can be hard. Between sleep deprivation, temper tantrums, and strong-willed personalities, it's not always easy to know what to do. Our partners in this parenting journey deserve to be treated with respect and trust, even through fits of anger. There are a few things that under no uncertain circumstances should you say to your coparent, even if you really, REALLY want to. Your relationship, and your kids, will be better off if you avoid these harsh phrases altogether.
生兒育女或許是項辛苦的工作。你們都會缺覺、脾氣暴躁、不妥協，所以很難知道該怎麼做。在育兒過程中，我們的另一半值得我們尊重和信任，儘管有時他們真的很氣人。但無論何種情況，你都不該對另一半說這些話，即使你真的真的很想說。如果你能控制自己不說這些傷感情的句子，那麼你的感情生活會更好、孩子也會照顧得越來越好。"I told you so."
"我早就跟你說過了。"Even though it feels so good when your partner recognizes that you were, in fact, right all along, rubbing it in their face doesn't help matters. This is especially true when it comes to parenting struggles, because being a parent is hard enough without having to feel worse about mistakes that were made.
儘管，當另一半承認你事實上一直都是對的會讓你感覺爽翻了，但當着他/她的面虐他/她卻於事無補。尤其是在育兒問題上更是如此，因爲成爲父母這件事本身就很困難了，更別提自己犯下錯誤後的感受了。
"That's not what the book says to do."
"書上不是這麼說的。"
Sure, you've read all the books, consulted all the blogs, and spent your waking life developing an action plan; that doesn't mean that your partner needs to follow everything that you've read. A good relationship is about trust, and in the heat of the moment, it's best to trust that your partner wants what is best for your little one too.
當然，你看了所有的書，諮詢了所有的博客，醒着的時候一直都在制定行動計劃，但這並不意味着你的另一半需要按照你閱讀的內容行事。好的感情是信任的，盛怒之下，最好還是相信你的另一半，畢竟他/她也想要給寶寶最好的。"Well, they don't act like that for me."
"額，寶寶這樣做可不是因爲我。"Every kid reacts differently to different people, and this can especially be true with parents. Just because your tyke is a perfect baby with you doesn't mean that your fellow parent is doing something wrong. Cut them some slack and try to help rather than use a braggadocious phrase.
每個孩子都會對不同的人做不同的動作，尤其是面對父母的時候。你的寶寶和你在一起的時候很乖並不意味着你的另一半做錯了事。饒了他/她吧，儘可能的幫他/她，而不是說一些誇張的話。"Have you tried ______ to get them to sleep?"
"你有沒有試過這種方法哄寶寶入睡？"When it's the middle of the night and the baby is screaming, the last thing you want to hear is a list of solutions that have already been tried and failed. Again, trust that your partner knows all the tricks and has tried all the magical ways to get that baby to sleep.
深夜寶寶尖叫的時候，你最不想聽到的就是一系列哄寶寶睡覺的方法，因爲你已經試過這些方法並且失敗了。再說一次，相信你的另一半，相信她/他知道所有的方法，相信他/她嘗試了各種神奇的方法哄寶寶睡覺。"You weren't watching them closely enough."
"你沒有照看好他/她。"Accidents happen, even to the most attentive parents. Instead of using blame phrases, try instead to talk with your partner later about expectations and procedures. Accusing them is only going to make them nervous and closed off.
意外總是會發生，即使父母特別細心也還是會發生。不要責怪另一半了，試着和他/她談談你的預期和過程。指責只會讓他們變得緊張、封閉。
