不能對兒媳說的那些話
1. You need to be More careful with your money
1. 花錢需謹慎Everyone has different ideas about what is important enough to spend on. It can be impossible for one person to understand the consuming habits of another. If your daughter-in-law likes saving up for elaborate holidays, and it worries you that she is wasting money that she could be saving, you should probably not share your concerns with her. Money is a touchy subject.
每個人對花錢的概念都不一樣，所以一個人很難理解另一個人的消費習慣。如果你的兒媳喜歡將省出來的錢都用在假期上，而你卻覺得她把該省的錢都揮霍一空，或許你不應該將這一想法告訴她，畢竟金錢是個敏感話題。
2. Homeschooling is a waste of time
2. 在家自學無異於浪費時間
As with politics, people often have fundamentally different ways of looking at education. People tend to passionately believe in the homeschool method, in preschool, magnet schools or a number of other options.
如政治一樣，人們對教育也有着截然不同的看法。人們往往熱衷於在家自學法、上幼兒園、有吸引力的學校或其它選擇。If either you or your daughter-in-law has an unconventional idea about how children should learn, you should simply let the subject be dropped. Conversations about the superiority of different systems can quickly slip into bitterness.
如果你或者你的兒媳對孩子的學習方式持非傳統觀念，這個話題應點到爲止，因爲就不同教育系統的優越性展開的對話會很快陷入困境。3. Haven't the children had enough TV time today?
3. 孩子今天看電視的時間還不夠多嗎？Discussions of child-raising techniques can be a minefield. People tend to have very different ideas about what works, how much discipline to use, what constitutes spoiling and what kind of diet makes sense. Since grandparents are usually present in a supporting role and not to establish policy, it is best to trust the parents and to not take up the merits of various techniques for discussion.
育兒手段絕對是對話雷區。人們對有效的育兒方式、規矩的設定、寵溺的概念及合理的飲食往往有着不同的觀點。因爲爺爺奶奶大多充當的是溺愛型角色，且不會對孩子講規矩，所以這時候他們應相信父母的判斷，不要就'不同育兒手段有着不同優點'的話題再談論下去了。4. We see too little of the kids
4. 我們和孫子/女見面的次數太少了While there is nothing wrong with thinking of ways to see more of your grandkids, it is important to realize that the parents decide how much the grandparents will be involved. Before you bring up that you see too little of your grandkids, you should try to ask about the kind of policy that your son and daughter-in-law have about grandparental involvement.
雖然想辦法多見見孫子/女並沒有什麼不妥，但意識到這一點很重要：爺爺奶奶和孫子/女的相處時間是由父母決定的。在提及與孫子/女的相處時間太短之前，你應該先問問兒子和兒媳有關相處時間的設定。5. You are going to name the baby what?
5. 你打算給寶寶起什麼名字？It's very easy for grandparents to hate an unconventional name and to say something snippy about it. Each generation has its own ideas about what kinds of names are attractive. Making a disapproving comment can cause a lasting setback to a relationship. It is best to simply accept whatever name the parents decide on.
爺爺奶奶很容易對非傳統的名字產生反感，並說些令人不快的話。每代人對好聽的名字都有着自己的見解。對名字持不贊成意見可能會導致關係的不和睦。最好的做法便是接受父母的取名。
