囧研究：情侶或夫妻間經常說我們會更幸福

When a couple has been together for a very long time, it can be easy to think of themselves as a collective unit, a ‘two-for-one package’, rather than as separate individuals.

當一對夫妻相處久了，他們就把自己當成了一個整體，“兩個個體一個整體”而不是單個的存在。

While some may find the notion of excessive interdependence in arelationship slightly nauseating, according to recent research, couples who refer to themselves as “we” and “us” in conversation are more likely to be happier in love than those who don’t.不

過在關係中兩個人過分相互依賴有點讓人噁心。不過根據最近的一年就如果在對話中將兩個人稱之“你們”的夫妻在兩人的關係中比那些不說的更加幸福。

Researchers from the University of California investigated the correlation between the use of first-person plural pronouns (such as “we”, “our”, “us”) and the health of romantic relationships.

加利福尼亞的研究這門發現在對話中使用第一人稱的複數（就像我們，我們的，我們（賓語））能夠讓保持戀愛關係的和諧健康。

The team, led by psychologist Megan Robbins, analyzed 30 studies involving more than 5,000 participants, half of whom were married.

以心理學家Megan Robbins領導的調研小組，對5000名其中一半是已婚婦女的調查樣本，進行了30種調研。

The researchers took five main factors into account: how long the couples have been together; their behaviour within the relationships; the mental health of the participants; their physical health; and how well they look after themselves on a daily basis.

調研者從五個維度提問：在一起的時間，戀愛中兩人的行爲，被調查者的精神狀態和身體狀態，每天兩人是怎樣互相相處的。

They came to the conclusion that “we-talk” proved beneficial in all categories, corresponding with happier relationships on all counts.

而後他們得出，在調查樣本中，經常稱“我們”的那部分人，在兩人的關係中覺得更幸福。

“The benefit of analysing many different couples in a lot of different contexts is that it establishes we-talk isn’t just positively related in one context, but that it indicates positive functioning overall,” says Alexander Karan, a graduate student in Robbins’ laboratory.

在Robbin調研小組中的一名研究生Alexander Karan說，通過調查不同背景各種情侶（夫婦）發現，經常說“ 我們” 的情侶不分背景，在愛戀關係中兩人都很融洽。

The study, published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, found that we-talk had a positive effect in relationships across all age groups.

這項研究發表在《社會與個人關係》雜誌上，不管年齡大小，習慣說“我們”的情侶的關係都很健康。

Robbins says.“Hearing yourself or a partner say these words could shift individuals’ ways of thinking to be more interdependent, which could lead to a healthier relationship.”

Robbins說“聽到你自己或者伴侶說我們可能改變個人爲主的思維方式，讓你們變得相互一拉，進而讓你們的關係變得更加健康。

（翻譯：林潯鷗）