愛情也有訣竅：讓男生愛上你的20個小技巧
1. BE YOURSELF
做自己
All of my tips will give you tricks and ideas, but I mean for them all to be enhancements of who you really are, not make you into someone you’re not. If you’re fake, it doesn’t matter if you get a guy to fall in love with you, because he won’t really be in love with the real you. So, my first idea is to always be myself, no matter what, so a guy likes me for me.
這些建議能提供給你一些技巧，不過我希望它們對你來說是改善自己的建議，而不是讓你變成另外一個人。不過你不夠真誠，那麼不管哪個男生愛上你就都沒有意義了，因爲他愛上的不是真正的你。所以，我的第一條建議就是無論何時永遠做自己，這樣男生纔會因爲愛你而愛你。
2. OPTIMIZE YOUR APPEARANCE
精心打理自己
Whenever I’m trying to be More attractive to someone, I always optimize. Now, this doesn’t mean I starve myself to look thin, buy tons of new clothes, or get a dramatic hair cut. Instead, I just try to make myself look my best. This means a cute outfit that emphasizes my best features, combed and fixed hair, a little makeup, a clean bright smile, and a spritz of light perfume.
當我想要在某人面前顯得有魅力時，我總會精心打理自己。不是爲了減肥讓自己餓肚子，不是買一大堆新衣服，也不是剪一個誇張的髮型，而是努力讓自己看起來最好。我會選一套漂亮的衣服突出我的特點，梳理好髮型，化一些淡妝，保持笑容燦爛，再灑上一些香水。
3. LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN
傾聽，傾聽，傾聽
Guys love to talk about themselves, and they think a girl who actively listens to them is so charming. So, I always listen more than I talk when I was trying to attract a guy. Talk about yourself, current topics, news events, etc about 20% of the time, and let him control the conversation about 80% of the time.
男生喜歡說自己的事，他們覺得認真聽他們說話的人非常有魅力。所以，當我試圖去吸引男生的時候聽的總比說的多。用20%的時間談談你自己，最近的熱點話題，最新發生的事件，讓他們控制80%的談話時間。
4. LAUGH A LOT
經常笑
Guys are drawn to girls with a great sense of humor, and I think humor always begins with a lot of laughter. So, I always tried to laugh a lot and be easy to please when I was trying to attract a guy. If I want a guy to fall in love with me, I make sure to laugh and all his jokes!
男生會被有幽默感的女生吸引，而我認爲幽默感的第一表現就是展現笑容。因此當我想吸引男生時，我會經常笑，表現得容易相處。當我想要男生愛生我的時候，我會確保他每講一個笑話我都會用笑聲迴應！
5. HAVE A GREAT ATTITUDE
態度積極
In my experience, guys like girls with cheerful, sunny dispositions. No one likes to hang out with a pessimistic, negative person. So, I always try to look on the bright side of life and be a “glass half full” person when I’m trying to catch a hot guy. People always tend to look my way more often and gravitate toward me when I’ve got a smile on my face!
根據我的經驗，男生喜歡性情開朗的女生。沒有人想要和悲觀的人一起出去玩。因此當我想要吸引很不錯的男生時，我總是試圖從好的一面看待生活，而不是從悲觀的角度看待問題。當我的臉上掛着笑容時，我的回頭率會更高，人們會更容易被我吸引。6. BE SWEET
親切
Sometimes, I can be catty… all girls can be. When I’m with my girlfriends, we’ll gossip or trash some other girl for being rude or trashy, but that’s not a nice way to act. And, let me just tell you, I’ve learned that this kind of behavior doesn’t attract guys. Boys are drawn to girls who are sweet and don’t gossip, so keep cattiness and snotty comments to yourself around your new guy.
有時我是一個愛對人說三道四的女生…所有女生都是這樣。當我和女性朋友在一起時，我們會一起鄙視那些粗魯的女生，不過這樣對人其實並不好。讓我告訴你吧，我發現男生不喜歡這樣的行爲。吸引男生的是不在背後說三道四的親切的女生，所以在剛開始約會男生面前不要發表這些惡毒的評論，放在自己肚子裏就好了。
7. FLIRT
調情
Some of my friends used to think flirting was beneath them, but I’m telling you – it works. Guys just love to be showered with attention and treated like a king. Toss your hair a little bit, throw your head back and laugh, grin a lot, and look up and him from under your eyelashes. Even those these old tricks might seem tried and true, they’re tried and true because they actually work!
我的一些朋友曾經對調情很不屑。不過告訴你，調情其實很管用。男生喜歡別人給他大量的關注，把他當成國王一樣看待。摸摸你的頭髮，把頭髮向後一甩然後對着他微笑，歪着頭看他。雖然這些看起來很老套，不過之所以老套是因爲這個方法真的有用！
8. BE DIFFERENT
與衆不同
Trying to be unique and different is a way I’ve always tried to interest guys. I don’t want him to think that I’m just like all the other girls out there… instead, I want to be seen as charming, witty, and smart. So, I don’t talk about all those same old topics, like school gossip. Ask him about how he feels about current events or newsworthy stories and show him you’re worldy!
表現得與衆不同，這是我經常用來吸引男生的方法。我不想讓他用看待其他所有女生的眼光來看待我，我希望他把我看成一個有魅力、風趣聰明的人。因此我不會談論那些已經被說爛了的話題，例如學校裏的八卦等等。問問他對最近的熱點事件有什麼想法，有什麼有新聞價值的事件，讓他知道你是個關心時事的人！
9. BE WITTY
風趣
As I said before, guys like a girl with a sense of humor. The best way to show you value humor is to laugh at his jokes, but I always try to crack a few jokes myself, too. Guys are drawn to girls with a funny side, and there’s nothing that draws two people closer than sharing a laugh. So, I always bust out a few comments or funny one-liners when I’m trying to draw a guy to me.
如剛纔我所提到的，男生喜歡有幽默感的女生。顯示你有幽默感的最好方法就是用笑來回應他說的笑話，不過我也經常試着自己講幾個笑話。男生喜歡懂得幽默的女生，另外也沒有什麼比一起大笑更能拉近兩人距離的事情了。
10. INITIATE PHYSICAL CONTACT
主動身體接觸
Guys love physical touch, and touching someone is a quick way to develop intimacy. When I’m trying to attract a guy’s attention, I will look for ways to bring physical touch into play. For instance, I touch his arm lightly when I’m laughing at a joke, or I’ll slap him on the knee playfully if he says something funny, or I’ll touch his hand while I’m explaining something.
男生喜歡身體接觸，身體上的觸碰能夠讓兩人更加親密。當我想要吸引男生注意力的時候，我就會想辦法發展一些身體接觸。例如，當我聽到笑話大小的時候我會輕輕地接觸到他的肩膀，或者他在說一件趣事時我會拍拍他的大腿，或者我會在向他解釋一個事物時碰碰他的手。
11. BRING HIM A TREAT
給他一點小禮物
The old saying that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach isn’t just an old saying for no reason- it’s totally true! I always bake a little treat for a guy when I’m trying to make him fall in love with me, and then I just surprise him with it on a random day. When my husband and I were first dating, I left a bag of treats in his locker before every football game. He just loved it!
有話說得好，想要抓住男人的心，先要抓住男人的胃。這句話之所以經典並不是沒有理由的——這句話說得太對了！當我想要讓男生愛上我時，我總會給他烤一個小蛋糕，在隨便哪一天出其不意地送給他。當我和我丈夫最初開始交往的時候，我會在每場足球賽之前在他的儲物櫃裏放上一小袋吃的。他愛死這些東西了！
12. GIVE HIM FREEDOM
給他自由
When a guy’s trying to determine if you’re girlfriend material, he will test you a little bit. My advice at this point is to give him his freedom, and that will send him right back for more. In my experience, if any guy every got the impression that I’d try to tie him down, he’d be gone lightening fast. So, let your guy know that you value and respect his time with his friends, playing sports, or whatever it is he does in his spare time.
男生有時會測試一下女生，看看她是否適合做女朋友。我的建議是，給他一點自由的空間，這樣他就會馬上回到你的身邊。根據我的經驗來看，男生只要一開始覺得我想要束縛他，他就會飛也似地逃走。所以你要讓男生知道他和朋友在一起的時，參加體育活動時，或是他想在閒暇時間做其他任何事時，你都會重視並且尊重他的想法。
13. LET HIM CALL YOU
讓他給你打電話
When I’m trying to get a guy, I play a little hard to get. I don’t call him all the time, try to track him down, or generally make myself a bother. I want him to think that I’m too busy out there having a great time to bother with him, and that he better get in touch with me quickly if he’s interested in sharing any time with me! Let him do the pursuing, and he’ll be much more interested in you.
當我想要得到一個男生的心時，我就會表現得讓他覺得我很難到手。我不會一直打電話給他，不會試圖知道他每時每刻在哪裏，不會自己給自己添任何麻煩。我希望他覺得我太忙了，沒時間理他，如果他對我還有意思就快點聯繫我。讓男生來追你，這樣他會對你更有興趣。
14. PRACTICE MIRRORING STRATEGIES
模仿他的動作
Okay, this seems a little creepy at first, but just hear me out. Whenever I want to impress or charm someone (not just guys, but anyone), I do a little physical mirroring. What this means is taking whatever physical action that person does, waiting about five seconds, and then copying the motion. For instance, if your guy rests his elbow on the table, wait five seconds, and then put your elbow on the table. Sounds silly, but it works! It creates a connection between me and the guy that he just can’t explain.
好吧，乍聽起來可能有點毛骨悚然，不過還是先聽我說完吧。當我先要給別人留下印象或是吸引別人時（不只對男生，對所有人都如此），我就會模仿他的身體動作。具體意思是：無論這個人做了什麼動作，等五秒，然後重複一遍他的動作。比如說，你心儀的男生把手擱在桌子上，等五秒，然後你也把手放在桌子上。這聽起來很傻，不過真的有用！這樣我和那個男生之間產生了一種共鳴，而且他根本無法解釋。
15. MAKE EYE CONTACT
眼神交流
Staring deeply into someone’s eyes quickly ramps up the intensity of the connection between two people. So, if I’m trying to get a guy to fall in love with me, I stare deeply into his eyes while we’re talking. Now, don’t look too long, or you’ll appear to be a stalker… but you definitely want extended eye contact.
直視別人的眼睛能迅速加強兩人之間的聯繫。當我想要讓男生愛上我時，我就會在談話時只是他的眼睛。不過，不要盯太長時間，不然你會看起來像跟蹤狂一樣。眼神交流的時間長絕對是沒有錯的16. DON’T APPEAR DESPERATE
別顯得太粘人
Guys aren’t attracted to desperate, clingy girls who seem like they can’t get anyone else. Guys are attracted to busy, happy, popular girls who seem like they’ve got it all under control and who have the world at their feet. Even if you think you aren’t popular, happy, or busy, try to appear that way to your guy. That means, don’t say yes if he asks you out last minute. Tell him you’ve got other plans, but you’d love to schedule something with him in a few days. Play hard to get!
男生不喜歡粘人的女生，這樣感覺就好像這個女生找不到其他男人了一樣。男生喜歡忙碌快樂、受人歡迎的女生，那種看起來能掌控一切、讓全世界拜倒在她的石榴裙下的女生。就算你覺得你不是這樣的女生，想辦法讓他覺得你是。也就是說，當他在最後一刻邀你出門時，不要答應他。告訴他你有別的計劃，但是你很樂意過幾天安排跟他出門。要欲擒故縱！
17. BE TRUSTWORTHY
值得信任
Guys love someone they can trust. I learned the hard way that telling my girlfriends every thing about a new guy in my life wasn’t the best idea. Word always gets back to the guy that I’ve talked about what he told me or told details about our time together, and he always bolts. Discretion is the best policy. Don’t tell your girls every little bit of your private conversations, and your guy will trust and respect you much more.
男生喜歡值得相信的人。把新男友的事一股腦兒全都告訴閨蜜可不是什麼好主意，我曾經在這點上接受了深刻的教訓。當我把男生和我一起時告訴我的事說給別人聽，或是告訴別人我們在一起時的細節時，這些話最後總能傳到他的耳朵裏，他每次都很生氣。說話前最好要謹慎。不要把你們私密的談話中的每個細節都告訴你的閨蜜，這樣男生就會更信任你，也更尊重你。
18. LEAVE A LITTLE MYSTERY
保持一點神祕感
When I am trying to attract a guy, I don’t want to be an open book to him. I’ve found that guys like a little mystery… they keep coming back for more if you leave more to find out. Think of your information, history, interests, etc. like a treasure hunt… give your guy little clues, but don’t let him find the treasure right away. He’ll want to keep calling and asking you out just to learn more about you!
當我想要吸引男生時，我不想讓他把我的一切都看得清清楚楚。我發現，男生都喜歡帶點神祕感的女生…...如果你總能讓他們發現更多不爲他們所知的你，男生就會想要回來更好地瞭解你。想着你有哪些信息，有什麼樣的歷史，有什麼愛好等等，這對男生來說就像尋寶一樣，給他一點小提示，但是不要讓他們一下就發現寶藏。他會想要不斷地打電話給你，邀你出去——只是爲了更好地瞭解你！
19. BE SUPPORTIVE OF HIS INTERESTS
支持他的興趣愛好
Guys love it when girls show they’re interested in what guys are interested in. So, even if I hate his favorite sport, I’m going to watch it with him and discuss it with him to show a guy I’m both interested and interesting. When I dated a guy who loved basketball, I researched all about it so I could carry on a conversation with him, even though I hated basketball. When I dated a wrestler, I went to several matches to cheer him on, even though I think wrestling is boring. It will attract a guy if you show him you’re interested.
男生希望女生對他們感興趣的東西有興趣。所以，就算我很討厭他最喜歡的那項運動，我也會跟他一起看比賽，跟他討論這項運動，告訴他我對他有興趣的東西也有興趣。我曾經和一個喜歡籃球的男生約會，雖然我很討厭籃球，但是我還是把跟籃球有關的事全都調查了一遍，這樣我才能把話題繼續下去。
20. HOLD OFF ON THE PHYSICAL INTIMACY
身體接觸時保持點距離
My last tip has to do with physical intimacy, or making out, heavy petting, or sex. If you truly want to make a guy fall in love with you, you’ve got to hold out on stuff like this for as long as you can. Most guys I dated and are friends with just go after a girl for the thrill of the chase at first. It takes time for them to realize that they actually care about the girl. So, hold off on physical intimacy to give your relationship a chance to develop first.
我最後的建議和身體接觸有關，或者說是親熱、愛撫、性。如果你真的想讓一個男生愛上你，那麼對於這些事你能保持多少距離就要保持多少距離。很多我交往過的男生只是想體驗一下追女生最開始的新鮮刺激而已。他們要過一段時間才能意識到自己真的關心這個女生。所以在身體接觸時保持一點距離，讓你們的關係先逐步發展。
