美文賞析:想家的你，需要自己撫慰自己的心

Along with Feelings of insecurity, loss of control and nervousness, physical effects, including sleep issues, fatigue and loss of appetite, are caused by homesickness. We gathered a few psychologist-backed tips to help ease homesickness:
想家除了會導致不安感，還有失控、緊張，對身體也有影響（包括失眠、疲勞、沒有胃口）。我們蒐集了一些心理學家提供的幫助緩解想家的建議：

1. Realize that feeling homesick is 100 percent normal.
你要知道想家很正常。

Almost everyone experiences homesickness when moving to a new place — some people might just be better at hiding it. Being homesick is not a sign of personal shortcoming.
幾乎每個人到了一個新地方都會想家，只是有些人更善於隱藏這種情緒，想家不是缺點。

2. Make connections with new people in comfortable settings.
在舒服的氣氛中和別人交朋友。

Feeling homesick when separated from loved ones motivates people to want to be with those supportive people. But keep in mind that everyone is different when it comes to forming those new relationships. When making new connections, it’s best to stick to the style that works for you in order to mitigate homesickness.
和親人分開後會想家，這會使人們想要和能幫他們的人在一起。但你要記住交新朋友時每個人都有各自的特點，交朋友時你最好堅持適合自己的風格，以便緩解想家的感覺。

3. Practice self-compassion.
自我同情。

Self-compassion is loving yourself just as you love the ones you care about. The most important step in practicing self-compassion is substituting negative, critical thoughts about yourself with thoughts that are more supportive and kind.
自我同情就是像愛你在乎的人那樣愛你自己。自我同情最重要的方法就是用更積極更寬容的想法對待自己，取代以前消極的、批評的想法。

4. Keep tabs on your negativity.
密切注意自己的消極情緒。

It’s also useful to ask yourself how much of your homesickness is due to an event and how much is from how you’re perceiving a situation. Taking a step back is recommended, instead of falling into the trap of a negative outlook. You can silence negative thoughts in many ways, including reciting positive mantras, keeping a journal or even taking a walk in a park.
問問自己你想家跟某件事本身有多大關係，跟你對待這件事的態度有多大關係，這個方法也很有用。你最好退一步思考這個問題，而不是深深陷入消極的想法中。你可以用很多方法來抑制消極情緒，比如背誦一些積極的名言、寫日記，甚至還可以去公園裏散散步。