做最好的自己:這十件事請放手(情感篇)

Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

沒有人可以回到過去，然後重新開始。但是每個人都可以從今天開始，改變自己的生活。在你重新打造自己的人生之前，你需要先停下那些拖後腿的事。

spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.

1.不要把時間浪費在錯的人身上。人生苦短，你沒有時間去浪費在那些阻礙你獲得幸福的人身上。如果對方需要你，那麼他們自然會爲你騰出空間來。你不必爲了在對方的生命裏佔有一席之地而苦苦掙扎。

putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

2.不要把自己的需求置之腦後。最痛苦的事莫過於愛一個人的時候失去了自我，忘記了自己也是如此特別的存在。如果你從沒有追隨自己的熱情去做一件對你來說重要的事，那麼你還在等什麼呢。

getting involved in Relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

3.不要爲了戀愛而戀愛。戀愛一定要慎重，寧缺毋濫。感情的事急不得。如果命中註定，在對的時間就會遇到對的人，有着最合適的理由。當你準備好了纔去發展一段感情，不要因爲寂寞去戀愛。

rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.

4.不要因爲過去的感情失敗而拒絕開始一段新關係。每個人出現在你的生活中都是有原因的。有些人考驗你，有些人利用你，有些人教導你。最重要的是，所有這些人將鍛造出一個最好的你。

trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.

5.不要用錢去買幸福。我們想買的很多東西都價格不菲。但事實是，真正能讓我們快樂幸福的東西卻是完全免費的，比如愛、歡笑和工作的激情。

exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.

6.不要專從他人身上獲取幸福。如果你對自己都不能感到滿意的話，長遠來講，無論和誰相處你都不會感到快樂。所以在你開始與他人分享你的人生之前，你要做的就是要讓自己變得更平和。

trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

7.不要嘗試去做別人。人生最大的挑戰之一就是，在一個喪失自我的世界中保持自我。總有人會比你漂亮，比你聰明，比你年輕，但他們永遠也不是你。不要爲了別人而改變自己。做你自己，那個對的人會喜歡那個真正的你。

trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.

8.不要拿自己去和其他人比。不要擔心別人會做得比你好。你只需要每天都做得比前一天好就可以了。成功是一場和自己的比賽。

being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”

9.不要嫉妒別人。嫉妒就是隻看別人的幸福，而忽視自己的快樂。捫心自問“我有什麼是別人都羨慕的呢？”

trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

10.不要抓住過去不放。如果你一直停留在過去的一頁，又怎麼能翻開人生的新篇章呢。