10步做最好的自己

n to accept who you are. It's one of the hardest things to follow through on, but it's definitely most rewarding. It's so easy to look in the mirror and point out most of your insecurities. But, instead of counting All the things you wish you could be, try counting all the things that you are thankful for that bring out your natural beauty. Understand everyone has beauty, whether it be their eyes, their plumped lips, or their rosy cheeks. Make a list of all of these things, and hang it up somewhere by a mirror, and before you leave, look in the mirror and tell yourself you look good. Remember that it's your own opinion that really counts.
學習接受自己。這是一個艱難的過程，卻是必須的過程。你可以站着穿衣鏡前細數自己所有的不足，你也可以試着找出自己的長處。要明白，每個人都是美的，有的是眼睛，有的是嘴脣，有的是面頰，離開家門的時候，站在鏡子面前告訴自己，你是最美的。事實上，你自己的想法最重要。

ize your imperfections and then let go. Are you too bossy? Are you too critical of yourself? You're lazy, right? You don't have a lot of friends because your shy? This could go on and on, but the point is is that you need to find out what you aren't so good at, maybe what you don't have, and then let go of it. This is one of the most key steps to accept who you are.
瞭解並看輕自己的短處。你是不是很專橫？是不是對自己要求很嚴格？或者很懶，很害羞，所以沒有很多朋友？你可以數出很多，但是你要做的是不要過度在意自己的短處。

honest with yourself. This is one of the hardest things for many of us to do. In many of todays societies that focus on the individual, we are encouraged to strive for success, and often we look for praise as the acknowledgment of that success. We take any criticism as a negative thing, so we shy away from seeing anything about ourselves that elicits that reaction.
誠實面對自己。這是正確認識自己中最艱難的部分。現在的社會競爭激烈，每個人都渴望被肯定，都希望成功。所以我們常常不敢面對自己所謂的弱勢。

4 Remember that you can't fix it until you can admit there is a problem.
記住只有你正視自己的毛病，纔可能更正。

5 Recognize ineffective coping mechanisms. If you are experiencing any of the feelings described in the introduction, odds are that what you are doing to cope with the problems in life are not working. These things may have worked in the past, and are so ingrained that you don't even realize you do them.
萬事不要抱着應付的態度。消極應付的態度一旦根深蒂固，很多時候你甚至不清楚自己在做什麼。

6 Replace the old methods you used to deal with situations and problems with ones that will deliver or elicit positive responses and solutions. Changing old behaviors can be just as difficult as recognizing them because it takes time and determination to replace old habits and behaviors, but the payoff is worth it.
改變舊習是很繁瑣的，需要堅定的決心和長久的努力，但是堅持下來，你會得到絕對的報酬。

7 Make a short list. Once you have accepted yourself, with all your imperfections, you can change some things about yourself. Write out a list about what you want to achieve, what you can achieve, and how you will achieve it. Although, understand that no one is perfect, and sometimes you just can't change who you are.
列一個小單子。當你已經接受自己的不足後，可以想想哪些你想做的，你可以做的，記住沒有人是完美的，有些事也是天生的。

8 Don't try to alter several things at once, this is a recipe for failure. Once you have your list, prioritize it. Decide what you need to work on in order of importance. Often changing one thing will cause other things to fall in line, like knocking over dominoes.
不要急於一時，功虧一簣。當你定好自己想做的事情後，分清主次，一件事的成功可以引起其他的相應事情的成功。

9 Avoid the common "Do-overs" It's your life and your reality. What happened in the past, happened in the past. You just can't change history. So avoid doing it over again because you feel like it's "in your comfort zone" and "you've been through it once, why not one more time?" type of excuse.
不要重蹈覆轍。你的生活是屬於你自己的。發生的就是發生了，你無法改變歷史。不要重蹈覆轍。

10 Learn that life is the way it is. You can only make it hard if your attitudes about life are pointed that way. You can't change who you really are either. Just be the best you can be, and live life with pride.
順其自然。生活的道路某種程度上有自己的定義，你無法改變你的秉性，你要做的只是做最好的自己。