人生輕鬆前行:我們應該拋在腦後的10個想法

A new way of thinking has become the necessary condition for responsible living and acting. If you want to move forward, you must change your way of thinking and leave these thoughts behind you:

負責任的生活和行爲方式需要新的思維方式。如果你想要繼續前行，你就必須改變思維方式，把這10種想法拋在腦後：

1. “I don’t have a choice.”

1. 我別無選擇。

You write your own destiny through the choices you make. You become what you repeatedly do. It is more important to know where you are going and why, than to get there quickly. Every time you are tempted to react to the same old circumstances in the same old way, ask yourself, “Do I want to be a prisoner of the past, or a pioneer of the future?”

所當你做下選擇，你就寫下了自己的命運。你重複做什麼樣的事，你就會成爲什麼樣的人。與其想着迅速到達目的地，還不如清楚知道自己要去哪，爲什麼要去。每當你被誘惑在相同的環境裏用相同的方式去做什麼事時，問問自己：“我要做過去的囚犯，還是成爲未來的開拓者？”

2. “Life is easy.”

2. 生活很容易。

Life is NOT easy, it IS difficult. That’s the greatest truth there is. It’s great because once you understand and accept this truth, you can move forward with your life. Once you thoroughly know in your heart and mind that life is difficult, then life gets a lot easier to deal with. Because once difficulty is accepted as a foundation, it no longer surprises you or stops you from building a lifestyle that rises above it.

生活不易，它其實很艱難，那也是生活最偉大的事實。這是因爲一旦你懂得並接受了這個事實，你的生活將會勇往前行。當你在心中徹底明白了生活的艱難，那生活會變得更加容易應對。因爲困難一旦被視爲事實和前提，那麼它就再也不會讓你驚訝，再也不會阻礙你去建立一個更好的生活方式。

3. “The way it is now is the way it will always be.”

3. 現在是什麼樣子，將來就是什麼樣子。

Don’t confuse your path with your destination. Just because it’s stormy now, doesn’t mean you aren’t headed for sunshine. And remember, you cannot heal a lifetime of pain overnight; be patient with yourself, it takes as long as it takes, but your happiness is worth the wait.

你要去的目的地，和通往目的地的道路，這兩個別弄混了。不要因爲現在狂風暴雨，就確定日後不會陽光普照。要記住，一生的疼痛不可能一夜之間治癒，對自己耐心點，它該花多長時間就花多長時間，幸福值得等待。

4. “The sky is falling.”

4. 天快塌下來了。

When everything in your life is coming together, you can hold on to the belief that ‘everything happens for a reason’ with frivolous ease. But when everything’s falling apart – your relationships, your health, your finances, etc. – it takes tremendous effort to wrap your mind and heart around that belief and hold onto it for dear life. Yet you must. For in that belief lies your hope, your courage, and your strength to move forward.

當生活中的一切都非常美好時，你可以輕輕鬆鬆相信：“任何事情的發生都是有原因的”。但當感情、健康、金錢等等一切分崩離析時，你得用盡全力才能堅持這個信念，你必須去堅持。因爲這個信念裏有你的希望，你的勇氣和你繼續前行的動力。

5. “Everyone else is doing better than me.”

5. 別人都比我做得好。

Do not feed your insecurities, or they will consume you. Sometimes the reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes circumstances with everyone else’s public highlight reel. We listen to the noise of the world, instead of ourselves. So stop the comparisons; listen to your own inner voice and your own soul.

不要再去縱容自己那點不安全感了，有一天它們會毀了你。有時我們糾纏於不安全感，是因爲我們把自己的幕後和他人的臺前光環進行比較（缺點比優點）。我們聽着來自世界的各種噪音，就是不去傾聽自己的內心。所以停止比較，聽聽自己的內心，自己的靈魂世界吧！

6. “That’s unrealistic.”

6. 那不現實。

To be successful, you have to be a little unrealistic. You have to believe that something totally different than what has happened for an eternity can happen. Think about it. Being realistic doesn’t change anything; being unrealistic does. Doesn’t it seem a bit unrealistic to be able to walk into a dark space, hit a switch, and instantly fill the entire space with light? Fortunately Thomas Edison didn’t think so.

要想成功，你還得變得有點不現實。你必須相信，世界上總有和永遠存在發生的現狀完全不同的事物。仔細想想。變得現實不會改變一切，但不現實卻可以。在黑暗空間裏行走，碰一下開關，瞬間就會點亮整個空間——是不是顯得有些不現實？還好愛迪生不這麼認爲。

7. “I wish.”

7. 我希望。

The best thing you can do for yourself is to stop saying “I wish,” start saying “I will,” and then go do something about it. The world isn’t going to dominate itself. You just have to wake up one morning and decide that you don’t want to feel like this anymore, ever again. And then make a change, just like that.

你能爲自己做的最棒的事情就是停止說“我希望”，而開始說“我將要”，然後採取行動。世界無法自我主宰，你需要在某天早晨醒來告訴自己：你再也不想要這樣下去了。然後開始改變，就是這樣。

8. “It’s too late.”

8. 一切都太晚了。

Believing it’s too late is the end of your journey; believing in yourself is an endless destination. Trust yourself. Break the rules. Don’t be afraid to fail. Ignore those who doubt you. Work your butt off. And be sure to give something back before you’re done.

你若相信“太晚了”，你的成功之路也就終止了。相信自己纔會使未來之路變得無限可能。信賴自己，打破條條框框，不要畏懼失敗。藐視那些懷疑你的人，排除雜念，還要確保你在到達目的地之前給予一些回饋。

9. “I can’t.”

9. 我做不到。

Nobody is going to blindside you and hit you as hard as life will. Sometimes life will beat you to the ground, and keep you there if you let it. But it’s not about how hard life can hit you; it’s about how hard you can be hit while continuing to move forward. That’s what true strength is. And that’s what winning the game of life is all about.

生活會打擊你，使你攻其不備挫敗連連，這就是生活。有時候生活將會把你擊敗到谷底，如果你聽之任之，你就永遠只能在谷底。關鍵不在於生活多麼猛烈的打擊，而在於你在這猛烈打擊之後還能奮然前進，這纔是真正的力量。這也是成功人生的全部。

10. “This situation couldn’t get any worse.”

10. 情況不能更糟了。

Nothing is good or bad, as thinking makes it so. Be determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation you may find yourself. For you will eventually learn that the greater part of your happiness or unhappiness is determined not by your specific circumstances, but by your disposition and perspective.

凡事沒有好壞，一切在於你的態度。無論身處什麼處境，你都應該堅定地保持開心愉悅。因爲最後，你會懂得你絕大部分的開心或鬱悶不是取決於你所處的某個具體環境，而在於看待事物的態度。