他她話題:9歲男孩傳授的愛情祕笈
There are many places a young man can go for romantic advice—friends, family, and if the worst comes to the worst, the internet.
關於愛情，年輕人可以從很多地方得到建議——朋友、家人，再不濟也可藉助互聯網。
Now, desperate bachelors are taking dating tips from a nine-year-old boy.
而如今，絕望的單身漢們都在向一名九歲的男孩學習約會技巧。
Alec Greven, from Colorado, is the author of How To Talk To Girls. The book, which started as an elementary school project, has become a New York Times best-seller.
美國科羅拉多州的亞歷克·格雷文寫了一本名爲《如何與女孩交談》的書。這本書起初只是亞歷克的一次小學作業，而現在已經登上了《紐約時報》的暢銷書榜。
"I just observed around the playground how boys mess up and what mistakes they make," said Alec. "A lot of boys made the wrong conversations."
亞歷克說：“我只是在操場上觀察男孩子和女孩子在一起的時候都搞糟了哪些事情，犯了哪些錯誤。很多男孩子的交談方式都有問題。”
Alec believes showing interest is the key to winning a girl's heart. He said: "Your goal is to make sure she does most of the talking so then you can't mess up."
亞歷克認爲：要贏得女孩子的芳心，關鍵是要表現出感興趣。他說：“你要做的是確保她在交談中占主導地位，這樣事情就不會搞砸。”
In his book, Alec suggests that men find a cool role model to base their behaviour on. "The best choice for most boys is a regular girl." he said.
在書中，亞歷克建議男性要爲自己選擇一個言談舉止的好榜樣。他認爲，“對於大多數男孩來說，最好是選擇一個普通女孩。”
Alec also offers advice for when relationships don't work out so well.
亞歷克對於相處不順的情況也提出了建議。
On breaking-up, he said: "You say something like, 'I don't think this is really going to work but would you like to be friends'." On being dumped, he replied: "I say, life is hard, move on. If you can't get over it, it's ruined."
比如分手時，他認爲：“這種情況下應該說‘我認爲我們倆在一起不合適，但能讓我們繼續做朋友嗎’之類的話。”如果是被甩了，則回答：“我會說生活就是如此艱難，繼續生活吧。要拋開過去，否則你的生活就毀了。”
Despite his junior love-guru status, Alec says there are no ladies in his life, aside from his mother. "I'm a little too young for all that dating and everything," he said.
雖然身爲年少的愛情專家，但亞歷克說自己的生活中除了母親還沒有其他女士。他說：“約會及諸如此類的事情對我來說還太早了點。”
Alec is working on several follow-ups to How To Talk To Girls. How To Talk To Moms, How To Talk To Dads and How To Talk To Grandparents are already in the pipeline.
亞歷克正計劃寫《如何與女孩交談》的續篇：《如何同母親交談》，《如何同父親交談》以及《如何同祖父母交談》都在加緊構思撰寫。
