冷靜活着,看淡人生7大殘酷事實
1. No One Is Going to Fix You
沒人會來拯救你
If you are waiting for a knight in shining arMor to gallop into your life and heal your broken heart, you will be waiting forever. The only person who can help you is yourself. Be happy for the other people in your life, but do not become dependent on them for happiness unlike you like to be on a never-ending emotional roller-coaster that is far beyond the realm of your control.
如果你還在期盼白馬王子帥氣闖入你的生活、呵護你受傷的心靈，那你只能永遠等待下去了。能夠救你的人只有你自己。你可以爲生活中有人陪伴而開心，但不要因此把幸福完全託付給他們；否則，你的情緒會像不停歇的過山車，永遠無法自我控制。
Are you alone? No, far from it. But no one is going to fix you, so it is in your best interest to take personal responsibility for your own life. When you do that, you’ll discover you are more powerful than you ever thought possible.
還是一個人？哈，更殘酷的是，不會有誰來拯救你。所以，你最好還是爲自己負起責任吧。只有這樣，你纔會發現自己變得愈加堅強。
2. Life Will Never Be Perfect
生活並不完美
If you are waiting for the “right” time to do something — pursue self-employment, begin a fitness plan, dive into the dating pool, or move to a new town — you’re going to be waiting forever. There is no such thing as a “right” time to do anything. This reaction is based on your fear-of-change, plain and simple.
如果你還在等待“最佳時機”去做某事——諸如創業、健身、戀愛或搬去新城市，那你也只能這麼等待下去了。世上根本就沒有所謂的“最佳時機”，你之所以這麼想，完全是因爲自己害怕改變，只想簡單舒服混日子罷了。
If you keep waiting for that mysterious “perfect time to act” (please tell me, when have you ever experienced such a thing?), this means you will never actually have to take action and confront your fear. Do the scary thing. You will be so glad you did.
如果你一直在等待傳說中的“最佳行動時機”（請問，你可曾真正親身經歷過呢？），那你永遠都不會直面內心恐懼並拿出行動來。現在就去做“可怕的”事情吧！相信你做了以後絕不會後悔。
3. You Might Fail (a Lot)
你可能會失敗（很多次）
If you attempt to achieve an ambitious new goal, then it is possible that you will fall on your face while pursuing said goal. Welcome to reality. It’s time to change your thinking about failure.
如果你雄心萬丈想征服新目標，那你極可能在努力的過程中摔得鼻青臉腫。回到現實，改變自己對失敗的看法吧。
It is not a big, bad thing that you should be frightened of. Failure is a learning opportunity and nothing more. If successful people quit pursuing their goal after failing the first time they tried something new, then there would be approximately zero successful people ever. There is no such thing as a “hole-in-one” in life. Do you want to know how many times I’ve failed? Over a hundred.
失敗並不是多麼糟糕透頂的大事，你完全沒必要害怕。失敗只是一次學習的機會罷了。如果成功的人因剛開始嘗試新鮮事物遭遇挫折而放棄夢想，那他們很可能就一事無成，何談成功二字！生活中從來就沒有“一發即中” 這回事。你知道我失敗過多少次嗎？上百次。
The only reason I’ve managed to accomplish anything is because I am a firm believer in continuous improvement. If you fail in something, distance from the event for a day or two, because agonizing over the problem will not make it go away (and will make it a lot worse). Read a good book, catch up with some friends you haven’t seen in a long time, or go on a nature hike. You will be able to look at the issue with a fresh perspective. After you have done that, ask yourself: “Why didn’t this work out and how can I do better next time?”
如果說我確實有所成就的話，那也只是因爲我堅信不斷嘗試就會成功。遇到挫折時，你可以暫時把問題放一放，一味糾結不僅無濟於事，有時反倒使情況更糟。先去讀一本好書、見見久未謀面的好友或去戶外騎遊一番；再回頭看待問題，你或許會感到柳暗花明。這樣做後，別忘了多加反省：“爲什麼這個方法會奏效？下次能不能做得更好呢？”
This process very well could repeat itself several times depending on the nature of your goal, but if you keep making a firm commitment to continuously improve yourself, you will develop so much that the only option left is success. Consistent hustle always wins.
看你定的是什麼目標，這種方法可以被反覆有效應用。如果你堅定不移地持續提升自己，最後成功肯定非你莫屬。孜孜不倦向來無敵。
4. The Past Is Already Written
過去已成定局
Have you ever made a mistake so monumental that you wish you could go back in time and do it all over again? Join the club. It’s called being human. I know you might feel immense regret, but beating yourself up over something that is already done serves no purpose. Shift your attention to the present, where you can take control of your life and move forward into a better future.
你以前是不是犯過重大錯誤，以至你真心希望時光倒流、從頭再來？得了吧，你只是普普通通的人而已。或許你悔得腸子都青 了，但盯着過去的事情耿耿於懷又能怎樣呢？還是活在當下，經營好現在的生活，努力創造更好的未來吧。
5. Tomorrow Is Not Guaranteed
明天是不確定的
Steve Jobs said it best, so I’m going to defer to him for this harsh truth:
史蒂夫·喬布斯說得很好，我引申爲下面這個殘酷事實：
“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.”
“因爲意識到自己不久將辭別人世，我竟能更好地做出人生重大抉擇。要知道，所有一切——不論是外界期許、個人驕傲、對窘迫或失敗的恐懼，在死亡面前都顯得毫無意義，唯留下那些真正重要的。”
The next time you catch yourself playing the “I will do it tomorrow” game, remember that tomorrow is not guaranteed. Traffic accidents, heart attacks, and acts of violence do happen. Live in the present and take action today, because that is where progress happens.
下次你再說“明天再做”時，請提醒自己：明天是不確定的。說不定你就會遇到交通事故、心臟病或暴力行爲。所以，活在當下，今天就去行動，這樣才能取得進步。
6. Just Because You’re “Busy” Doesn’t Mean You’re Accomplishing Something
“忙碌”並不代表你完成了什麼事情
If you like to brag about how great you are at multitasking, stop it, because you are only kidding yourself. Changing tasks without rhyme or reason is wasting your productivity, stressing you out, and possibly causing you to make mistakes.
如果你喜歡吹噓自己多麼擅長同時處理多項任務，那還是算了吧，別自欺欺人了。毫無節拍或理由地換任務只會浪費精力、徒增壓力，甚至使你犯錯。
It will probably take you longer to complete two tasks that you are switching back-and-forth between than it would to complete each one separately. If you want to save time, instead of multitasking, try grouping similar tasks together. Have a bunch of e-mails you need to send? Do them all at once.
相比一次只完成一個任務而言，同時反覆處理兩個任務或許要花更多功夫。如果你想節約時間，與其同時處理多個任務，不如嘗試分批處理類似任務。是不是要發多封郵件？那就一次發出去吧。
Have an article or essay you need to write? Get it done before moving onto anything else. Different tasks require different mind-sets, so focus on one thing at a time. Being “busy” does not guarantee that you are doing something useful (it probably just means you are doing a lot of things badly).
有文章或論文要寫？寫好了再做其他事吧。不同任務需要不同的思維狀態，所以，最好一次只專注一件事。“忙忙碌碌”並不表示你在有效做事，或許你只是在焦頭爛額斡旋於多個事情中罷了。
7. You Have More Time Than You Think You Do
時間比你認爲的多
You should eliminate the phrase, “I don’t have the time,” from your vocabulary, because it is profoundly untrue. There are 168 hours every week. Let that sink in for a moment. That is a monumental amount of time. Where could it possibly go? The average person spends 4.09 hours on leisure activities per day according to a survey by the Bureau of Labor Statistics.
你應該把“我沒時間”從你的字典中刪除，因爲這完全不符合事實。一週有168小時，用心想想，這絕對是大把大把的時間啊。這些時間都用來幹嘛了？根據勞動統計局調查顯示，一般人每天要花4.09小時用來娛樂。
Most of that time, 2.8 hours per day, is devoted to the television. I don’t know about you, but I don’t think watching TV does much to help me grow as a person. You could spend that time creating art that adds value to the world, reading books that will help you improve your life, or exercising for a better body and health. The next time you say you “don’t have the time,” change your wording to say “it isn’t a priority.”
其中，每天有2.8小時貢獻給了電視機。我不清楚你怎麼想，但我覺得看電視對個人成長並無益處。有這個時間，還不如搞搞藝術，爲世界創造價值，或閱讀來改善個人生活，或健身塑型保養呢。下次你再說“我沒時間”時，趕緊改口告訴自己“這事兒不是當務之急”。
No time to exercise? Your fitness isn’t a priority. No time to prepare healthy meals at home? Your health isn’t a priority. No time to do something nice for the love of your life? Your relationship isn’t a priority. It’s harsh, but it’s true. How you spend your time is a choice, so spend it wisely.
沒時間運動？健身不是當務之急；沒時間在家做健康飯菜？健康不是當務之急；沒時間爲愛人制造浪漫？伴侶關係不是當務之急。很諷刺，不是？可這也都是現實啊。時間怎麼分配在於你如何選擇，所以，請明智利用時間吧。
