想要背叛愛情的人回頭 你要做些什麼

Betrayal by a loved one is one of the most painful experiences.

被愛人背叛是最痛苦的經歷。

If you're thinking of letting someone who betrayed you back into your life, counselor, David Essel says first you must forgive:

顧問大衛·伊賽爾表示，如果你想讓背叛過你的人重回你的生活，那麼首先你必須原諒他們。

"If you don't do this you're going to mistrust them, you're going to look for problems when maybe there aren't any, the other big problem you run into is that if this relationship doesn't work out and you want to move on and you haven't forgiven them you're going to put the next person you date on the cross."

“如果你做不到的話，你就會不信任他們，即使他們沒有任何問題，你也會到處挑毛病，你會遇到的另一個問題就是，如果這段關係走不下去，你想要繼續前行，你沒有原諒他們，你也會把新的戀人釘在十字架上。”

Step two is to own your role in the dysfunction of the relationship.

第二步就是在這段出現問題的關係中發揮自己的作用。

The third step is to have the betrayer write you an apology letter:

第三步則是讓背叛者給你寫道歉信。

"So in other words if someone says I'm so sorry for cheating on you, I'm so sorry I stole money from you that's not enough. I want them to write down the specific things they did who they did them with and why."

“換句話說，如果有人說，我很抱歉欺騙了你，很抱歉偷了你的錢，這樣是不夠的。我想讓他們寫下他們做的具體的事情，誰和他們一起做的，爲什麼要這樣做。”

"See, that means they're sincere about coming back in and earning back your trust."

“這意味着他們是真誠地想回到你的身邊，重新贏得你的信任。”

Fourth, Essel says if they stole something they must pay you back. If they don't do step three or four- let them go.

伊賽爾稱，第四步，如果他們偷了你的東西，他們必須還回來。如果他們不做第三步或第四步，那就放手讓他們走吧。