職場英語:5招幫你事業有成 婚姻幸福
Operating a successful business is supposed to be a ticket to the good life -- but sometimes it comes at a cost. Stephen Adele was too busy building his $20 million Golden, Colo., nutritional supplements company, iSatori, to spend much time with his wife and three children.
事業成功理應是通向美好生活的入場券——但有時，這是需要付出代價的。史蒂芬•阿黛勒斥資2，000萬美元，在美國科羅拉多州古登市成立了一家名爲iSatori 的營養品公司。他一度因爲太專注於公司經營，未能給妻子和三個孩子足夠的時間。
"I would try to compensate by buying her and my family things," he recalls. The cars and jewelry didn't work, of course, and the couple just got divorced. Adele is now, finally, spending more time with his three daughters. Here's a little advice that might help you avoid matrimonial discord.
“我設法補償他們，給她和家裏買東西，”他回憶道。然而，汽車和珠寶首飾並沒有奏效，他們最終還是離婚了。如今，阿黛勒終於有更多的時間和三個女兒共處了。以下的幾條建議，也許能幫助你避免婚姻危機。
1. Keep a flexible schedule
You may not be able to work less, but you probably have time to take a few items off your spouse's to-do list. Brad Dresbach, co-founder of the Columbus branding and marketing firm 42Fish, tackles such daily errands for his family as picking up birthday cakes -- relieving stress for his wife, Danielle, who has a much more inflexible corporate job.
1． 實行彈性工作制
工作量也許無法減少，但替妻子分擔幾項家務活的時間或許還是有的。哥倫布品牌與營銷公司42Fish的合夥創始人佈雷德•德雷斯巴奇就就是這麼做的。妻子丹妮爾在一家公司上班，工作時間沒那麼靈活，佈雷德就承擔起取生日蛋糕之類的家務事。這樣一來，丹妮爾的壓力就可以得到一些緩解了。
2. Ration e-mail time
When you're home, be present. Jeff Booth, CEO of BuildDirect, a 63-employee building materials retailer, has a wife, Kelly, who posts what a great dad he is on Facebook, though he spends 60 hours a week working. He attributes that to shutting off his phone as soon as he gets home so he can enjoy activities with her and their children-- instead of checking e-mail poolside.
2．合理安排處理郵件的時間
在家時，就專心陪伴家人。傑夫•布思是建材零售企業BuildDirect的首席執行官，該公司共有63名員工。儘管他每週工作時間多達60小時，但是他的妻子凱麗在Facebook上發貼，稱讚他是一位偉大的父親。他說，這是因爲他一回家，就把手機關機，這樣他就能和妻子和孩子一起享受家庭聚會——而不是在游泳池邊查收郵件。
3. Hold family summits
D.J. Rezak, founder of KB Building Services, a commercial cleaning company in Omaha, credits weekly meetings with keeping the family organized and freeing up time for him to spend with his wife, Lisa. The family pauses during Sunday dinners to talk about the week, discuss upcoming plans, and hold an occasional talent show. "It makes it feel like our family is a priority," says Lisa.
3．召開家庭會議
KB樓宇服務公司（KB Building Services）是位於美國奧馬哈的一家商業清潔公司，其創始人D.J.瑞扎克說，每週會議可以讓家庭關係更密切，也使他有時間與妻子麗莎共處。他們會在週日晚餐時共同談論本週發生的事情，討論未來的計劃，偶爾還會舉辦才藝秀。“這讓我覺得家庭是頭等大事，”麗莎表示。
4. Share your interests
It's easy to get so caught up in your own thing that you ignore your partner's pursuits. Razor Suleman, CEO of I Love Rewards, a Boston rewards and recognition business with $50 million in sales, tries to avoid that mistake. He joined his wife, Kari, a web developer, at a summit she needed to go to for work. "It was amazing that Razor took an interest in an event that I was excited to attend," she says. "It sparked a dialogue we would not have had otherwise."
4．分享你的興趣
因爲過度關注自己手頭的事情，而忽略了對方的興趣所在，這是很多人都容易犯的毛病。位於美國波士頓的我愛獎勵公司（I Love Rewards）是一家員工獎勵服務公司，銷售額爲5，000萬美元。公司的首席執行官瑞勒•蘇萊曼便是成功避免這個問題的典範。妻子卡麗是網頁開發工程師，當她因工作需要必須參加會議時，瑞勒便會陪同前往。卡麗說：“瑞勒對我喜歡參加的活動也感興趣，這真讓人開心。否則，我們就缺少了這樣的對話機會。”
5. Schedule regular vacations
Brad Feld, founder of VC firm Foundry Group, started scheduling regular vacations after his wife, Amy Batchelor, almost dumped him for working during an entire weekend trip. They now have one-week vacations each quarter -- known as their "Qx vacation." The ground rules? He unplugs completely, giving her his smartphone. "She gives it back the following week," he says. Colleagues work around it, and Feld stays married.
5．定期安排假期
布拉德•菲爾德是風險投資公司Foundry集團的創始人，有一次週末旅行時，他全程只顧工作，他的妻子艾米•巴切勒差點兒和他鬧離婚。現在，他們每個季度都會安排爲期一週的假期，他們稱之爲“季度假期”。而作爲“季度假期”基本規則，他必須把智能手機交給妻子，並與工作完全隔離。他說道：“她會在下一週把手機還給我。”現在，他的同事也紛紛效仿，而菲爾德則與妻子和好如初。
