停止抱怨，快樂生活

Research shows that habitual complaining affects us mentally, emotionally, and physically. Such behavior may cause or worsen stress, sapping our energy and desire to pursue our dreams.
研究表明，習慣性抱怨會從心理上、情感上和生理上影響我們。這種行爲會引起和導致壓力惡化，削弱我們追求夢想的精力和慾望。

Above all that, it just doesn't feel good to complain, or hear complaints. They're negative by nature and they don't help resolve the situation you wish were different. Complaining can also keep you from being a likable person.
最重要的是，抱怨或者聽到抱怨聲，這種感覺並不好。他們本質上是消極的，並不能幫助你解決問題，就算你希望他們是不同的。並且，抱怨會讓你成爲一個不討喜的人。

If you want to start attracting and creating the success you desire, you'll want to stop complaining. Here are seven ways to break the habit of complaining, backed by science.
如果你想開始吸引和創造你想要的成功，你就會想停止抱怨。這裏有科學支持的七種方法來擺脫抱怨的習慣。

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1.大笑

Research from Loma Linda University in California reveals that the simple act of laughter increases endorphins and sends mood-lifting dopamine to the brain. This hormone also has the power to lower stress levels by helping us process emotional responses and experience pleasure.
加利福尼亞洛馬林達大學的研究表明，大笑這一簡單行爲可以增加內啡肽，向大腦傳遞提升心情的多巴胺。通過幫助我們處理情緒反應和體驗快感，這種激素也可以降低壓力水平。

This solution is pretty simple: Bring more laughter into your life. As Law of Attraction advocate Steve Harvey says, "Laughter attracts joy and releases negativity." If you allow more joy and laughter in your life, you won't feel the pains and stresses as much. You won't focus on them.
這個方法很簡單：就是給你的生活帶來更多的笑聲。正如“吸引力法則”提倡者史蒂夫·哈維所說：“笑聲吸引歡樂，釋放消極情緒。” 如果你在生活中擁有更多的歡樂和笑聲，你就不會感到痛苦和壓力。你不會專注於他們。

Whether it's funny TV shows, comedy podcasts, or time with friends and family, there are more ways than ever to get laughing.
無論是有趣的電視節目，喜劇播客，或與朋友和家人相處的時間，有更多的方式能讓我們大笑。

the "Rubber Band Technique"
2.試試“橡皮筋技術”

We've all heard the story of Ivan Pavlov, the Russian physiologist who discovered that any activity or object he associated with food--yes, his famous bell!--would trigger the same salivation response in his dogs. What did he really discover? The power of conditioning.
我們都聽說過俄羅斯生理學家伊萬·巴甫洛夫的故事，他發現任何與食物有關的活動或物品——是的，他著名的鐘——都會在狗身上引發相同的唾液反應。他真正發現了什麼呢？調節的力量。

You can apply this same principle to stop complaining. Put a rubber band around your wrist. When you complain about something, think about the complaint while you pull the rubber band back. Then release it so it stings the inside of your wrist.
你可以運用同樣的原理來阻止抱怨。在你的手腕上戴一個橡皮筋。 當你抱怨一些東西時，就邊拉起橡皮筋邊想想你的抱怨，然後釋放它，讓它彈在你手腕的內側。

This simple action serves as a physical and mental reminder that you're complaining, and to reinforce the negativity around the action. It works by bringing subconscious acts into your daily consciousness. I did this when I wanted to stop my own complaining, and it worked.
這個簡單的動作可以作爲一種身心上的提醒，你在抱怨時就加強動作周圍的消極性。它的工作原理是將潛意識的行爲引入你的日常意識。這樣做的話，當我想阻止自己抱怨時便會起作用。

through the lens of gratitude
3. 透過感激的視角

We tend to complain when we focus on the negative, not the positive. Keep a gratitude journal and write down three things you're grateful for each night. This habit will help you see your life through the lens of gratitude, and not lack. As a result, you'll simply see fewer things that prompt you to complain in the first place. Some schools of thought believe we can change our brain chemistry this way, and this process will help rewire you to see the positive.
當我們專注於負面情緒，而不是積極情緒時，我們常常會抱怨。 保持一顆感恩的心，每晚寫下你感恩的三件事。這個習慣將幫助你從感激的視角看到你的生活，而不是缺乏感恩之心。結果，你只會看到首先讓你抱怨的那點事情。有些學派認爲我們可以通過這種方式改變我們的腦化學，這個過程將有助於你看到積極的一面。

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4. 審視人際關係

Author and motivational speaker Jim Rohn says it best: "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." When trying to stop a bad habit, it helps to surround yourself with people--inspirational speakers or leaders, mentors, family and friends--who embody the same behaviors and discipline you want to live by.
作家和勵志演說家吉姆·羅恩說得好：“你就是你身邊五個朋友的平均水平。”在試圖擺脫一個壞習慣時，有助於你被演講大師或領導，導師，家人和朋友包圍着，他們表達了和你相同的賴以生存的行爲法則。

Consider the power of your closest ties by examining how your relationships make you feel and behave. Take steps to end any toxic relationships, and invite more positive people into your inner circle and life.
通過檢查人際關係是如何影響你的感覺和行爲，來仔細考慮下你最親密關係的力量。然後採取措施結束一切有害的關係，並邀請更多積極向上的人進入你的親密圈和生活。

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5. 冥想

Matthieu Ricard, a trained biochemist turned Buddhist monk, suggests we can train our minds to generate an ongoing sense of serenity and fulfillment through meditation. He cites brain plasticity, which is the ability of repetition and reinforcement to alter our synaptic connections.
馬蒂厄·理查德是一位訓練有素的生物化學家，也是一名佛教僧侶。他建議，我們可以訓練我們的思想，通過冥想產生持續的寧靜和滿足感。他提出大腦具有可塑性，能夠通過重複和加強改變我們的突觸連接。

I credit my regular meditation practice with raising my baseline for awareness and serenity, and lowering my baseline for stress and anxiety. After a few weeks of practicing meditation, I became more grounded and small things didn't bother me as much.
我相信，有規律的冥想練習可以提高意識和寧靜的基準，降低壓力和焦慮的基準。經過幾個星期的冥想練習，我變得更加理智，一些小事情不會再煩擾到我。

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6. 獲取更多睡眠

Studies show that getting more sleep helps us to be happier and more positive, while also building the mental acuity needed to stay focused. How much sleep do adults need? Research suggests between seven and nine hours nightly.
研究表明，得到更多的睡眠有助於我們更快樂、更積極，同時還能建立所需的精神敏銳度來保持專注。成人需要多少睡眠呢？研究顯示每晚需要七到九個小時。

cise out the stress
7. 通過體育鍛煉排解壓力

There are few better ways to counter negativity than by getting your blood flowing and releasing endorphins through exercise. According to the Mayo Clinic, exercise has been shown to reduce stress and ward off feelings of anxiety or depression, which can lead to chronic complaining.
應對消極性，沒有比通過運動讓你的血液流動和釋放內啡肽更好的方法了。據梅約診所指出，運動已被證明可以減少壓力，阻止焦慮或抑鬱的感覺，而這種感覺可能導致習慣性抱怨。

Putting it all together
綜上所述
Complaining is a negative behavior that affects our happiness, attitude, and ability to perform. Learn from what science teaches us about this bad mental habit--and how to bring more positive practices into your life starting today.
抱怨是一種負面行爲，它會影響我們的幸福，態度和執行能力。 關於這種糟糕的心理習慣，我們應該瞭解科學教導了我們什麼，以及從今天開始如何爲你的生活帶來更多積極的做法。