怎樣才能同時擁有愛情與麪包?

No one ever said it was easy to manage a career. Throw a relationship into the mix and you’ve got career suicide, right? Wrong. Just because you have a strong relationship, it doesn’t mean your occupational goals have to suffer. In fact, it’s quite the opposite!
每個人都不得不承認經營事業很不容易。如果把關係混爲一談了，你的工作就岌岌可危了，對嗎？錯！熱戀並不意味着你要犧牲你的職業目標。事實恰恰相反！

Extensive research on the subject of relationships and careers shows that people in Successful relationships not only make more money, they’re healthier, live longer, and get more promotions than singles do. So how can you juggle your relationship and your career?
關於愛情和職業關係的大量研究表明有着成功的人際關係的人不但可以賺到更多的錢，他們身體更健康，壽命更長。相比單身而言，他們可以得到更多的升職機會。所以你怎麼來處理你的愛情和你的工作關係呢？

We’ve got the five tips that’ll keep your work and love life harmonious and keep YOU sane!
下面提供五個小竅門來保證讓你工作愛情兩不誤，讓你保持清醒！

1. Prioritize. It’s a fact: Sometimes life forces us to put more weight on one thing than on another. Sometimes this priority shift means you have to forgo one goal in exchange for another; for example, you might have to tone down your professional aspirations in return for a strong relationship. But you shouldn’t have to sacrifice one aspect of your life for another. After all, what’s the fun of a promotion if you don’t have someone to share it with?
優先順序：事實上，我們有時會被生活所迫把精力更多的放到一方面。有時，這個優先順序的改變意味着你需要放棄一個目標來成全另一個目標；例如：你可能要降低你的職業理想以換取愛情。但是你不應該犧牲你生活中的一方面來成全另一方面。畢竟，如果沒人分享升職的樂趣，還有什麼意思？

The good news is that just because you set priorities, you don’t have to sacrifice. It means you have to adjust. If you build a strong foundation for both your romantic and work life, you can prevent disruption when priorities shift.
好消息是你不必爲了你建立的優先順序去犧牲你自己。這意味着你要調整自己。如果你工作生活兩方面基礎都做得很好，當優先順序發生變化時，你就可以避免混亂。

Step one: Make sure that both your significant other and your coworkers know that they’re significant parts of your life. When both understand that they are mutually valuable, your partner will understand that when you stay late at the office, it doesn’t mean that you’d rather be at work. And when you take a personal day, your coworkers will understand that it doesn’t mean you don’t care about your job.
第一步：要確保你的同事和你的家人都清楚他們在你生活中起着舉足輕重的作用。這樣當他們明白兩者同樣重要時，當你在單位加班到深夜時，你的另一半會理解你，明白這樣不意味着你只愛工作。當你因私事請假時，你的工作夥伴們也會理解你這樣做不意味着你不關心你的工作。

Communicate that both your job and your relationship are of high priority and sometimes, as need be, one might take precedence.
把你工作和你愛情的關係的重要性溝通到。他們同等重要，但是特殊情況時，可能有時一者會高於另一者。

2. Compartmentalize. To have a successful career and a loving relationship is to have the best of both worlds. What’s the best way to keep those two separate worlds happy? Just that—keep them separate! That means that when you’re at work, commit fully to your job, the task at hand, and the needs of your coworkers or managers. Don’t let your love life be a distraction. There’s plenty of time to daydream outside the office. Instead, spend your workday being productive and you’ll have more quality time to spend with your beloved after work.
區別對待:職業成功，愛情和睦都是爲了享受這兩個世界。使兩個不同的世界相得益彰的好辦法是什麼呢？方法就是——讓他們獨立存在！那樣意味着當你工作時，全心全意工作，完成手頭的任務和經理及同事們的要求。不要讓你的愛情分散你的注意力。辦公室之外你有足夠的時間做白日夢。相反，工作時間效率高的話，下班後你會有更多的時間跟你的愛人一起度過。

Likewise, when you spend quality time with your significant other, don’t let work distract your attention. Put away your BlackBerry, stop talking about your next big proposal, and halt all conversations about your gossipy coworker. Instead, discuss topics you as a couple both enjoy. On the plus side, you’ll find that occasionally disconnecting (fully) from work will make you more productive when you return to the office.
同樣的，當你跟你的家人過得很愉快時，不要讓工作分散你的注意力。把你的黑莓放到一邊，不要再討論你下個大的方案，也不要再討論你的那些八卦同事。取而代之的是，討論一些情侶共同喜歡的話題。從好的方面說，你將會發現偶爾從工作中抽身出來之後，當你重返公司時工作效率更高。

3. Manage Your Time. The number one factor in job loss and relationship breakdown is lack of time and dedication. Successful professionals who are in relationships know these things can be avoided with a little forethought and planning. If your career demands that you work long hours at the end of the month, plan a weekend getaway with your guy the week before so you can share time before your required separation. After a vacation or break from work, come back to the office energized and eager to get back to your job. Show your boss that even though you value your relationship and personal life, you are similarly devoted to your professional success.
管理你的時間：失業和關係破裂的首要原因是付出的感情和時間太少。戀愛中的成功的專業人員清楚其實只需要一點預見性和計劃，這些都是可以避免的。如果你的職業需要你在月底的時候長時間加班，那就和你的男朋友提早做週末出行的打算。這樣在你必須分開之前你就可以和你的男朋友共度良宵了。在休假或短暫的休息之後，你就可以精神奕奕的重返你的工作崗位。用實際行動告訴你的老闆，即使你很看重你的關係和你的個人生活，你同樣也可以爲工作的成功做出犧牲。

4. Stay Connected. Social networking exists for a reason—to reach out and touch people. It’s unavoidable that you spend time at the office, but it’s avoidable that the fact you have a job ruins your relationship.. The fix? Take five minutes each day to send a quick private message to your significant other, write on his Facebook wall—heck, even send a quick email to let him know you’re thinking of him. But please, this shouldn’t be a novel, nor should you share in a monumentally long IM chat every hour. Remember, you’re at work … you should be working! Just a quick two-liner about how special he is will do just fine.
保持聯繫：公共網絡存在的理由是爲了人們之間互相聯繫。你在辦公室不可避免的要花費時間，但是工作可能會影響愛情關係的事實是可以避免的。怎麼彌補呢？每天花上五分鐘來給你的愛人發一個親密的短信，在他的facebook牆上留言，甚至也可以發送一個簡短的電子郵件來讓他知道你想他。但是，不要寫成小說哦，也不要每個小時都長時間聊。切記，你在工作……你也應該要工作！只要一兩句來表達他多特別就可以了。

5. Know When to Quit. We’ll be the first to admit that quitting gets a bad wrap. But knowing when something or someone isn’t good for you and taking yourself out of that situation is sometimes the right thing.
知道何時抽身：我們首先要承認退出會得到不好的結果。但是當明白一些事或人對你不好時，應該知道擺脫這種局面纔是正確的。

The lesson: Be mindful of just how much time you’re investing in your relationship or your career. If your late work hours are preventing you from taking part in the things you love (e.g., your relationship), it may be time to reevaluate your job and career aspirations. Meet with your boss to establish a more efficient work. Similarly, if your significant other is not considerate of your career or life goals and continually gives you grief about not spending enough time with him, it may just be time to quit him.
結論：注意你在愛情和工作中付出了多少時間。如果你總是熬夜加班，不能參加你喜歡的活動，比方說你的愛情，可能是時候來重新衡量你的工作和職業目標。跟你的老闆談談，讓工作更加有效率。類似的，如果你的愛人對你生活或工作的目標不理解，不斷埋怨你沒有花足夠的時間陪他，可能也是時候離開他了。

Just remember, successful people know that balance is the spice of life. And no matter how well you manage your time, sometimes your life will be more focused on one area than on another. Just be sure to assess your goals from time to time, evaluate where you are and where you want to be, and plan accordingly.
記住：成功人士知道平衡是生活的調味品。不管你怎樣管理你的時間，有時你的生活還是會側重某一方面。要經常衡量一下你的目標，權衡一下你在什麼位置，你要怎麼樣，並相應的做出計劃。

You can have it all! You just have to work it, girl!
愛情和麪包你可以兼得！你只要去實現它就行了！