家長必讀 確保孩子安全的七大祕籍(下)

5. FIND A MOTHER WITH KIDS IF IN DANGER AND ALONE

5.如果獨自一人有危險，找一個帶着孩子的媽媽

If your child is feeling lost or unsafe, there is no guarantee that there will be a friendly shop owner or police officer around to help.

如果你們孩子覺得自己迷路了或者有危險，附近不一定總會有友善的店主或者是警察幫忙。

That's why you should tell your children to find a mother with her children if they can.

因此你需要告訴你的孩子：如果可以的話，找一個帶着孩子的媽媽。

This is not to say that people with children are automatically safe, but this option might just help in a stressful situation.

這並不意味着帶着孩子的人一定安全，但是這個選擇在比較危險的情形下或許會有所幫助。

6. warN OTHERS IF YOU ARE IN DANGER

6.如果處於危險之中，警告他人

This tip is particularly useful as we often pass children having tantrums in adult's arms. In fact, we've seen it so many times, a lot of us have become immune to it.

這個小貼士尤其有用，因爲我們經常看到一些在大人懷裏發脾氣的小孩。實際上，我們已經看過太多次這樣的場景以至於有些人會對其免疫。

However, teaching your child to scream out words that would alarm others can be very useful if they ever end up in a dangerous situation.

然而，如果你的孩子處於危險之中，教他們大聲喊出來一些可以警告他人的話會十分有用。

Phrases such as 'Who are you?', 'Help!', 'Leave me alone, I don't know you!' and 'Where's my mum and dad?' will all arouse suspicion and alert others to the danger.

像“你是誰？”、“救命！”、“走開，我不認識你！”和“我爸媽在哪兒？”這些話都能引起他人的懷疑，並且警戒他人自己有危險。

7. FIGHTING BACK MIGHT BE NECESSARY

7.抵抗是必要的

Lastly, you need to teach your children to be destructive in order to draw attention.

最後，你需要教你的孩子爲了吸引他人注意而破壞一些東西。

If a stranger tries to take them, tell them that all manners are out of the window - and they are allowed to hit, scream and make a scene in order to attract attention.

如果一個陌生人試圖帶走他們，告訴他們這時候所有的禮儀都不需要了，他們可以打別人、尖叫、當衆大吵大鬧來吸引注意。

Natasha Daniels at Anxious Toddlers admits the 'chances are small' of your child being in such a perilous situation, but insists it's important to make sure they are alert.

Anxious Toddlers的娜塔莎-丹尼爾斯承認你的孩子置於此種危險的情況機率很小，但是她堅稱確保孩子們能保持機警是很重要的。

She writes: 'What I can teach my kids in 30 minutes might make the difference between life and death.

她寫道：在30分鐘內我教給我孩子的東西可能會改變生死。

And for that – it’s worth it.'

因此，這很值得。

A spokesman for child protection charity NSPCC said: ‘Going out without a parent is a natural step for children to take when the time is right, so it’s crucial they feel prepared and confident.

英國全國防止虐待兒童學會(NSPCC)的發言人稱：時機成熟時，沒有家長陪同出門對於孩子來說是一個自然的步驟。所以他們感覺準備好了並且有自信是很重要的。

'Whilst it’s true that most child abuse is committed by someone they know and although abuse by strangers is very rare, the risk is still there.

儘管大多兒童虐待是孩子的親近之人作爲，而陌生人的虐待十分少見，但危險還是存在的。

'When giving advice parents should not unnecessarily frighten a child.

在給孩子建議的時候，家長不要去嚇孩子。

They should put the potential dangers in perspective otherwise it could inadvertently cause a child to feel anxious.

他們應該如實地描述潛在的危險，不然會在無意中讓孩子感到焦慮。

HOW TO MAKE SURE YOUR CHILD IS SAFE - NSPCC CHECKLIST

如何確認你的孩子是安全的—NSPCC清單

• Address the risks by talking to your child early on about staying safe.

•早些和孩子談到獨處時的安全問題，列出可能的危險。

Ask them what they would do if they were approached by a stranger.

問孩子如果一個陌生人接近他們，他們會怎麼做。

• As soon as your child is able to understand, teach them their full name, address and two family phone numbers.

•當孩子開始有理解能力後，教他們全名，家庭地址以及兩個家庭電話號碼。

• Teach your child never to go off with anyone, not even someone they know, unless they’re able to contact you to check it’s OK.

•教你的孩子永遠不要私自和別人一起離開，即使那個人是他們認識的人。只有在他們聯繫你，確認之後纔可以。

• Set boundaries by being clear about any places you don’t want your child to go. Be willing to explain your decision so that your child understands your concerns.

•清楚地告訴他們你不想讓他們去的地方並且樂於解釋爲什麼你不想讓他們去這些地方，這樣他們才能理解你的擔憂。

• If they feel uncomfortable or scared at any point tell them that they can ring you at any time.

•無論何時，如果他們感到不舒服或者害怕，告訴他們隨時打電話給你。

If they can’t get reach you, advise them to approach someone in authority – whether that be a policeman, a shop assistant, a traffic warden, or someone similar, and explain that they are lost.

如果他們聯繫不上你，建議他們尋求權威人士的幫助—無論是警察、店員、交通管理員或者是類似的人，然後解釋說自己迷路了。

• Do a trial run to help build their confidence.

•通過場景模擬來建立信心。

Let your child take the lead when you’re out together and only correct them if they do something that puts them at risk.'

當你們一起出去的時候，讓你的孩子做主導，只需要在他們做了一些會將他們置於險境的事情時糾正一下。