我是個缺乏安全感的人 怎麼辦
You can’t just stop worrying. Worrying has been a huge positive in my life.
你不可能停止擔憂。擔憂其實可以給生活中帶來些積極的東西。There is lots of evidence that worriers are better prepared for life’s chAllenges and so tend to do better in the long run. I wouldn’t give it up at all.
許多證據證明擔心是爲了更好地迎接生命中的挑戰,而且長期來說是積極地。我是不會完全不擔心的。But, it is possible to live better with worry. Mediation and mindfulness (tons of articles and books on how), even for just 10 minutes a day, makes a huge difference. There you learn to worry without fear for one thing.
但是,和擔憂和平相處也是可以的。冥想和專注(就像現在讀書讀報一樣),哪怕只是一天堅持10分鐘,也會有巨大的改變。這樣讓你慢慢不再害怕擔憂某件事情。
Estimates I’ve seen of personality types suggests there might be about 10% of the population that does what we do. That seven hundred million people on the planet presently. You’re in good company.
也許根據個性類型來說,10%的人和我們一樣。地球上有7億人。其實有很多人在陪着你呢。Keep on telling this to yourself. I read this quote somewhere and kept it saved on my phone to remind myself - 'Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but, takes you nowhere.’
一直對自己說。我讀到了這計劃,一直存在手機裏提醒自己-“擔憂是一個搖椅。它會對你產生影響,但是它永遠都在原地。”Divert your mind
轉移注意力Detach yourself from the chain of thoughts that worry you. Go out. Do something. Keep yourself busy.
把你的想法從那些讓你擔憂的事情分離出來。出去走走。做點事情。讓你自己忙起來。Talk it out
說出來This works for a lot of people. Talk to somebody who really understands you. If they are unavailable, get online. There are many anxiety forums where people are there to listen.
這一招對很多人有用。和真正懂你的人說。如果他們沒時間,就上網。網上有很多論壇裏的人可以聽你傾訴。Take a break from your schedule
在你的時間表在外休息一下Get a holiday with your family, your friends or just tour a new city alone. You will return rejuvenated.
和你的家人,朋友去度假,或者只是在一個新的城市自己旅行。回來的時候你會煥發全新的激情。Write a journal
寫日記I experienced that writing your worries gives better clarity, reduces the convolution in your head and decreases the frequency of worrisome thoughts.
我經歷過,寫下憂慮讓你更清楚自己的狀態,減輕心理負擔,減少心煩意亂的情況。Watch something motivating
看點積極地東西A good Ted talk, inspiring movie, or video sometimes gives us the confidence and courage to do something, moving past our worries.
一個好的TED演講,鼓舞人心的電影或者視頻,有時候會讓我們做事的時候更加自信,更受鼓舞,來幫助我們走出憂慮。All in all, don't take life that seriously. Remember that you have only one life to live. It's almost no use wasting it over a lot of things we worry about. Breathe. It will get better.
總之,不要把生活太當回事。記住你只能活一輩子。浪費時間去擔心很多事情是幾乎完全沒用的。深呼吸。一切都會更好的。