保持戀愛激情的祕決大綱

TRY THE TWO-MINUTE RULE

嘗試"兩分鐘規則"

"Basically, anything can wait for two minutes. You have to PEe? Got dinner cooking on the stove? Need to make an important phone call? Everything in life can wait for two minutes if it means making your spouse feel loved. So, when one of us calls for two minutes the other person has to stop whatever they are doing and we go find a place to alone together. For those two minutes you are not allowed to check a cell phone, answer a child, think of other tasks you need to do. At the end of the two minutes, either person has the right to say they need to get back to what they were doing and the other person can't be sad. We've been using this rule for over 10 years now and it's my favorite thing. Even our children know that when mom and daddy are having two minutes they cannot bug us."

"基本上，任何事情都可以再等2分鐘。你想要上廁所？爐子上還燒着飯？需要打個重要電話？如果你需要讓另一半感到被愛，那世上的任何事都可以等2分鐘再去做。所以，如果我們當中的一個人要求有兩分鐘的時間，另一半就必須停下手上的事，然後我們會找一個地方獨處。在這兩分鐘內，你不許看手機、孩子叫你你也不許答應、也不許想還有哪些工作要做。兩分鐘到後，任何一方都有權說他們需要做剛剛丟下的事情，而另一方不得感到難過。這個規則我們已經用了10年，這是我最喜歡做的事情。我們的孩子都知道，爸爸媽媽在一起的那兩分鐘是連他們都不能打擾的。"

VOLUNTEER TOGETHER

一起做志願者

"Volunteering together keeps the spark alive in our relationship by connecting us to something bigger than our own problems. We don't have a perfect relationship, but we have a really great one. And nothing is sexier than seeing him help someone in need."

"一起做志願者能讓我們心意相通，思考比矛盾更重要的事情，這樣能使我們的戀愛保鮮。我們的戀情並不完美，但戀愛時真的很棒。沒有什麼比看到他幫助需要幫助的人更性感的事情了。"

WHISPER SWEET NOTHINGS

輕聲耳語，述說情話

"We decided early on is that we would never ever put each other down or say anything negative about the other one in front of others. We've made it a practice to only say supportive and kind things to each other in public and save disagreements for when we're alone. And even then we make sure to keep it civil. It's worked for us for 26 years."

"我們很早就決定：我們永遠都不會讓對方失望，也不會在其他人面前說對方不好的事情。我們養成了習慣，在公衆面前只說對方積極的好事，只有當我們在一起的時候纔會說出自己的不同意見。即使意見不一，我們都還是禮貌的交談。這個方法在過去的26年都十分有效。"

WATCH THE SAME SHOWS TOGETHER

看同一部電視劇

"We've always liked to watch TV shows and movies together, but it was hard when one of us was traveling. So we decided to watch our show together on the phone (or FaceTime). We stay caught up with our shows and each other."

"我們總喜歡一起看電視劇、電影，但當我們中有人出去旅遊時，這事就有點困難了。所以我們決定在手機上一起看劇（或用FaceTime一起看）。這樣既能一起追劇，又能使感情升溫。"

USE TECHNOLOGY TO SPICE THINGS UP

用科技增添情趣

"When my husband was deployed to Afghanistan we used Skype not just to talk but to keep the romance alive. Because you can see each other, Skype feels so much more real than just talking on the phone or texting. "

"當丈夫被派到阿富汗的時候，我們就用Skype聊天，使我們的愛情繼續保鮮。因爲你能夠看到彼此，用Skype視頻可比打電話或發短信真實多了。"