雙語閱讀：自我提升自信的五個建議

自信需要自我提升，下面幾個小貼士，各位MM接好了：

　　Make eye contact /保持目光接觸

As well as smiling, meet the eyes of other people in the room. Give them your smile; you’ll almost certainly get one back, and being smiled at is a great self-confidence boost. Like smiling, eye contact shows people that you’re confident. Staring at your shoes or at the table reinforces your feelings of self-doubt and shyness. This tip is particularly useful for work-related situations – make eye contact with interviewers, or with the audience for your presentation:

Eye contact helps take the fear away from the speaker by getting the audience closer to him. Stress is mainly a result of being with the unknown and uncontrollable. Eye contact gives the speaker a picture of the reality that is the audience. It also helps in getting the attention of the audience.

像保持微笑一樣，也要保持與室內每個人都有目光接觸。要先對他人微笑，這樣至少會有一人迴應你的微笑，這樣的迴應就會大大激 發你的自信。微笑與目光接觸都同樣表明你非常自信。相反，一味地盯着自己的鞋子或桌腳則會讓你顯得更加猶豫不決甚至羞於開口。這一條建議在工作場合相當實 用--求職者要與面試官保持目光接觸，演講者則要與你的聽衆保持目光接觸。

如何提升自信

保持目光接觸可以拉近聽衆與演講者之間的距離從而使其擺脫緊張及恐懼。而緊張及恐懼則往往是由於演講者面對素不相識之人或無法掌控之勢而產生的。目光的接觸則可以爲演講者提供真實的情形--那就是聽衆。同時，目光的接觸還有益於吸引觀衆注意力。

　　Find the next step/步步爲營

Keep your self-confidence up by taking gradual steps forwards, rather than freezing when faced with what seems like a giant leap. If you’re not sure what to do, look for one simple step that you can take to make progress. That might mean making eye contact at a party, introducing yourself to a stranger, breaking the ice in a meeting, or asking a question of your interviewers that shows your knowledge of their industry and company.

Start taking action even if you don’t have a clear idea of what needs to be done. Start moving towards your goal. Make corrections later.

步步爲營來增強自信要遠勝于飛躍時期的停滯不前。如果所處情況讓你無所適從，不妨從簡單做起--可能是聚會上與別人一個簡單的眼神接觸、把自己介紹給一個陌生人、打破會議僵局，或者是問面試官一個能夠顯示你瞭解他們行業及公司問題。

在茫然無措之時就開始有所行動，開始朝着自己的目標前進，即使有錯，以後更正也不晚。

　　Make the most of your appearance / 注重儀表

Even if you’ve only got a minute or two, duck into the bathroom to make sure you’re looking your best. Brushing your hair, giving your face a good wash, retouching your makeup, straightening your collar, checking you’ve not got a bit of parsley stuck between your teeth … all of these can make the difference between feeling confident in your physical appearance and feeling anxious about an imagined flaw.

Perfect your physical appearance: There’s no denying that one’s grooming plays a crucial role in building confidence. Although we know what’s on the inside is what truly counts, your physical appearance will be the first to create an impression.

哪怕只有一兩分鐘的時間，也要衝進盥洗室裏進行梳妝，以確保自己儀表最佳。梳梳頭、洗洗臉、補補妝、拉拉衣領，檢查一下是否有香芹殘存在自己的牙縫中......這些簡單動作都將消除我們對臆想缺陷的憂慮，而使自己在衣着容貌上看起來更加自信。

優化儀態儀表：毫無疑問，衣着打扮在建立自信的過程中起着決定性作用。儘管人人都知道內在美是至關重要的，但是也無可否認外在衣着打扮是第一印象的決定因素。

　　Contribute something/積極主動開口

Have you ever sat through an entire class at college or meeting at work without saying a word? Have you had an evening out where friends chatted happily while you sat and stared silently at your drink? Chances are, you weren’t feeling very self-confident at the time – and you probably felt even worse afterwards. Whatever the situation you’re in, make an effort to contribute. Even if you don’t think you have much to say, your thoughts and perspective are valuable to those around you.

By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.

你是否曾經在大學課堂或者工作會議上乾坐着一言不發?你是否曾經在朋友晚上聚會興高采烈的時刻而獨自盯着自己的飲料發呆?肯定有，那時那地，你感覺到非常 不自信--甚至事後會感覺更糟。從現在開始，不管處於哪種場合，試着主動一些吧。即使你覺得自己無話可說，但是說出來，你的觀點與看法將使你周圍的人獲益 匪淺呢。

如果每次小組討論之時至少有一次能夠大聲表達自己的觀點，那麼你就會成爲一個好的公衆演說家，你的自信也會因此而增加，同時也會被你的同儕尊爲團隊領導。

　　相關閱讀：Increasing Confidence增強你的自信心

by Robert Stuberg

The world is changing rapidly and most people are very anxious about it. In fact, I think it mighteven be stronger and more accurate to say that most people are downright fearful of whatthey see going on around them.

Technological change and innovation are completely altering many aspects of our lives and itdoesn’t stop there. Economic changes, social changes, scientific changes, political changes…the list is endless. However, the big question we all face is how are we going to respond tothese changes?

While the specific answers about what to do take time and thought to uncover, the best wayto approach the future and all of the changes it will bring can be summed up in one word:Confidence.

Personal confidence is one of the greatest assets we all possess. Certainly some people seemto have much more of it than others but I believe that confidence is a skill that we can alldevelop. In some ways, it is undoubtedly the most important skill we can develop.

With confidence, all things are within the realm of possibility. Without confidence, even thesmallest challenges seem insurmountable.

What I find fascinating is that people with confidence always seem to end up on top. Theyseem to overcome the obstacles that stand in their way. It’s as if problems and challenges runfrom the person who has confidence.

I think what’s so difficult for most people is the belief that confidence has to be based onhaving a specific solution at hand but that’s just not true.

What we all respect and admire is the person who can stand up against overwhelmingdifficulties and persevere without an answer.

Here’s the secret that most people never get. Life’s challenges are no match for the person withunstoppable confidence. While the problems or challenges might seem too big to beovercome, the person with confidence always finds a way to win regardless of thecircumstances.

Ultimately, life’s challenges run and hide from the person that maintains confidence.

This is hard lesson to learn. The problems of life seem so big and scary and we often think ofourselves as so small and fragile. But that’s not the way it is. That’s the illusion that mostpeople by into, but it’s not the truth.

The truth is that we are bigger than anything that can ever happen to us in life. We have thepower and ability to overcome any obstacle in our path. And the most important tool wepossess is personal confidence, believing in your ability to overcome the current challengejust like we have done so many times in the past.

Whatever challenge is currently in your life, know that it’s there to help you grow and the problems you encounter to help you build your personal confidence. Remember, youwouldn’t have the problem if you didn’t have the power to overcome it. Expanding yourpersonal confidence will allow you to take on whatever you need to in order to fulfill yourpersonal mission.